Angry dreams about beating my abusive dead father.

[rammy]

    I thought I forgave and let go of my dad's mistakes while he was alive. I mean after he had gone above and beyond more than once to protect me from negative consequences of my destructive horrible behavior I became a much better and more forgiving person. We repaired our relationship. I want to honor his memory with love not hate him no matter what he did to me and my mother in the past. I was there by his side all the way while he was on his death bed while he took 9 months to finally die in front of me. I have a special kind of love for him I even helped him take shahada days before he died. I can't go a single day with out missing him in the 4 years since his death. why would I have a dream like this? I don't want to see these things in my dreams about him that I have often. Most of the time I'm happy to see him but occasionally I dream of hurting him.

[notme]

Salam brother.  

You can love someone and still be angry with them. Maybe your dreams are meant to make you aware that you still need to deal with this anger? 

It sounds terrible and I'm sorry you're going through this. Duas that you find peace in your wakefulness and in your sleep.  

[Murti156]

In my experience, it often helps to talk to a trusted person about such topics. Getting things off our chest helps us process those subconsciously built-up emotions. And if you don't have anyone that you can open up to, talk to a counselor. Forgiveness doesn't heal trauma. There is no shame in going to therapy. And if you aren't able to do that either, then talk to Allah. Have a conversation with him. Talk to him as if he were your best friend. With respect, obviously. But he is the one who loves you most, in this world and the hereafter. And he loves it when ppl talk to him and have a relationship with their creator. May he ease your suffering insha Allah.

[itstudent]

In situations like yours I always read the verses of Quran 3:133-134,

Quote

 

133. وَسَارِعُوا إِلَىٰ مَغْفِرَةٍ مِّن رَّبِّكُمْ وَجَنَّةٍ عَرْضُهَا السَّمَاوَاتُ وَالْأَرْضُ أُعِدَّتْ لِلْمُتَّقِينَ

134. الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ

 

Meaning,

133. And hasten to forgiveness from your Lord and a garden as wide as the heavens and earth, prepared for the righteous

134. Who spend [in the cause of Allah ] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good;

Simply saying -> Restrain anger and Forgive people -> The reward is a garden as wide as the heavens and earth. 

[Guest Ali]

Sometimes, the more you think about such subjects, the more you hold onto those thoughts. I found that the best way is not to give them any energy and simply accept that whatever is happening is by Allah’s will, then let it go. No negative thoughts, no positive thoughts — just acceptance and moving forward.

[Hameedeh]

On 5/8/2026 at 12:32 AM, rammy said:

Most of the time I'm happy to see him but occasionally I dream of hurting him.

Salam. Perhaps when you are feeling angry in a dream, you are expressing the pain that you sometimes feel, that when he died he abandoned you.