I'm forced to marry an Iranian girl that ruined my life. Can I hit her ?

[Guest Guest]

I'm being forced to marry her and she has ruined every aspect of my life especially economically and religiously and destroyed all my peace and happiness and has absolutely no shame and is rude to me. She believes that if a woman cheats and causes a man suicide then that woman can still go to jannah . I'm full of anger . This moment as we speak I'm even suffering because of her . Can I hit her ? She really caused me extreme life failure and she has absolutely no shame . I'm forced to marry her . Can I hit her after I marry her ? She does not respect me and does not care about the difficulties and failure she makes me go through . She doesnt care at all about my suffering and it seems she takes joy out of my suffering . She was with another man and used him to disrespect me . I really want to hit her . Noone in my family behaves like this in Iran and she even angered my mom and my aunt because of her misconduct towards me . 

[Hameedeh]

Salam. You live in Texas and she lives in Iran. How is it even possible that your family is forcing you to marry her? If she makes you angry and you want to hit her, just say no to the marriage. 

[Abu Nur]

On 12/7/2025 at 2:37 PM, Guest Guest said:

I'm being forced to marry her and she has ruined every aspect of my life especially economically and religiously and destroyed all my peace and happiness and has absolutely no shame and is rude to me. She believes that if a woman cheats and causes a man suicide then that woman can still go to jannah . I'm full of anger . This moment as we speak I'm even suffering because of her . Can I hit her ? She really caused me extreme life failure and she has absolutely no shame . I'm forced to marry her . Can I hit her after I marry her ? She does not respect me and does not care about the difficulties and failure she makes me go through . She doesnt care at all about my suffering and it seems she takes joy out of my suffering . She was with another man and used him to disrespect me . I really want to hit her . Noone in my family behaves like this in Iran and she even angered my mom and my aunt because of her misconduct towards me . 

You don't marry such a person. Don't waste your life and time for these people who are sick. 

[Abu Hassanain]

On 12/7/2025 at 7:37 AM, Guest Guest said:

I'm being forced to marry her and she has ruined every aspect of my life especially economically and religiously and destroyed all my peace and happiness and has absolutely no shame and is rude to me. She believes that if a woman cheats and causes a man suicide then that woman can still go to jannah . I'm full of anger . This moment as we speak I'm even suffering because of her . Can I hit her ? She really caused me extreme life failure and she has absolutely no shame . I'm forced to marry her . Can I hit her after I marry her ? She does not respect me and does not care about the difficulties and failure she makes me go through . She doesnt care at all about my suffering and it seems she takes joy out of my suffering . She was with another man and used him to disrespect me . I really want to hit her . Noone in my family behaves like this in Iran and she even angered my mom and my aunt because of her misconduct towards me . 

Salam

do not marry her you don’t have to worry about wanting to hit her if you don’t marry her

Islam, the verses that discussed this are only talking about if you actually catch your wife cheating on you or know your wife is physically cheating on you or some interpret the second sentence in adverse to means selling all the stuff in your house it’s not a broadband permission

Second of all, this wouldn’t even be an issue as you are a male and under Islamic law, your family cannot force you to marry her in the marriage is invalid if you’re forced anyway

wallahu Alam