Mutah Marriage, I need your experience

[Kadijah]

Hi, I am currently in a mutah marriage. He has a first wife and she didn’t know about us. He comes home to her every day and night . I want to be with him everytime but I dont want to be selfish as he have kids too. 

Nobody knows our relationship except Allah and him. Is what we have is haram? Am I a legal wife? What are my rights? What are your experience? What if i fall inlove and he wants the contact to end? 

[Quran313]

If you two followed the Islamic rules, your Mutah is valid and you are good.

Am I a legal wife? Islamically yes, but if you mean legal in your country or state, it happens after getting marriage certificate. Mutah has some differences with permanent marriage Islamically. I think man and woman cannot inherit from each other in Mutah marriage.

About your rights, he should give the set dowry to you. Another thing is try to avoid having kids in Mutah marriage. It makes things complicated.

If you fall in love with him or him falling in love with you, it's something between you and him. 

[Abu Hassanain]

On 10/6/2025 at 11:15 AM, Kadijah said:

Hi, I am currently in a mutah marriage. He has a first wife and she didn’t know about us. He comes home to her every day and night . I want to be with him everytime but I dont want to be selfish as he have kids too. 

Nobody knows our relationship except Allah and him. Is what we have is haram? Am I a legal wife? What are my rights? What are your experience? What if i fall inlove and he wants the contact to end? 

Salam

from the bare minimum perspective, Islamic law, this is legal. That doesn’t mean it’s a smart or kind way to handle things.
 

Eventually, his wife, his relatives her relatives somebody from the community is going to see you together, and it’s gonna cause a huge problem. It may not, but they rarely doesn’t occur.

Usually when men do a mutah and don’t tell their wives about it. It’s usually one and done, not ongoing.

This is gonna blow up in both of your faces, I would suggest you finish the contract. Do your waiting. Period and look for more available person to be a husband.

Nothing wrong with doing temporary marriage nothing wrong with being a temporary married wife to a married man, but this is not the way to handle the situation

 

[Mountain]

On 11/7/2025 at 6:00 PM, Abu Hassanain said:

Salam

from the bare minimum perspective, Islamic law, this is legal. That doesn’t mean it’s a smart or kind way to handle things.
 

Eventually, his wife, his relatives her relatives somebody from the community is going to see you together, and it’s gonna cause a huge problem. It may not, but they rarely doesn’t occur.

Usually when men do a mutah and don’t tell their wives about it. It’s usually one and done, not ongoing.

This is gonna blow up in both of your faces, I would suggest you finish the contract. Do your waiting. Period and look for more available person to be a husband.

Nothing wrong with doing temporary marriage nothing wrong with being a temporary married wife to a married man, but this is not the way to handle the situation

 

I agree, a problem would definitely occur since these day there’s such a slim chance that you can do something especially as big as this without other people finding out sooner or later. I would advise for the sister to read dua tawwasul for a few days and ask for guidance on what to do and what is best In sha Allah.

[Mountain]

On 10/6/2025 at 4:15 PM, Kadijah said:

Hi, I am currently in a mutah marriage. He has a first wife and she didn’t know about us. He comes home to her every day and night . I want to be with him everytime but I dont want to be selfish as he have kids too. 

Nobody knows our relationship except Allah and him. Is what we have is haram? Am I a legal wife? What are my rights? What are your experience? What if i fall inlove and he wants the contact to end? 

Asalamu alaikum I know it’s not what I asked for but I’d advise you to read dua tawwasul or a different dua seeking intersession, In sha Allah khair.

[Love4the14]

This is not really about others finding out, although that would also be a problem. The bigger question is whether you want a future with this man who already has a family and wife. Is he planning to leave his wife for you? If not you should look for a more suitable permanent marriage partner. Not someone who just wants to have a secret fling.