What is the lonely person should do?

[Meedy]

The person chances of getting married gone to zero so it means he will have no children

It means when he passes away. No one will find out, no one will arrange his funeral... no one to do good deeds on behalf of him.. no one to do ziyarar, missed prayers, missed fasting etc..  no one to do anything on his behalf...

Can a person consider adopting a child whilst he is alive.. or the adoption Islamic laws is too not simple and complicated that it makes you not consider it..

Sigh... yes im talking about myself 

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hit me up if u need to talk

[Ashvazdanghe]

21 hours ago, Meedy said:

Can a person consider adopting a child whilst he is alive.. or the adoption Islamic laws is too not simple and complicated that it makes you not consider it..

Salam yeah accroding to Islamic laws "a person can adopt a child whilst he is alive".. which is  very simple according to  Islamic laws although you must consider that he won't has any obligation to do anything for you after your death (after having a good & happy life inshaAllah) which if you want that he performs your missed prayers & fasting so then you must consider it in your will also because he won't inherit anything from you so then if you want give your property to him to do good deeds in behalf of you so then you must transfer your property to him before your death which it may has a high level of risk which you must find a really trustworthy person for adoption .

Adopted Child

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An adopted child (Arabic: الطِفل المتِبَنّی) is a person who is adopted by someone other than his or her real parents as their child. Adoption has a long history and the Qur'an has mentioned its history before Islam and also at the time of the revelation of the Qur'an. The Prophet (s) too had adopted a son named Zayd b. Haritha. Arabs considered rulings similar to those of one's biological children, but Islam rejected some of them including inheritance and mahram relationship.

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Islam rejected adoption in the form and rulings as one's real child which were common at the Age of Ignorance. The Qur'an explicitly rejected it in Qur'an 33:4, "nor has he made your adopted sons your [actual] sons. These are mere utterances of your mouths".

The Qur'an clearly rejected the three rules resulting from adoption, i.e. blood relationship (nasab), mahram relationship and inheritance:https://en.wikishia.net/view/Adopted_Child

[Gaius I. Caesar]

18 hours ago, Meedy said:

Can a person consider adopting a child whilst he is alive.. or the adoption Islamic laws is too not simple and complicated that it makes you not consider it..

The difficulty and ambiguity concerning the Islamic laws of adoption discouraged me and made difficulty for a potential spouse. It was a contributing factor in us leaving each other, I am not going to discourage you but in my experience, it was not worth discussing the idea. 

[Meedy]

1 hour ago, Gaius I. Caesar said:

The difficulty and ambiguity concerning the Islamic laws of adoption discouraged me and made difficulty for a potential spouse. It was a contributing factor in us leaving each other, I am not going to discourage you but in my experience, it was not worth discussing the idea. 

I'm sorry to hear that

I did think about few times and did some research but 100% I agree with you about the difficulty and ambiguity concerning the Islamic laws of adoption and because of this, not worth it. 

[Abu Hassanain]

22 hours ago, Meedy said:

The person chances of getting married gone to zero so it means he will have no children

It means when he passes away. No one will find out, no one will arrange his funeral... no one to do good deeds on behalf of him.. no one to do ziyarar, missed prayers, missed fasting etc..  no one to do anything on his behalf...

Can a person consider adopting a child whilst he is alive.. or the adoption Islamic laws is too not simple and complicated that it makes you not consider it..

Sigh... yes im talking about myself 

Salam

I think the best way to sum up the Islamic position on adoption is as follows

When comparing western ideas to Islamic ideas we basically allow foster care. The child comes into your house is taking care of raise supportive protected provided for. However, the child does not become a blood relative to you, and if it’s a girl, you can’t touch her after puberty like even hugging or kissing her forehead and same thing applies to a woman with a young boy. Once he reaches his manhood, she cannot kiss him hug him touch him.
 

There’s an Iranian drama called 5 km to Heaven, it’s sort of like the American movie ghost. Anyway, one of the main characters father had died and he was raised by a wealthy man and his family. He’s in love with his foster sister. But he actually lived in an apartment over the garage. He would come sometimes to the main house, but he didn’t live there after puberty. That’s kind of how adoption mostly works in Islamic countries.
 

So you can adopt, but it would be better and easier to do it more the correct way to do foster care and you can help a lot more kids

Wallahu Alam 

[Abu Hassanain]

3 hours ago, Gaius I. Caesar said:

The difficulty and ambiguity concerning the Islamic laws of adoption discouraged me and made difficulty for a potential spouse. It was a contributing factor in us leaving each other, I am not going to discourage you but in my experience, it was not worth discussing the idea. 

Salam

did she have daughters from a previous marriage?

Whatever happened I’m sorry the match didn’t work out.

 

[Gaius I. Caesar]

21 hours ago, Abu Hassanain said:

Salam

did she have daughters from a previous marriage?

Whatever happened I’m sorry the match didn’t work out.

No, she didn't have any children; She told me that she wanted to adopt and get experience being a parent before she became pregnant. She was afraid of childbirth. I told her that I wasn't sure about the idea. I felt cautious, I wanted a family too and to observe my faith.

I loathe the foster care system in my country or any idea resembling the foster care system. I knew some people in foster care and their experiences have colored my views on it. However, had I said "no children" to her at the time, it would have made me a liar.  The whole experience is a difficult and sad experience to recall.

 

Edited October 7 by Gaius I. Caesar

[Guest Unknown123]

Assalmualikum brother,

I know how difficult it must be for you, I was in a similar position as you deeply desiring marriage.  This world is a test for the Believers, marriage as good as it sounds can sometimes be a test too. I am two weeks into my marriage and I’ve cried almost everyday, if I hadnt built the connection with Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) before marriage I feel like I honestly would have been bed-ridden by grief. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows best and he is aware of all things. May we remain pure in our worship towards him inshallah. I came across a beautiful post on Fb, here is a little snippet

 

The Prophet * likened this fleeting life to a traveler who briefly rests under the shade of a tree before continuing his journey:

What have I to do with the world? I am like a rider who stops in the shade of a tree for a short time, then he moves on and leaves it behind.

(Tirmidhi 2377, Hasan Sahih)

Whether married or single, you are a traveler here.

Your true and eternal home lies in the Hereafter.

Marriage is a blessing, a test, and a mercy but it is not the measure of your worth.

If marriage is decreed for you, it will come at the perfect time ordained by Allah. If not, that too is part of His perfect wisdom and mercy. Your value is not defined by your marital status, but by your obedience, devotion, and sincerity toward Allah.

So, focus on what truly matters: worship, seeking beneficial knowledge, and refining your character.

Don't let sadness or societal pressure about marriage distract you from your real purpose becoming a devoted servant of Allah.