Finding a spouse

[silverine]

Not sure if this platform is still effective for finding a partner, but I decided to give it a try after seeing someone's post on Reddit about finding a spouse on ShiaChat.

My parents aren't actively looking or serious about finding someone for me. They believe that marriage will happen when it's meant to be, but how can it work if they don't put in any effort?

After trying matrimony apps without success, I'm giving this a last try. I'm looking for a spouse - a male between 28 and 35 years old. Preferably, he could be an Indian, American, Canadian, British, or Australian citizen. I'm open to relocating anywhere.

By chance you read this , please pray that Allah bleeses me with a righteous spouse the soonest . JazakAllah Khairan 

[Abu Hadi]

ShiaChat is not a matrimonial site but i will leave your post up in case someone is interested in corresponding with you. You didn't really give any information about yourself, which would discourage someone from contacting you. Are you a Muslima ? 

[Haji 2003]

19 hours ago, Abu Hadi said:

Are you a Muslima ? 

 

I really hope so:

 

On 5/22/2025 at 10:12 PM, silverine said:

I'm looking for a spouse - a male between 28 and 35 years old.

 

[Hameedeh]

On 5/22/2025 at 4:12 PM, silverine said:

Preferably, he could be an Indian, American, Canadian, British, or Australian citizen. I'm open to relocating anywhere.

Salam. Your parents don't want you to leave home because they need you. They also worry that if you marry and go away they will not see their grandchildren. Convince them to find a husband for you where you live. 

[Guest Guest_123_]

@silverine OP, 

Reddit isn’t always best for wise advice its random strangers personal opinions. 

Not sure how young you are but just because we have the skills for technology, access to independent funds but lack experience and emotional maturity doesn’t mean we are marriage ready and can make informed decision that can alter our entire lives and stability. 

This is where its wise to seek elderly counsel doesn’t matter gender just more experience and emotional maturity. And also safer in person compared to unreliable technology. My suggestion would be walking into local Shia community center or Mosque and having a one to one discussion with resident Scholar regarding this issue. Many of them offer family counselling, interventions, advocacy for you with parents even so you have high chance of support and finding a spouse

Don’t be scared to approach them or even write to them ahead arrange a meeting because you seem organised enough so best of luck!