Urgent! Please respond. Is my Mutah marriage valid?

[mish.misho10]

I am writing to get answers to about the validity of my mutah marriage inshAllah. I am 18 years old, my partner is 23. We decided to make it halal and do temporary marriage since permanent marriage is not an option for us at the moment due to some factors in our lives. We assumed it was valid because my father does not involve himself in my life and my paternal grandfather is deceased. (Meaning I have no wali) I had absolutely no contact with my father at the time of our marriage. 

My parents are separated and my father does not financially support my family in any way.  At the time of my husband and I’s marriage, my father had me and my siblings blocked and had not contacted us for months. My father has many qualities to make me believe that he would not be considered a wali. These qualities include: not financially supportive, does not pray or fast, has no involvement or care with the family and is very negligent (he didn't reach out when he heard my brother got into a biking accident and cut his leg open down to the bone). He does not have good akhlaq and has wished sickness and death on my mother. He steals money from his roommate. And he is addicted to medication. He recently overdosed and fell into a 3 day long coma in his apartment and did not go to the hospital. He does not take care of himself whatsoever. It is one of the main causes of my parents divorce and he has driven under the influence which caused him to get his license taken away and put on house arrest. He has also threatened my mother with suicide and even hurt himself in front of her to manipulate her. 

I have no other male figure in my life that could possibly be my wali. I looked through the requirements and I believe that my father is the only possible option. But judging by his character, I don't this he is qualified. 

My husband and I have already consummated our marriage and we have been together since November 1st 2024. If it is invalid, we have to go separate ways until we are able to have permanent marriage. Which could be anywhere from 2-4 years from now. The main reasons why we are unable to do permanent marriage is because my mother wants me to wait until I’m a bit older, my husband wants to complete university first and and get a job. And I also want to complete a few more years of university. I also want to include (but not sure where it is fitting) — that I was raped when I was 15 years old. I am aware now that Islamically I was still considered a virgin up until my husband and I’s consummation.

Is our marriage valid? If not, what steps should I take from here? Who can validate my marriage? I have already sent a message to Syed Sistani but it has been months without a response. I am hoping to find one here. Thank you. 

[AbdusSibtayn]

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On 3/10/2025 at 11:24 PM, mish.misho10 said:

I am writing to get answers to about the validity of my mutah marriage inshAllah. I am 18 years old, my partner is 23. We decided to make it halal and do temporary marriage since permanent marriage is not an option for us at the moment due to some factors in our lives. We assumed it was valid because my father does not involve himself in my life and my paternal grandfather is deceased. (Meaning I have no wali) I had absolutely no contact with my father at the time of our marriage. 

My parents are separated and my father does not financially support my family in any way.  At the time of my husband and I’s marriage, my father had me and my siblings blocked and had not contacted us for months. My father has many qualities to make me believe that he would not be considered a wali. These qualities include: not financially supportive, does not pray or fast, has no involvement or care with the family and is very negligent (he didn't reach out when he heard my brother got into a biking accident and cut his leg open down to the bone). He does not have good akhlaq and has wished sickness and death on my mother. He steals money from his roommate. And he is addicted to medication. He recently overdosed and fell into a 3 day long coma in his apartment and did not go to the hospital. He does not take care of himself whatsoever. It is one of the main causes of my parents divorce and he has driven under the influence which caused him to get his license taken away and put on house arrest. He has also threatened my mother with suicide and even hurt himself in front of her to manipulate her. 

I have no other male figure in my life that could possibly be my wali. I looked through the requirements and I believe that my father is the only possible option. But judging by his character, I don't this he is qualified. 

My husband and I have already consummated our marriage and we have been together since November 1st 2024. If it is invalid, we have to go separate ways until we are able to have permanent marriage. Which could be anywhere from 2-4 years from now. The main reasons why we are unable to do permanent marriage is because my mother wants me to wait until I’m a bit older, my husband wants to complete university first and and get a job. And I also want to complete a few more years of university. I also want to include (but not sure where it is fitting) — that I was raped when I was 15 years old. I am aware now that Islamically I was still considered a virgin up until my husband and I’s consummation.

Is our marriage valid? If not, what steps should I take from here? Who can validate my marriage? I have already sent a message to Syed Sistani but it has been months without a response. I am hoping to find one here. Thank you. 

Yes, your mutah is valid. 

Edited March 14 by AbdusSibtayn

[Irfani313]

May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) make it easy for you. 
 

Yes your nikah is valid, you just promise all of us here, as our SC community’s dear daughter/sister to do two things and be consistent on it. 
1. Don’t get pregnant until this marriage turns into permanent 

2. Do complete your eduction so you could ‘potentially’ live off of your own earnings without a dependency on anyone. May you never need to, and your husband remains a reasonable momin man of the house, but this is for your own safety and self love. 
 

With Duas’