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Marriage Mandatory if specific reason!

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Guest m313
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Salam. So, I have been disturbed by a problem for the past few days. The problem of mine is with I'm not against marriage but due to the circumstances of the current era and the situations besides me, I don't want ro get married unless and untill I find someone who is truly a lover of imam mahdi(ajf) I'm really serious about this because there're a lot of people who easily say I'm a mahdi lover but not like this. I want a true lover. And it's not easy! I want to sacrifice my life and my career and my everything for my imam. So definitely I can't marry just like this with anyone. I need assurance that if a time comes I need to sacrifice my married life and go somewhere for the sake of islam or if I need to sacrifice my child for islam or things like this, I definitely will be needing permission from my husband. And finding a husband like this is not easy definitely. And moreover, before marriage almost everyone agrees to such things, but later the family comes,the situation comes, circumstances and emotion comes and thus everyone changes. So my point is Just because of this niat I don't want to get married because also I'm afraid of getting attracted to worldy life and desires and times wasting and all. I want to use all my time for islam and imam and yes definitely all are not same. I'm of this type that I don't really want anything in this world just want to sacrifice and use just as needed. Point to be noted is of course about the sins, I can assure I won't sin insha'Allah. Because about that matter also I've trained myself and asked Allah and alhamdulillah he's grand me this blessing that I can now surely say if I don't get married I won't sin. Yes of course People do fail sometimes but not in a way that marriage can only save me. I've transferred myself in that way, got control over my sexual feelings and my lust for nonmahrams or something like this. So, with this niat, can I be single? Will it be sinful? I really want my relationship this much deep just with Allah and ahlulbayt(عليه السلام). Please answer keeping in mind that I'm one of this type. 

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I think you may benefit from having a conversation with an alim to triangulate some of your beliefs. Perhaps a therapist (with a religious outlook) may also be useful. 

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  • Advanced Member
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Salam alaykum

 

It's not a sin for you not to marry

Maryam س did not marry and dedicated herself to the Lord سبحانه وتعالی

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Linking it to the future rise of the Mahdi ع is however strange, even from a Twelver perspective

However, you should know that a lot of young men have the fantasy of being one of the 313 who are reported to be the closest followers of the Mahdi ع

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You have to think about how you will survive materially. A husband should provide for you, but will you be working yourself as a single woman? This might contradict the vocation you see for yourself

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Going with your family to see a scholar might help you find the exact man you thought impossible, or at least assure you that you are on the right path of life 

 

My prayers

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