Hajj dilemma, advice from other parents please

[Guest Gvkkesj593]

Salaam,

Inshallah I’d like to go to Hajj next year. Problem is that we don’t have anyone who can look after our kids whilst me and my wife go.

If I go by myself then the obligation to take my wife will still be on me. And if I understand correctly, I’d have to have to go with her as she’d need a mehram to go with. Her dad has already done his hajj and she has no brothers.

Kids are in nursery right now and will be starting school next year. So basically I have no option to leave them anywhere for a very long time.

My mother in law works as a teacher so she won’t be able to take time off to watch the kids. Only thing I can think of is to hope that in the next couple of years, there is an overlap between school holidays and Hajj season so she can watch the kids while we are away.
 

Delaying Hajj basically means I have no idea what my financial or physical situation will be like in the upcoming years. I have chronic health conditions which only get worse over time and there might be flare ups. 
 

So not sure what to do and wanted to get advice from you wise people on what I can do.

 

 

[Ashvazdanghe]

On 10/27/2024 at 1:15 PM, Guest Gvkkesj593 said:

If I go by myself then the obligation to take my wife will still be on me. And if I understand correctly, I’d have to have to go with her as she’d need a mehram to go with. Her dad has already done his hajj and she has no brothers.

Salam according to shia Islam a woman can perform Hajj on her own if she is not afraid of her safety which going with Mahram is rule KSA anyway her dad can do Hajj again besides her which their intention will be different . 

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Conditions of Validity

Being Muslim and mu'min, doing the rites of hajj in person and directly, performing hajj in the specified months, and having permission from the husband (only for women) for mustahab hajjs are the conditions of a valid hajj.

https://en.wikishia.net/view/Hajj

A Guidebook for Women on Rites of Hajj

https://www.al-islam.org/printpdf/book/export/html/39437

A Guidebook for Women on Rites of Hajj

Razia Batool Najafi

https://www.al-islam.org/guidebook-women-rites-hajj-razia-batool-najafi

Questions and Answers

Q1. Is a husband's permission needed for an obligatory pilgrimage?

Ans: lf a (house wife) has enough financial resources and she fulfills all other conditions then for an obligatory pilgrimage the husband's permission is not required and he does not have the right to stop her from performing her religious duty. But for a recommended pilgrimage the husband's permission is needed.

https://www.al-islam.org/guidebook-women-rites-hajj-razia-batool-najafi/conditions-pilgrimage#rules-pilgrimage