How is everyone doing?

[Meedy]

Salam to All,

So many horrible things happening every moment to our brothers and sisters in Palestine and Lebanon. Plus I am sure some of us, have our problems and struggles in our lives.

This makes very difficult to cope specially going to sleep and even worse when your Iman/faith has weakened...

I just wanted to know how are you all? how you doing?

any tips for those struggling mentally and spiritually?  

I could go and go on about myself.

[Botak]

Doing well, could be worse. Mentally its a bit of a mess but thats pretty much just the usual.

Physically the coughing had gotten worse, oh and I broke my glassess, oops.

On the bright side, I found an old webnovel on my phone thatI used to read in the past. Fun read.

As for the tips, honestly I am waiting for the answers to this to, I could use a tip or two. God sometime I wish a scholar or the Imam themself show up at my doorstep and told me what to do.

I guess the only tip I got is my current go to method to calm my mind when it goes awry. Basically you just shut down all thoughts, and you observed if your current action is prohibited by God. If its not prohibited, continue doing it. Simple as.

[Activate your inner truth]

Salaams Meedy, hope you’re doing well.

All thanks to God for his blessings and Mercy.

When we think of the suffering and death people are going through, it does make us feel very grateful to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).

Of course, it does not mean to say what yourself, or anyone of us may be going through is not challenging.

These are challenging times and when the shifts are taking place as fast and intense as they are, its easy to get affected, in fact, if already our faith sometimes feels weak before or even during trials the world can compound it.

The overwhelm from media is quiet something isn’t it.

One thing Meedy, I have learnt (and this is only my experiences) when we are feeling or going through our mental health challenges along with spiritual difficulties- I take a step back.

And tell myself, you know what? So much is happening in this world and I’m very grateful (despite how I may be feeling within) that God has blessed me with life and the ability to pray and be aware on some level).

When I’m going through a very rough storm and I can’t do as much as I lek due to mental health, I tell myself its ok, it really is ok ok to feel how I feel, not every day will be great and some days will be a  real struggle.. and that is what makes us humans.

The beautiful thing is in all this pain there is always hope of God’s mercy and a cleansing of ourselves  too.

I don’t know you personally, but we do know as people we do touch each other’s lives through the pain we share, through the hopes we share.

Knowing you are here writing and expressing yourself is a blessing and a wonderful thing to do.

Some things I have done that helped me:

That to promise myself

To have a support network of people I know I can go to when the going get’s a bit too touch

(If there is  no one around, you can search out free support groups which can have a really nurturing healing affect being among them..)

I read/choose a book for something I am going through with mental health.

Exercise /go for walks

Go to the park and look at the river.

And if I have days as you mentioned, about feeling spiritually weak and mentally struggling, I do my best to remember God within my ability.

I think of the Imam (عليه السلام).  for strength and courage.

Other acts I do is when I see someone less fortunate, I pray for them.

When I see people doing well and see good things, I appreciate them.

I hope you find some healing and solace in the words here, even a little, its  only  from my own experiences.

Sorry If I went on a little.

Anyway, if you ever want to talk your always welcome to d.m me. 

God bless you.

[Meedy]

23 hours ago, Botak said:

Physically the coughing had gotten worse, oh and I broke my glassess, oops.

On the bright side, I found an old webnovel on my phone thatI used to read in the past. Fun read

I hope and pray you get better...

I like reading novels and books but my parents look at me weird and ask whether the books are sellable that and I can see the weird looks on their face as they are saying why am I reading books? that puts me down... because books are great for gaining knowledge even novels are good too.

I suppose I have to force or perhaps tell myself its okay to smile and laugh every so often as another coping mechanism and good for mental health (obviously not forgetting the reality of what's happening around the world). Maybe it can be called a little me time. 

@Activate your inner truth Thank you so much for your beautiful words and understanding I appreciate  God Bless you too

[Diaz]

I am not doing well at all. My family and friends are in Lebanon, they are safe alhamdulillah but mentally they are not fine at all. Our house is destroyed, I don’t know what happened to some of my cats, the rest died. Many people died within a week. 
 

For university, not good too. I was planning to join with my one professor, but then I found out my favorite professor is going to give the course which I will be registering in semester so I registered with him and everything went on plan, was planning to take English as my language course but I can’t do that because I can’t go to university everyday, max twice per week. So instead I took French as well even though I do not know French because I wanted to study 2 courses at the same day. 
The first week my favorite professor didn’t attend, second week we found out he won’t be teaching us and they brought a new professor. We will be his first students, now I don’t know if he teaches well or if he is strict when it come to correction of my paper examination. So now I took with someone I do not know and I took French even tho I do not know it because I wanted to take 2 courses at the same day. I was very angry.

 

Now finally work, since June I was waiting to do internship for accountant because I don’t want to graduate without having experience with accounting. The company I talked with said they will do interview with me on July but sadly they did not call me even tho I paid for them. This month they called me and said I should pay again and 100% I will get an internship, I paid and was ready for my second interview with them. Everything went on plan until the interviewer mentioned that the work I will work in is very far away from my home. I need to pay atleast $12 just to drop me there and maybe $15 for picking me up and dropping me back home. Public and private buses are not available on that place too. 
The work will be for 6 weeks and I need to work 5 times per week. Can’t pay for taxi drivers this amount of money. 
 

I don’t want to talk about my relationship too, I will just keep it like this.  All of this happened in this month and guess what, this month was my birthday btw. 

 

Edited September 27 by Diaz

[AbdusSibtayn]

Wassalam, 

Have not been doing well lately. 

Several tragedies and hardships have surrounded me at once.Financially, mentally, spiritually, I have taken several hits and things have gone downhill. 

I have been fighting my inner demons. I have been pretty close to a nervous breakdown several times. Sometimes I think it is a losing battle. 

I struggle to find motivation to do even simple everyday things. 

I no longer like to do things that I once loved. I have left behind all my hobbies. 

I just do the bare minimum wajibat. I can't bring myself to study something new. I can't bring myself to do more mustahabbat or to study the deen. 

 I use online spaces like this forum as a cope, as a temporary distraction from life's problems. I feel that I am spending too much time on the internet. But I don't know what is more painful- killing my time online, or mulling over what life has come to. 

I have failed to establish myself in my career, I have failed to shoulder my responsibilities, I have failed in almost everything that I tried my hands at. I am good for nothing now. I don't know what the future holds. 

I feel like a loser. I have lost all self-confidence. 

Each day I wake up and wait for the day to end quickly. 

Sometimes I feel that I am merely waiting for life to end quickly. 

Years ago, I had not anticipated that things would be like this. All my calculations have come undone. My life has turned upside down, and I don't know how to set things straight. 

All the suffering that I see around me adds to the pain. I know that there are people out there who have it worse than me, and I don't get to complain. 

I try to hide my disappointment from people. Someone might not know what I am going through, from merely hearing me speak or reading my texts, I try not to complain, but sometimes the sorrow wears me down, being the fallible human that I am. 

الحمد لله علی کل حال 

I hope things are better at your end, brother. May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) grant you the best in both worlds, bihaqqi Muhammad wa aal Muhammad, and whatever difficulties that may be in your life be removed. 

[Uni Student]

15 hours ago, AbdusSibtayn said:

I feel that I am spending too much time on the internet. But I don't know what is more painful- killing my time online, or mulling over what life has come to. 

Painful reality for many of us in this day and age. prayers

[AbdusSibtayn]

7 hours ago, Uni Student said:

Painful reality for many of us in this day and age. prayers

Prayers for you too. 

[Borntowitnesstruth]

23 hours ago, AbdusSibtayn said:

Several tragedies and hardships have surrounded me at once.Financially, mentally, spiritually, I have taken several hits and things have gone downhill. 

 

Brother know that you are not alone. Many of us have similar problems, Insha-Allah, time will pass and we will endure the tragedies without losing hope in Allah (عزّ وجلّ) and Insha-Allah, Allah (عزّ وجلّ) will reward you and all those who have seen these difficult times. My prayers for you.

[AbdusSibtayn]

11 minutes ago, Borntowitnesstruth said:

Brother know that you are not alone. Many of us have similar problems, Insha-Allah, time will pass and we will endure the tragedies without losing hope in Allah (عزّ وجلّ) and Insha-Allah, Allah (عزّ وجلّ) will reward you and all those who have seen these difficult times. My prayers for you.

Thank you brother. Prayers for you as well. 

[Activate your inner truth]

On 9/27/2024 at 1:18 PM, Meedy said:

I hope and pray you get better...

I like reading novels and books but my parents look at me weird and ask whether the books are sellable that and I can see the weird looks on their face as they are saying why am I reading books? that puts me down... because books are great for gaining knowledge even novels are good too.

I suppose I have to force or perhaps tell myself its okay to smile and laugh every so often as another coping mechanism and good for mental health (obviously not forgetting the reality of what's happening around the world). Maybe it can be called a little me time. 

@Activate your inner truth Thank you so much for your beautiful words and understanding I appreciate  God Bless you too

@Meedy Your welcome  God bless you. 

[SunniSuluYoungMan]

Doing good, just bored sitting at my desk typing this.  and debating some people, wow they even avoided my questions  anyway have a good night, it’s 7:26PM, I’ll probably be up till 4AM.

[123xo]

Hey everyone, so sad to hear what you all are going through atm but honestly i personally believe that everyone on this planet is struggling no one has it all. Life only gets more challenging and harder. It's all nothing but a test, don't let your struggles weaken your faith or relationship with Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) don't look at the missing pieces in your life, i'm pretty sure each and every one of you have something(s) that they're blessed to have. So be grateful for the small things and don't let this world be your biggest concern at the end nothing is guaranteed only death.

Seeing people die just like that in palestine and other parts of the world used to make me depressed and angry but growing and becoming more spiritually aware of my surroundings and purpose i realised that maybe (most likely) these people are in a better place than us at least they died oppressed and/or shaheed and will be in paradise so it's us living we should be sad for, as we constantly have to battle hardships of this life. 

I'm doing nursing and have seen and dealt with all sorts of people the rich,poor, educated, druggie, attractive, disabled etc and came to realise that absolutely no one is perfect or has a perfect life we are all struggling in our own way. 
And remember this life is not even worth the wing of a bug. 
 

My prayers to you all inshallah each one of you will be rewarded for their patience and hardships. 
 

xo

[Hassu93]

I am just sad. In deep state of sorry. Questioning everything from my faith to justice. I just hope Allah helps us reach the end.

[Hameedeh]

2 hours ago, Hassu93 said:

Questioning everything from my faith to justice. I just hope Allah helps us reach the end.

Salam. There is a lot of injustice in this world and innocent people have been harmed. That is why Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) promises us that there is a Judgment Day. Have hope for the future.

[PureExistence1]

Salaam, sick and tired of everything from the individual level to the global level.

Just ugh, enough already.

[PureExistence1]

4 hours ago, 123xo said:

most likely) these people are in a better place than us at least they died oppressed and/or shaheed and will be in paradise so it's us living we should be sad for, as we constantly have to battle hardships of this life. 

This...

[PureExistence1]

4 hours ago, 123xo said:

I'm doing nursing

Ever considered hospice at some point? These people constantly deal with those who have one foot in this world and the other in the next and witness some amazing things.

[Activate your inner truth]

16 hours ago, 123xo said:

Hey everyone, so sad to hear what you all are going through atm but honestly i personally believe that everyone on this planet is struggling no one has it all. Life only gets more challenging and harder. It's all nothing but a test, don't let your struggles weaken your faith or relationship with Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) don't look at the missing pieces in your life, i'm pretty sure each and every one of you have something(s) that they're blessed to have. So be grateful for the small things and don't let this world be your biggest concern at the end nothing is guaranteed only death.

Seeing people die just like that in palestine and other parts of the world used to make me depressed and angry but growing and becoming more spiritually aware of my surroundings and purpose i realised that maybe (most likely) these people are in a better place than us at least they died oppressed and/or shaheed and will be in paradise so it's us living we should be sad for, as we constantly have to battle hardships of this life. 

I'm doing nursing and have seen and dealt with all sorts of people the rich,poor, educated, druggie, attractive, disabled etc and came to realise that absolutely no one is perfect or has a perfect life we are all struggling in our own way. 
And remember this life is not even worth the wing of a bug. 
 

My prayers to you all inshallah each one of you will be rewarded for their patience and hardships. 
 

xo

Thank you for encouraging others with your words of healing.  

 

Blessings. 

[Activate your inner truth]

12 hours ago, PureExistence1 said:

Salaam, sick and tired of everything from the individual level to the global level.

Just ugh, enough already.

Ws, hang in there, not always easy but the world storms are strong at the moment. 

God's light is shinning down on all of us, may that light bring healing  to all. 

 

 

[Uni Student]

One out of many of the minor signs of the reappearance of the Imam has been on my mind lately: “A man will pass by the grave of another and wish he was in the latter's place.“

[Meedy]

10 minutes ago, Uni Student said:

One out of many of the minor signs of the reappearance of the Imam has been on my mind lately: “A man will pass by the grave of another and wish he was in the latter's place.“

I think many of us may feel that way. Specially seeing what's happening right now. It hurts in every way you can think of. There are no words describe How bad it hurts and painful it is to see what's happening. What makes it worse having our own personal struggles as well.

 

 

[ShiaChat Mod]

On 9/29/2024 at 3:18 PM, PureExistence1 said:

Salaam, sick and tired of everything from the individual level to the global level.

Just ugh, enough already.

This! Exactly! 

[SaharSayyida]

On 9/27/2024 at 11:53 PM, AbdusSibtayn said:

الحمد لله علی کل حال 

Assalaamu alaykum brother, I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time. 

If I may, bare minimum wajibat are a huge feat in themselves. How many of us, while not in any financial, mental, or spiritual hardship, not lacking motivation, not unable to pursue interests or hobbies we love, and yet, when it comes to our bare minimum wajibat, feel no sense of responsibility, no remorse at all, sleep easily through Fajr, let those inner demons dangerously close, keep in check neither the heart nor the mind. 

You have not failed if you are alive and you are not a loser so long as you are conscious of your Lord, this is a momentary lapse in optimal functioning, a crisis of the worst kind perhaps, but at least not something that made you abandon salaah. 

I have been where you are, some years ago, waiting for the day to end, wondering when life would end, drowning in my own expectations, a result of my own standards. Something my father used to say, man proposes, God disposes.

There is nowhere to hide, brother, there is no haven on the outside, there is no shelter other than the cold, hard truth of your own self. So let the sorrow wear you down, and you absolutely get to complain, life is excruciating, but your job is to hold on to the rope of Allah, and please know that you are in His care, you are in His care, you are in His care, you are in His care, that you have not turned away from that which is obligatory is a testament to His holding on to you.

[AbdusSibtayn]

16 hours ago, SaharSayyida said:

 

Assalaamu alaykum brother, I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time. 

If I may, bare minimum wajibat are a huge feat in themselves. How many of us, while not in any financial, mental, or spiritual hardship, not lacking motivation, not unable to pursue interests or hobbies we love, and yet, when it comes to our bare minimum wajibat, feel no sense of responsibility, no remorse at all, sleep easily through Fajr, let those inner demons dangerously close, keep in check neither the heart nor the mind. 

You have not failed if you are alive and you are not a loser so long as you are conscious of your Lord, this is a momentary lapse in optimal functioning, a crisis of the worst kind perhaps, but at least not something that made you abandon salaah. 

I have been where you are, some years ago, waiting for the day to end, wondering when life would end, drowning in my own expectations, a result of my own standards. Something my father used to say, man proposes, God disposes.

There is nowhere to hide, brother, there is no haven on the outside, there is no shelter other than the cold, hard truth of your own self. So let the sorrow wear you down, and you absolutely get to complain, life is excruciating, but your job is to hold on to the rope of Allah, and please know that you are in His care, you are in His care, you are in His care, you are in His care, that you have not turned away from that which is obligatory is a testament to His holding on to you.

Wa alaikum assalam, 

Thank you so much for these kind and encouraging words, dear sister! They mean a great deal! 

[notme]

On 9/27/2024 at 2:23 PM, AbdusSibtayn said:

Years ago, I had not anticipated that things would be like this. All my calculations have come undone. My life has turned upside down, and I don't know how to set things straight.

You are a light to many of us here on this little island of the internet. You are a valuable person, and many of us here at shiachat appreciate you. I don't know what your offline life is like, but you have at least the potential to be a light to those around you in "the real world" too.

Life is hard, and it never happens the way you anticipate. The trial is to adjust your plans and goals until you find the one that works for you. Do not ever give up hope, and do not ever stop trying to make things better, but sometimes it is ok to pause, breathe, and let yourself mourn the loss of what you dreamed would be.

[AbdusSibtayn]

On 10/19/2024 at 9:00 PM, notme said:

You are a light to many of us here on this little island of the internet. You are a valuable person, and many of us here at shiachat appreciate you. I don't know what your offline life is like, but you have at least the potential to be a light to those around you in "the real world" too.

Life is hard, and it never happens the way you anticipate. The trial is to adjust your plans and goals until you find the one that works for you. Do not ever give up hope, and do not ever stop trying to make things better, but sometimes it is ok to pause, breathe, and let yourself mourn the loss of what you dreamed would be.

These kind words of encouragement mean a lot, especially when they come from a senior and esteemed member like you. 

I nonetheless feel that I don't deserve the accolades; I am just another person on the internet trying to share the little that I know with the others. 

Thanks a lot. These kind words mean a great deal.