Shia-Sunni marriage, need help

[Guest Umme_Mustafa]

Hi Asalamalaikum all,

I am a shia girl who married a sunni guy 2 years ago and I recently delivered a baby. Everything was fine before the baby, we were following our own practices but now he wants the baby to follow sunni side. I am very distraught. I am not able to accept this fact. I will follow but not my son. Did I make a really big mistake marrying my husband?
 

Should I leave him and make my baby walk on the path of Ali un wali allah and do matam for Gham e Hussain?

Note : He doesn’t have a problem with him going to ashurkhanas or visiting Karbala, I am not sure about attending Majalis

Please help me here, I am really suffocating and suffering every single day. 

 

 

[Abu Hadi]

Salam Sister,

Try to talk to him and explain your reasoning behind raising your son on path of Ahl Al Bayt(عليه السلام) as a first option. Maybe he will change his mind. 

[Abu_Zahra]

Wa alaikum as salam 

This situation was a very real possibility when you made the decision to marry someone from another school of thought. To now consider divorce because of this does not sound fair or appropriate. 

In any case one day your child will inshaAllah be a young man and decide himself which direction he wants to go in. 

If he is raised on the teachings of Ahl us Sunnah by his father, but perhaps notices that your practice of Tashayyu is closer to the Quran and Sunnah,  he may indeed reconsider what he has learnt. 

Therefore perhaps it makes most sense for you to study and implement your religious teachings, for your own benefit as well as an example for your child. 

[Sirius_Bright]

19 hours ago, Abu_Zahra said:

To now consider divorce because of this does not sound fair or appropriate

If there's a chance of deviation, one should not even consider marrying that person. Since they are already married, have a child and husband is putting some restrictions, there's good chance of deviation or softening of beliefs. 

So if that person forces in matter of religion, she should prefer deen over her sunni husband. 

20 hours ago, Guest Umme_Mustafa said:

Note : He doesn’t have a problem with him going to ashurkhanas or visiting Karbala, I am not sure about attending Majalis

Please help me here, I am really suffocating and suffering every single day

Sorry sister for what I have written above. You know your situation better, sit and talk with him and let him know how much Wilayat and Azadari means to you. I would strongly suggest prefer religion over anything else.