Spouse (re)selection

[HudHud]

Bismillah

I have met a woman ~3 years ago, when I was quite irreligious and barely practicing. I deeply fell in love with her. She had a similar religious situation.
Paradoxically, certain influences from her (e.g., her beautiful Quran recitation from her childhood or moral values and virtues inherent from Islamic tradition) have inspired me to commit to my religion. 

Now I became very religious (Alhamdullilah), often very strictly. But she hasn’t changed. She is more into pseudoscientific stuff and new-age kind of spirituality, which often leads to conflicts and causes me pain, for I wish her to be guided to the straight path. 
I want my children to be raised with the love for Ahlul Bayt (a.) and to fulfill my duties as a true Shia of Ameer Al-Mumineen (a.).

So I stand in front of a decision to leave someone that I love to secure prosperity in marriage, with my heart being my greatest opponent. 
 

In the book „Youth and Spouse Selection“ by Ali Akbar Mazaheri (https://www.al-islam.org/youth-and-spouse-selection-ali-akbar-mazaheri/chapter-five-criteria-spouse-selection) it is mentioned:

 

“Q: Can it not be that a faithful and religious person marries and irreligious spouse and guides her? Has such a case not yet taken shape?
 
A: (a) If someone finds such energy in himself and is sure that he or she can make it, then there is no harm to materialize such a marriage. Even though this is a desired and required practice and has a great reward, not everyone possesses all that vigour and energy. Attaining this confidence is also not and easy thing. If such a case (exceptionally) takes shape, it is not a justification for others to follow it. And this exception cannot be generalized to cover all people.”

 

This is the only possible way that I see to keep my religion and my love. And while I certainty have the energy for this endeavor, I‘m neither sure about its success nor do I know how to achieve this goal. 
 

Your honest advice is much appreciated. With Salam and wishes for your success.

[Meedy]

Salam,

Do you have any children with her? 

[ali_fatheroforphans]

Sorry I didn't understand are you married to her or not?

[SO SOLID SHIA]

21 hours ago, HudHud said:

She is more into pseudoscientific stuff and new-age kind of spirituality,

Ah, so she became a feminist ? 

'i manifest my reality. Namaste - I gather my information from the Akashic records, my ancestors guide me' 

 

Hold on yeah so are you married to her? If you're not married to her then let her go bruv ...it's just going to cause you more heartache. If you are married to her then try as hard as you can to seek mediation, maybe change your approaches.  Try to go on a holiday, counselling all that. 

...but you didn't mention if you were married to her. Snap out that emotional side brother get yourself together.

 

We have a common saying in London.

'Bun this Yout blood' 

That's the philosophy I would apply here 

Edited March 21, 2024 by SO SOLID SHIA