No one cares

[Guest someone]

No one thinks or ask about me, I've been isolated for years now and it's really tough. I've really been trying to find a motivation to continue, but I'm struggling. I thought getting married would solve something, but nothing changed and it ended In failure. 

I regret cutting contact with the few people that tried. It was the only coping mechanism i knew and I've beaten myself over it. 

Sorry for the rant, I just wanted it off my chest 

[Guest Window]

I’m in the same boat as you. Got married thinking I’d finally be happy—ended-up getting divorced after a few years. People have always hurt me and I’ve never really had a lot of friends. 

[Meedy]

Hang in there. These are very difficult moments and I understand. 

Our patience and emotions are tested

God thinks about you. 

Talk to God, empty yourself to God.

Keep reading duas, quran.

Its hard i know. You can go through this.

[AussieShia]

On 5/4/2023 at 3:42 PM, Guest Window said:

I’m in the same boat as you. Got married thinking I’d finally be happy—ended-up getting divorced after a few years. People have always hurt me and I’ve never really had a lot of friends. 

Imo you're not going to find happiness through other people, you need to find it from within.

Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is always there for you, sometimes it's hard to feel that connection with Him but try and find it.

I would highly recommend working on yourself. If you are unfit, get fit. If you are unhappy with your job, upskill. If you have childhood trauma, see a therapist. Whatever improvements you think you need to make, make them. I'm sure that if you really work on yourself, you will end up not caring what others think or need other people to validate yourself, and people will actually be drawn to you.

[Hameedeh]

On 5/3/2023 at 3:16 PM, Guest someone said:

No one thinks or ask about me, I've been isolated for years now and it's really tough. I've really been trying to find a motivation to continue, but I'm struggling. I thought getting married would solve something, but nothing changed and it ended In failure. 

I regret cutting contact with the few people that tried. It was the only coping mechanism i knew and I've beaten myself over it. 

Sorry for the rant, I just wanted it off my chest 

You are never alone. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) cares about you and is always with you. InShaAllah, things will improve. Keep the faith and be hopeful for the future. 

[Guest Window]

On 5/10/2023 at 12:54 AM, AussieShia said:

Imo you're not going to find happiness through other people, you need to find it from within.

Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is always there for you, sometimes it's hard to feel that connection with Him but try and find it.

I would highly recommend working on yourself. If you are unfit, get fit. If you are unhappy with your job, upskill. If you have childhood trauma, see a therapist. Whatever improvements you think you need to make, make them. I'm sure that if you really work on yourself, you will end up not caring what others think or need other people to validate yourself, and people will actually be drawn to you.

I understand what you’re saying.

But imagine this: everyone you know is making friends easily and having children and happily married. You thought by getting a degree you would attract the right kind of people.

Turns-out your ex-husband was only using you. People at your university disrespect your religion on the regular. You attract people who hurt you. Your old therapist pushes harmful beliefs onto you and tries to persuade you to do wrong things like commit adultery, completely ignoring the fact that you are a Muslim and such disgusting acts go against Islam entirely. You seek a new therapist, who tells you that your marriage failing was not your fault and that’s it. 

[notme]

Same except never expected marriage to be a fix. Some of us are just like this.  

[Guest Guest]

I feel the same way too. There were a couple people who I genuinely liked and I thought they genuinely liked me too but I was too afraid of the implications so in both cases I basically ran away. I have no friends (except for 2 or 3 who I am not very close with) and I can't imagine myself married to someone. I also have hope that marriage would fix the loneliness, but in order for that to happen I would need to meet someone I like (and that person reciprocates) and I do not see that happening at all. I feel that I am destined to live a completely lonely and shallow meaningless life with no love or excitement. 

Is this a destiny or something we control?