I need help!

[Guest Qasim]

ASalam Alaikum brothers 

I am struggling with thoughts about my sexual orientation. Lately, I have been experiencing homosexual thoughts which is causing me distress. I am not sure if this means my sexual orientation is changing, and it is causing me fear and anxiety. I have tried to alleviate my fears by looking at adult content, but I don't understand whats wrog with me like i was attracted to women yesterday and today this strange thing is happening. I am seeking support and someone who has experienced a similar situation to talk to. Thank you for your understanding.

[Abu_Zahra]

Wa alaikum as salam

Looking at adult content or using other such methods to 'test yourself' is certainly not the way to go. Your are falling into a trap of haram acts merely because of thoughts which in themselves are not haram (although they would become haram actions if you acted on the thoughts).

In general be strict about the content you consume (videos, music etc) and try to have a routine for the day which doesn't leave you with idle moments. 

Edited February 3 by Abu_Zahra

[Solo_Ta72]

14 hours ago, Guest Qasim said:

ASalam Alaikum brothers 

I am struggling with thoughts about my sexual orientation. Lately, I have been experiencing homosexual thoughts which is causing me distress. I am not sure if this means my sexual orientation is changing, and it is causing me fear and anxiety. I have tried to alleviate my fears by looking at adult content, but I don't understand whats wrog with me like i was attracted to women yesterday and today this strange thing is happening. I am seeking support and someone who has experienced a similar situation to talk to. Thank you for your understanding.

If it's just thoughts then let them be they can't change you judt because you are getting them 

Sexual orientation doesn't change just because you get thoughts 

These thoughts will get weak and if you are still attracted towards opposite gender then i think nothing is really wrong

P*rn is just gonna make it worse and you can't test yourself using it although you might get an idea but in vain so Porn is just not the solution if you find being gay disgusting then thoughts should be ignored

JazakAllah khair 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest Window]

20 hours ago, Guest Qasim said:

 

ASalam Alaikum brothers 

I am struggling with thoughts about my sexual orientation. Lately, I have been experiencing homosexual thoughts which is causing me distress. I am not sure if this means my sexual orientation is changing, and it is causing me fear and anxiety. I have tried to alleviate my fears by looking at adult content, but I don't understand whats wrog with me like i was attracted to women yesterday and today this strange thing is happening. I am seeking support and someone who has experienced a similar situation to talk to. Thank you for your understanding.

 

Sorry to hear that you’re struggling with this. Don’t look at Haram content, just know that it’s the devil messing with you. 

[Borntowitnesstruth]

22 hours ago, Guest Qasim said:

ASalam Alaikum brothers 

I am struggling with thoughts about my sexual orientation. Lately, I have been experiencing homosexual thoughts which is causing me distress. I am not sure if this means my sexual orientation is changing, and it is causing me fear and anxiety. I have tried to alleviate my fears by looking at adult content, but I don't understand whats wrog with me like i was attracted to women yesterday and today this strange thing is happening. I am seeking support and someone who has experienced a similar situation to talk to. Thank you for your understanding.

It is not sexual orientation bro. It's khannas which is causing you mentally sick. Avoid using things that bring such thoughts and it will be all fine. 

[Yusuf71]

Handling the fear is really important.

Sexuality is not a straight forward issue,   it becomes very difficult when we start labelling people and ourselves with unhelpful adjectives. For those of us without kids the pull to fatherhood and longing gets all wrapped up in our passing years as well and we start questioning our own self esteem. Every man goes through that.

Just give it a bit of space , it is coming into your life from God to teach you something. You don't need to be afraid of it.

 

Im remembering my grandfather, he used to have a great eye for the ladies and he was always looking at them and admiring beauty but there was never a longing in it. Its perfectly ok to admire beauty, dont be afraid of that.

Be careful of your company and what you are watching.