Do you believe in destiny?

[WisdomAndAnswers]

For years I stopped believing in destiny in Islam. The biggest reasons that stopped me from believing in destiny was because of my confusion about the whole concept of it. I was always confused of situations where murder was involved like when someone was brutally murdered and why they were destined to that path. Or also why sometimes good people go through the worst in life and question why their life was written that way.

I only started to believe in destiny when I went through my own hardship in life. 

I was hoping that anyone can explain to me how destiny is real in Islam and if you can back it up with any proof.

How is our life already predestined and written for us before it happening? How is the person already chosen for us for marriage? But does that also mean we can just sir around and expect things to come to us because it's already chosen to happen before even trying? 

[khizarr]

3 hours ago, WisdomAndAnswers said:

How is our life already predestined and written for us before it happening? How is the person already chosen for us for marriage? But does that also mean we can just sir around and expect things to come to us because it's already chosen to happen before even trying? 

I don't think one's spouse is predestined; at least there is nothing in Islam that suggests so. 

Now there are some things that are predestined, some that are done out of free will (where you are 'writing your own destiny'), and some that may be changed with du'a. All three of these rest on the knowledge and majesty of Allah. None of them entail sitting around idle and waiting for things to happen. 

3 hours ago, WisdomAndAnswers said:

Or also why sometimes good people go through the worst in life and question why their life was written that way.

Yeah, it's a difficult question sometimes. But, at the same time, I do understand that a lot of these things are outcomes of human shortcomings. Poverty and childhood abuse are two classic examples; where human evil is exhibited out of free will, since evil does not come from God. But again, it is a tough question about life and I don't know if I've come to terms with it completely myself.

[WisdomAndAnswers]

2 hours ago, khizarr said:

I don't think one's spouse is predestined; at least there is nothing in Islam that suggests so. 

Now there are some things that are predestined, some that are done out of free will (where you are 'writing your own destiny'), and some that may be changed with du'a. All three of these rest on the knowledge and majesty of Allah. None of them entail sitting around idle and waiting for things to happen. 

Yeah, it's a difficult question sometimes. But, at the same time, I do understand that a lot of these things are outcomes of human shortcomings. Poverty and childhood abuse are two classic examples; where human evil is exhibited out of free will, since evil does not come from God. But again, it is a tough question about life and I don't know if I've come to terms with it completely myself.

It is a difficult question, it always keeps me wondering. Thank you for answering 

[notme]

Some things are destined, but most things are a result of our or someone else's choices.

[Gaius I. Caesar]

58 minutes ago, notme said:

Some things are destined, but most things are a result of our or someone else's choices.

I agree. The more I experience and observe life,the more I accept and understand that, at least 90 to 95% of the events happening around us are the result of our choices. It is the outcome of our choices that is unknown, out of our control and predetermined by the reactions and actions of other people.

[WisdomAndAnswers]

10 hours ago, Gaius I. Caesar said:

I agree. The more I experience and observe life,the more I accept and understand that, at least 90 to 95% of the events happening around us are the result of our choices. It is the outcome of our choices that is unknown, out of our control and predetermined by the reactions and actions of other people.

 

11 hours ago, notme said:

Some things are destined, but most things are a result of our or someone else's choices.

Would you say it was destined for someone to get married to a certain person because a child was needed to be born? Sometimes I believe that a person comes into your life that wasn't in our hands to stop it because that child had a purpose? Not all marriages were destined but some?

[Gaius I. Caesar]

3 hours ago, WisdomAndAnswers said:

Would you say it was destined for someone to get married to a certain person because a child was needed to be born?

It is not necessarily something I believe nowadays, when I was younger, I probably would have said yes.

3 hours ago, WisdomAndAnswers said:

Sometimes I believe that a person comes into your life that wasn't in our hands to stop it because that child had a purpose? Not all marriages were destined but some?

These people still come into our lives without bringing a bouncing bundle of joy into this dunya. 

[notme]

7 hours ago, WisdomAndAnswers said:

Would you say it was destined for someone to get married to a certain person because a child was needed to be born? Sometimes I believe that a person comes into your life that wasn't in our hands to stop it because that child had a purpose? Not all marriages were destined but some?

No.  I won't rule out the possibility of predestined marriage,  but given that marriage always requires consent of both parties,  it seems to be a choice.  

Who you meet in life could be destined, but you choose what to do after that.