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im depressed and although not fully suicidal, but feel like i cant live like this anymore,  away from muslim community, no women for marriage or mutah,no social life,no friends, isolated in an jinn infested apatment ducked off from everywhere, its depressing, i feel like jumping out my window! i want to get a house car and job, my parents baby me andtreat me like a child everytime i tell them somethingthey think im delusional or pretend it, what should i do?

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8 hours ago, Lion of Shia said:

isolated in an jinn infested apatment

See if you can find a volunteering role somewhere. Helping others can be a good way of feeling empowered.

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i want to get a house car and job, my parents baby me andtreat me like a child everytime i tell them somethingthey think im delusional or pretend it, what should i do?

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Brother, please tell your Mother that you need to learn how to take care of yourself. Get her to agree that you need to leave home on some days to get job training. If you are still living in Milwaukee, contact your local Goodwill: Goodwill Southeastern Wisconsin (Goodwill SEW) Reach out to them and speak slowly and carefully, explaining what your disadvantages are (for example, if you have a mental or physical disability), such as learning disorder, Tourette's, cerebral palsy, autism, muscular dystrophy, multiple sclerosis, etc. Explain that you are an adult, but you need job training and you also need transportation to get to the training site. If you have never applied for a Social Security Card, maybe they can help you get that, because you need one to get a job. Save your money. Get a drivers permit and learn to drive a car before you buy one. Of course if you never plan on getting a car, you won't need to spend money for that, but taking the bus or getting a taxi, Uber or Lyft, etc. will be part of your weekly expenses, unless you know someone who can give you a ride. Praying for your success. 

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On 9/9/2022 at 7:10 PM, Lion of Shia said:

im depressed and although not fully suicidal, but feel like i cant live like this anymore,  away from muslim community, no women for marriage or mutah,no social life,no friends, isolated in an jinn infested apatment ducked off from everywhere, its depressing, i feel like jumping out my window! i want to get a house car and job, my parents baby me andtreat me like a child everytime i tell them somethingthey think im delusional or pretend it, what should i do?

You are a young man brother, go pay for a subscription to your local gym and work out.

Take that negative energy and use it by exercising.  

Give it 40 days and come back and you will see a difference.

You need to change your thinking and be a force of good.  

Buy a headset and listen to lectures, quran, latmiya while working out and have realistic goals.

Get out of the house and use the internet less.

Cut out your bad habits and work on your nutrition.

Make sure you make du32 after salat and ask Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) for strength and energy.

God created us to move and take action, not to be idle and stagnant.

Change begins within. Don't expect the world or people to change.  You need to take the steps necessary, and Insh'Allah you will see results.

Do your salat on time and make sure you are reading atleast a page from the Quran.

You will be a changed man, and you will feel good because you changed your routine and now have goals and something to look forward to.

Bism Allah.

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On 9/10/2022 at 1:10 AM, Lion of Shia said:

im depressed and although not fully suicidal, but feel like i cant live like this anymore,  away from muslim community, no women for marriage or mutah,no social life,no friends, isolated in an jinn infested apatment ducked off from everywhere, its depressing, i feel like jumping out my window! i want to get a house car and job, my parents baby me andtreat me like a child everytime i tell them somethingthey think im delusional or pretend it, what should i do?

Brother Lion of Shia 

Posters here have given you really good advice.

Have faith in Allah Almighty

And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient. (Quran 2:155)

And Allah Almighty has also assured that relief is there

“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear…” (Qur'an, 2:286)

With Every Difficulty, There is Relief.”5:94 Surah al-Inshirah

Then recite Surah Ad-Duha slowly with understanding each word and sentence.  Though this Surah was directly addressing the Blessed Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) this message was for all Muslims.

Read it as if it is meant for you - Your Lord has not taken leave of you, nor has He detested

Surah Ad-Duha

In the name of Allah, the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful.

By the morning brightness

And [by] the night when it covers with darkness,

Your Lord has not taken leave of you, [O Muhammad], nor has He detested [you].

And the Hereafter is better for you than the first [life].

And your Lord is going to give you, and you will be satisfied.

Did He not find you an orphan and give [you] refuge?

And He found you lost and guided [you],

And He found you poor and made [you] self-sufficient.

So as for the orphan, do not oppress [him].

And as for the petitioner, do not repel [him].

And as for the favour of your Lord, do announce (it)

In sha Allah all will be well.

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Brother - Also look the world around you and you’ll see billions of people in much worse condition than you think you are in. People are stuck as refugees in strange lands away from loved ones. Millions have been made homeless by floods and lost everything they possessed and now are in the open surrounded by water and exposed the elements. If you look at their eyes – they show pain, loss of family members, houses, friends – most of the eyes show hopelessness and despair.  They have to struggle for years just to survive. Those who led comfortable lives are now fighting others just for a meal for themselves or their loved ones. Their world and life just upside down.

Brother, if you reflect on what they are going through. Your problems will suddenly seem to be manageable and with time completely disappear. In sha Allah.

The Blessed Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Look at those who are below you, and do not look at those who are above you, for that is more likely to hold you back from belittling the blessings that Allah has bestowed upon you."  Al-Bukhari and Muslim.

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On 9/9/2022 at 7:10 PM, Lion of Shia said:

i want to get a house car and job, my parents baby me andtreat me like a child everytime i tell them somethingthey think im delusional or pretend it, what should i do?

How old are you? Did you graduate from high school? 

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2 hours ago, Uni Student said:

So what is the reason for your unemployment? Health issues, etc. Are you able to find remote jobs to apply for

the school i went to didnt give me my degree for some reason, my mom tried contacting the school,yes,i tried to get in a internship it and web design program

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4 hours ago, Lion of Shia said:

the school i went to didnt give me my degree for some reason, my mom tried contacting the school,yes,i tried to get in a internship it and web design program

How long have you been unemployed and whatever the circumstances what have you done to change your financial situation

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On 9/9/2022 at 8:10 PM, Lion of Shia said:

my parents baby me andtreat me like a child everytime i tell them somethingthey think im delusional or pretend it, what should i do?

Salaam alaikum, stop telling your parents anything about your goals. It is clear to me from your other posts in the past, that they don't take your seriously and just want to humiliate you. 

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On 9/15/2022 at 3:28 PM, Hameedeh said:

Brother, please tell your Mother that you need to learn how to take care of yourself. Get her to agree that you need to leave home on some days to get job training. If you are still living in Milwaukee, contact your local Goodwill: Goodwill Southeastern Wisconsin (Goodwill SEW) Reach out to them and speak slowly and carefully, explaining what your disadvantages are (for example, if you have a mental or physical disability), such as learning disorder, Tourette's, cerebral palsy, autism, muscular dystrophy, multiple sclerosis, etc. Explain that you are an adult, but you need job training and you also need transportation to get to the training site. If you have never applied for a Social Security Card, maybe they can help you get that, because you need one to get a job. Save your money. Get a drivers permit and learn to drive a car before you buy one. Of course if you never plan on getting a car, you won't need to spend money for that, but taking the bus or getting a taxi, Uber or Lyft, etc. will be part of your weekly expenses, unless you know someone who can give you a ride. Praying for your success. 

Good advice for other people, not just the OP.  

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Have you looked into joining the union? They will train you and in 3-4 years you will have a good salary.

Sometimes people get sad because they want to be near Allah. Study Islamic psychology and it will give you confidence to learn about your eternal essence. 

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