Problem_Image I see in the mosque during muharram

[A786]

Salam brothers and sisters,

I've been very stressed about this  marriage/accepting this proposal and it is certainly not an easy decision to make. Every time I think about it, it causes me anxiety/depression and I can only pray to Allah. I cannot find an answer at all and no path is clear to me and I feel so much pressure. Basically to either accept this proposal with some pros and cons (demands which make this decision very difficult) or to say no. However I become scared for my future and what will happen if I say no and the consequences I may have of not getting a better proposal. Its just not an easy decision and I'm feeling the pressure. 

I recently have been seeing this image when I visit imambargah/mosque with light radiating from this vision i see but cannot see anyone. At first I ignored it but I recently read a dua and this image came again at the mosque. It appears when i think about my future and me being scared for my future. I see white light radiating everywhere, and I sense so much positivity in the image and a smile however I can only we sense the smile/posivitivity. The voice says to me everything will be all right with a positive smile and I get so reassured. i saw it atleast twice when I sat in the imambargah and listened to majlis. At first I ignored it and said who am I kidding, but it's appeared atleast 5 times. 

Do you think it's a sign from god and a direction I could take? Has this happened to anyone? Thank you. Any answers may help me make the right decision. 

[AbdusSibtayn]

On 8/5/2022 at 11:25 AM, A786 said:

Salam brothers and sisters,

I've been very stressed about this  marriage/accepting this proposal and it is certainly not an easy decision to make. Every time I think about it, it causes me anxiety/depression and I can only pray to Allah. I cannot find an answer at all and no path is clear to me and I feel so much pressure. Basically to either accept this proposal with some pros and cons (demands which make this decision very difficult) or to say no. However I become scared for my future and what will happen if I say no and the consequences I may have of not getting a better proposal. Its just not an easy decision and I'm feeling the pressure. 

I recently have been seeing this image when I visit imambargah/mosque with light radiating from this vision i see but cannot see anyone. At first I ignored it but I recently read a dua and this image came again at the mosque. It appears when i think about my future and me being scared for my future. I see white light radiating everywhere, and I sense so much positivity in the image and a smile however I can only we sense the smile/posivitivity. The voice says to me everything will be all right with a positive smile and I get so reassured. i saw it atleast twice when I sat in the imambargah and listened to majlis. At first I ignored it and said who am I kidding, but it's appeared atleast 5 times. 

Do you think it's a sign from god and a direction I could take? Has this happened to anyone? Thank you. Any answers may help me make the right decision. 

Wa alaikum assalam, 

First of all, you need to make the decision for yourself by weighing all the pros and cons. Do not go for a marriage which is sending you negative vibes from the beginning, and it will save you a lot of trouble and trauma in the future. 

Then you can go for istikharah. 

As for the visions you are having, I am not in a position to comment on that. Maybe it is a sigh from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) to trust your intuition without worrying about the future. 

It all boils down to how comfortable you are feeling with the said proposal. 

Fi amanillah. 

[Abu Hadi]

On 8/5/2022 at 1:55 AM, A786 said:

Salam brothers and sisters,

I've been very stressed about this  marriage/accepting this proposal and it is certainly not an easy decision to make. Every time I think about it, it causes me anxiety/depression and I can only pray to Allah. I cannot find an answer at all and no path is clear to me and I feel so much pressure. Basically to either accept this proposal with some pros and cons (demands which make this decision very difficult) or to say no. However I become scared for my future and what will happen if I say no and the consequences I may have of not getting a better proposal. Its just not an easy decision and I'm feeling the pressure. 

I recently have been seeing this image when I visit imambargah/mosque with light radiating from this vision i see but cannot see anyone. At first I ignored it but I recently read a dua and this image came again at the mosque. It appears when i think about my future and me being scared for my future. I see white light radiating everywhere, and I sense so much positivity in the image and a smile however I can only we sense the smile/posivitivity. The voice says to me everything will be all right with a positive smile and I get so reassured. i saw it atleast twice when I sat in the imambargah and listened to majlis. At first I ignored it and said who am I kidding, but it's appeared atleast 5 times. 

Do you think it's a sign from god and a direction I could take? Has this happened to anyone? Thank you. Any answers may help me make the right decision. 

Alekum Salam. You shouldn't let anyone pressure you into accepting the proposal before you are ready. You should take your time, examine the character of your potential spouse, Iman and Taqwa, these are the most important and will determine if the marriage succeeds or fails. Also, you should look at aklaq, and ask around regarding the spouse to people outside the family of the potential spouse (because they will never give you a strait / objective answer). If those tests are passed, then you should accept the proposal and not worry about the 'ifs' in the future. There is no way to predict the future. If the tests are not passed, you should reject and not leave the potential spouse 'hanging' indefinitely. 

I wouldn't put too much emphasis on these 'visions'. They may be a sign from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) but they also might not mean anything.