I hit my mother (big mistake)

[mangomari8]

Salam my brothers and sisters,

This is my first time using this website and I want to reach out for help. Sunday me and my mother got into a big argument which led to being physical and I hit her 1-2 times. I didn’t even know why I did that and at that moment and didn’t even realize I hit her till a bit after. I cried all night because I’ve realized how much I’ve could’ve hurt her. I’m only 12. She is my mother and I love her so much she’s done so much for me and this is my biggest regret. I’ve tried talking to Allah a couple times begging for forgiveness. I’m also going to the store tomorrow to buy her flowers and a necklace to try to plead for forgiveness. When she comes from work tomorrow I’m going to kiss her feet, we talked about what happend today and we agreed what I did was horrible which really was. Please help what should I do it’s the first time I’ve ever hit her and want to seek forgiveness from both her and Allah. She’s struggled so much our father has left us when I was 8. I’ve had no one by our side expect for my mom and little brother. I feel so bad and can’t stop crying. Please I want my mother to be truly happy and seek forgiveness from both her and Allah.

-Mari

[Guest Hubbe Ali]

Salam are you a girl Just go and ask her to forgive you and become his helping hand so she dont have to work 

[mangomari8]

Yes I am a girl thank you for the tip I am making sure to helping her more.

[Abu_Zahra]

Wa alaikum as salam

As you have written, you must apologize to her and pray to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) for forgiveness

We should try and draw lessons from our experiences in life. Let this incident be a reminder to you in the future to always remain patient with your mother.

[Guest Guest]

The beauty of a mother is that she will be accepting of her children no matter what. However, it is our duty to be kind to our parents, especially if they have done so much for us. You have repented to Allah and apologised to your mother which is good. Just keep a mental note of this incident so you can learn from it and try to avoid such an argument in the future. You're bound to have disagreements with parents, but try to do this as respectfully as possible. If you feel you will get angry, leave the room.

This is the reason why we should avoid anger because the Shaytaan is involved and in doing so causing us to make wrong decisions through these negative emotions. 

Don't beat yourself up about this after apologising and repenting. Learn from it and be nicer to your mother. Show her your apology through your actions, by taking care of her and helping her with daily tasks. I am certain your mother will be more happy with this than anything else.

[Guest Shaik musa faraz]

I also accidentally hit my mother l am 13 years old boy living in India I also gone into a argument with her I felt so bad that I don't want to talk any anybody besides my mother I cried and also overthinking about myself like will Allah will forgive me or never forgive me what happens to me will I ever be successful in future after hitting my mother decades ago please anybody tell me what should I do

-musa

[notme]

12 minutes ago, Guest Shaik musa faraz said:

please anybody tell me what should I do

Apologize to your mother, pray for forgiveness, then never do it again.  

[Quran313]

Do whatever you can to make your mum happy and ALWAYS be kind to her. She's alone with 2 little kids and it's a very difficult situation to be in.

[Mountain]

On 7/29/2021 at 6:54 AM, mangomari8 said:

Salam my brothers and sisters,

This is my first time using this website and I want to reach out for help. Sunday me and my mother got into a big argument which led to being physical and I hit her 1-2 times. I didn’t even know why I did that and at that moment and didn’t even realize I hit her till a bit after. I cried all night because I’ve realized how much I’ve could’ve hurt her. I’m only 12. She is my mother and I love her so much she’s done so much for me and this is my biggest regret. I’ve tried talking to Allah a couple times begging for forgiveness. I’m also going to the store tomorrow to buy her flowers and a necklace to try to plead for forgiveness. When she comes from work tomorrow I’m going to kiss her feet, we talked about what happend today and we agreed what I did was horrible which really was. Please help what should I do it’s the first time I’ve ever hit her and want to seek forgiveness from both her and Allah. She’s struggled so much our father has left us when I was 8. I’ve had no one by our side expect for my mom and little brother. I feel so bad and can’t stop crying. Please I want my mother to be truly happy and seek forgiveness from both her and Allah.

-Mari

I’m not sure wether my other comment went through or not but, Walaikum Asalam and what I would say to do is recite a strong dua (short or long, but it’s better that it be longer, like dua Kumayl, or for a shorter one dua meraj) and then after completing the dua ask Allah Subhana hu wa’ta’ala to forgive you and I’m sure he already has since you seem so regretful and sincere. Also I’m not trying to normalise it but sometimes we make mistakes it happens especially when you are younger or growing or going through something tough don’t let this experience make you think you are a bad muslim, the fact that you feel remorse shows your sincerity, and I think reading a well known dua like I mentioned would help put your heart at peace. Here are some that might also help you feel better [ Dua Nudba, Dua Mashlool, Dua Tawwasul, Dua E Noor, Dua Meraj, Dua Faraj, Dua Hujjat, Nad E Ali - I don’t know wether you would class this as a dua or not but it’s amazing!]