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Salaam everyone

I hope I'm not that annoying... I'm just really nervous ...so just thought to share my worries with SC family again

So in someday soon I'll be visiting a psychiatrist for the first time.. I don't know what to expect

I got an email with the appointment details ..so just found out it's a male therapist...and I'm not comfortable with that...and I told this to my parents and they think I'm finding just an excuse to not to go there... I can't change because when my parents filled the form...and where you cross the gender preference for the therapist...they just didn't cross anything...:ko: 

So my therapist is Jew and he is a licensed or certified mental health professional who is specially trained in Hypnosis technique... what if he use hypnosis on me .. could this be possible ... I don't know what to do?

I Don't want to do any stupid exercises or any type of activity ...and I hope he doesn't ask me that much of my private life.... I don't know what will he ask or where are the limits...

Any advice..what to expect from the first ever appointment?

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Don't take any medication if they offer it to you. I know young people whose lives have been destroyed because they took medication for stress. Look at what happened to the psychologist Jordan Peterso

Bismehe Ta3ala  Sister @Ain-Al Hayat I'm also of the opinion of not taking these psychotic medication.  I'm not a doctor, but I beleive in Islam, the path of Rasoul Allah and his holy progen

Millions of dollars to be made.   His platform, unfortunately was used to make people popular, who don't deserve the attention.

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18 minutes ago, Ain-Al Hayat said:

Salaam everyone

I hope I'm not that annoying... I'm just really nervous ...so just thought to share my worries with SC family again

So in someday soon I'll be visiting a psychiatrist for the first time.. I don't know what to expect

I got an email with the appointment details ..so just found out it's a male therapist...and I'm not comfortable with that...and I told this to my parents and they think I'm finding just an excuse to not to go there... I can't change because when my parents filled the form...and where you cross the gender preference for the therapist...they just didn't cross anything...:ko: 

So my therapist is Jew and he is a licensed or certified mental health professional who is specially trained in Hypnosis technique... what if he use hypnosis on me .. could this be possible ... I don't know what to do?

I Don't want to do any stupid exercises or any type of activity ...and I hope he doesn't ask me that much of my private life.... I don't know what will he ask or where are the limits...

Any advice..what to expect from the first ever appointment?

Don't worry about the gender. Use this to your advantage and open up as much as possible. Talk about everything. Let him help you. Hypnosis is a very effective form of therapy, and there's nothing wrong or dangerous with it so don't worry. But be wary if he quickly tries to push medication. Meds are good for some, not so much for other. Inshallah things go well for you, just walk in knowing that things only get better with every session, as long as you are willing to open up as this lets the psychiatrist treat you more effectively. Good luck! 

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Also, be very grateful that your parents are willing to let you do therapy, many other parents would say there's nothing wrong with you its all in your head haha 

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Salam ,

You should expect a ton of weird and personal questions in your first appointment with the psychiatrist . That's what they usually do and its uncomfortable . I would just really beg my mum to rebook the appointment , without the opposite gender .

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First of all, a psychologist is a therapist with a PhD or PsyD. 
 

A Psychiatrist is a Medical Doctor. 
 

To be in therapy, you need to be receptive and open to talk about yourself, your life, and answer any questions he has so he can give you the right tools. Therapy won’t work if you’re closed off and won’t give him any information about your family life, yourself, and your struggles. that’s not how therapy works.
 

I understand you’re not comfortable with a male therapist but all therapists are trained to do their job: help their patients. If you’re not comfortable with your therapist, you can request a female therapist.
 

Thirdly, his religion doesn’t matter. I have a few male doctors who are another religion than I am (And Jewish) and they are wonderful. My therapist is Christian, and she’s an amazing therapist whom I’ve been having regular therapy sessions with for almost 6 years. She’s given me the tools I need to see a new perspective on pressing issues, and how to cope with anxiety.

Hypnosis in therapy isn’t scary or like the stupid movies. It’s a therapeutic technique to reduce or eliminate anxiety. Many women have done this before giving birth and their labor and delivery is super fast and their bodies require less time to heal. But it can be for other things too.

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4 minutes ago, Laayla said:

Can you look up therapists who are Muslims and female?

Religion is not usually talked about in therapy sessions unless the patient brings up anxiety or fear. The therapist will then teach their patient how to cope with that anxiety through breathing techniques, not to talk about religion, sister.

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Bismehe Ta3ala 

I suggested a Muslim, dear sister because they would understand another fellow Muslim and give advice that would be appropriate.

And not recommend to do anything that will conflict with Islam.

A female Muslimah in my impression is more appropriate for the sister, than a male Jew.

If you see that differently, than it is a matter of preference.

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN ALLAH 

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For your first appointment:

Your therapist will tell you that he is an accredited therapist. That before you begin your session that he is mandated to report child abuse (physical) and elderly abuse.
 

Then he will ask questions about yourself and guide the conversation to help figure-out what’s hurting you. He will give you the space you need to process the emotions that are creating trauma and anger and help you navigate them effectively. He may tell you about some techniques to manage anxiety or anger or any other feelings. If he suggests hypnosis for anxiety, he will ask you first. You’re free to decline. But if the anxiety is really bad the next few sessions he may suggest that it will help again. He will explain the process. Or he may suggest something else, like EMDR or brain-spotting. 
 

 

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Assalam Alikum 

Explain to your parents what you are looking for in a therapist.  I don't know how old you are, but if you can look up a database of therapists in the area or talk to your health care provider who can help you find a therapist with the qualities you are seeking.

It's okay to cancel this appointment, if you are not comfortable.

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN ALLAH 

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11 minutes ago, Laayla said:

Bismehe Ta3ala 

I suggested a Muslim, dear sister because they would understand another fellow Muslim and give advice that would be appropriate.

And not recommend to do anything that will conflict with Islam.

A female Muslimah in my impression is more appropriate for the sister, than a male Jew.

If you see that differently, than it is a matter of preference.

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN ALLAH 

 

 

Of course, sister, that’s an understandable concern. Usually therapists are trained to be sensitive to cultural or religious preferences that would not conflict with Islam and the patient’s values.

If the sister goes to the therapist and doesn’t like his approach and isn’t friendly, then she can change her therapist. 

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44 minutes ago, Laayla said:

Can you look up therapists who are Muslims and female?

No there aren't any Muslim specialist unfortunately... I have asked around 

40 minutes ago, Caroling said:

you need to be receptive and open to talk about yourself, your life, and answer any questions he has so he can give you the right tools. Therapy won’t work if you’re closed off and won’t give him any information about your family life, yourself, and your struggles. that’s not how therapy works.

So is he going to ask about me.. if I'm in any kind of relationship or what ...is he allowed to ask that..or some really intimate questions ... this is going to be awkward..if he does that ... which I'm not comfortable to talk with anyone... I'm not that open

24 minutes ago, Laayla said:

Explain to your parents what you are looking for in a therapist.  I don't know how old you are, but if you can look up a database of therapists in the area or talk to your health care provider who can help you find a therapist with the qualities you are seeking.

It's okay to cancel this appointment, if you are not comfortable.

My father think that shouldn't be a Problem ... because his friend recommended him that clinic... my mother says I should at least give a try ...but I don't know what I'm going talk with that stranger alone in a room 

I can't cancel the appointment ..my father has already paid the advance fee lol ( its not that much but and don't want him to get embarrassed in front of his friend)

I'm 20 .. I know if I want I can cancel the appointment by my own .. maybe I'll do it ... I'm thinking of doing that but this will create more issues between me and my dad

23 minutes ago, Caroling said:

If the sister goes to the therapist and doesn’t like his approach and isn’t friendly, then she can change her therapist. 

I just want to end this matter after that one meeting.. I don't even think I need to go there...but my parents want me to go there ...ya sabr

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For him to help you properly, you'll have to be quite open. This isn't something so easy, but it's necessary.

As for your concerns about your personal details, it's ok; psychologists and psychiatrists are bound by contract to be discreet. They won't tell anyone, even your parents. You can ask him beforehand to make sure.

Getting professional help is important; at least visit him once so you get an idea.

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3 minutes ago, Sabrejet said:

you'll have to be quite open. This isn't something so easy, but it's necessary.

So I can't say I don't want to go in details...that would sound stupid to him definitely

Or I can't say him that I don't want to answer it something like that if I don't want to ...or would the Psychiatrists get mad at me... I hope not

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Just now, Ain-Al Hayat said:

So I can't say I don't want to go in details...that would sound stupid to him definitely

Or I can't say him that I don't want to answer it something like that if I don't want to ...or would the Psychiatrists get mad at me... I hope not

No it won't sound stupid and he won't get mad; if he's a qualified and experienced professional, he'll be very calm and reassuring, and won't make you feel pressured or anxious.

The first psychiatrist that I visited was a retired army officer; not even once did he showcase any hint of rigid military authority or arrogance; he made me feel like an equal, and a peer.

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Great job!

Try it out. Don't be afraid to change if he doesn't work out. Outside of any religious obligations, therapists that don't have a similar culturally background to you often don't work as well as those that do. My therapist is an Egyptian Muslim, and I chose him for that purpose. When I talk about family stuff or whatever, he's more likely to understand. Especially as a woman, there's always the fear that they'd plant the 'oppressed' label on you, and if they're really egotistical, try to convince you to leave your family. If he's not like that then great, but yeah, don't be afraid to make a change if the first meeting doesn't work out. 

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8 minutes ago, BleedKnee said:

Especially as a woman, there's always the fear that they'd plant the 'oppressed' label on you, and if they're really egotistical, try to convince you to leave your family.

They will never put that kind of label on you: it’s very unprofessional. They’ll never convince you to leave your family—they’ll only give you the tools to deal with your family in a way that makes you less stressed-out when you butt heads. 
 

I should clear up a misconception about non-Muslim therapists: they know what family-dynamics are like, from cultural to abusive, to dysfunctional. They won’t be giving you Haram advice, or tell you to abandon your family. These anxieties are a result of unfounded and baseless accusations against professionals who have been in school and trained as long as medical doctors and know more about the psychology of people more than you could ever understand.

This shows that a lot people have really secluded themselves, that non-muslims are some scary “other”. 

If you personally don’t want to see a non-Muslim therapist, that’s perfectly okay. But to make them out to be monsters who are craving to “enlighten you” and will always see you as “oppressed” otherwise is not accurate or okay. Therapists care about their patients, they want to see them thrive and healing. Not disconnected from their friends, families, or religion. 

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Now I'm worried...what if he tries to manipulate me....?

Could this be possible...@BleedKnee

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50 minutes ago, Ain-Al Hayat said:

So is he going to ask about me.. if I'm in any kind of relationship or what ...is he allowed to ask that..or some really intimate questions ... this is going to be awkward..if he does that ... which I'm not comfortable to talk with anyone... I'm not that open

It really depends on the topic. If you’re married, and you have a problem with your spouse that you want to fix, he will ask how long you’ve been together and how long you have had “X, Y, Z” problem. 
 

It seems that you’re not willing to see a therapist. Maybe it’s out of stubbornness. If your parents pre-paid for the appointment and they’re claiming that you’re finding excuses to back out, maybe you have a history of backing out of things you don’t want to do. But sometimes you have to see the forest for the trees. And you have to do things you don’t want to do because it’s good for you. 
 

Therapy is like medicine. You may not like it, but you have to attend the sessions in order to get better. If you’re not taking your medicine when you have a lung infection, then the infection is going to keep growing and you’re never going to feel better. 

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2 minutes ago, Ain-Al Hayat said:

ow I'm worried...what if he tries to manipulate me....?

Girl, I know this is your anxiety talking. You have to recognize that. Stop catastrophizing everything. Your therapist is here to help you. Take a few deep breaths and calm down. 

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2 minutes ago, Caroling said:

Maybe it’s out of stubbornness

No it's not ... I don't want people to judge me and see me as ill person or mentally disturbed ...and probably after that session my family will treat me with an other perspective.. they will see me maybe as a depressed person

4 minutes ago, Caroling said:

maybe you have a history of backing out of things you don’t want to do

What's wrong in that...if you don't like something ..why you should even do that... Is that something to be worried about ... I back out of things which could be harmful...or will have negative effects on me

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2 hours ago, Ain-Al Hayat said:

he is a licensed or certified mental health professional who is specially trained in Hypnosis technique... what if he use hypnosis on me .. could this be possible ...

Watch the watch.

[Watch starts swaying.]

You are getting sleepy. Very sleepy.

Can you hear me, Ain-al Hayat?

When you wake up, you will be the

perfect cook and housekeeper.

When l snap my fingers . . .

wake up and get to work.

 

Of course if this doesn't work, there are Stepford Wives courses.

 

:thankyou:

 

 

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3 minutes ago, Ain-Al Hayat said:

o it's not ... I don't want people to judge me and see me as ill person or mentally disturbed ...and probably after that session my family will treat me with an other perspective.. they will see me maybe as a depressed person

People’s judgments aren’t accurate. They aren’t right. Sometimes other people are ignorant to how life affects all of us. anxiety or depression doesn’t equal mentally disturbed. Only narcissists are mentally disturbed because of how they treat people. 
 

Everyone has stress and anxiety at some point in their lives. But not everyone gets help. Everyone needs a therapist. Everyone. 
 

6 minutes ago, Ain-Al Hayat said:

What's wrong in that...if you don't like something ..why you should even do that... Is that something to be worried about ... I back out of things which could be harmful...or will have negative effects on me

Because some things are good for you. Like going to college and sticking with a job. No one really wants to work, to go to college, but sometimes you just have to suck it up and do it. Self-motivation is an important trait to have. 
 

You don’t know if something will be negative or bad for you. You are assuming you will be harmed in some way. This is your anxiety talking. It’s not fact. 

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I have never been to a therapist but I have been using anti anxiety medications. I think you should ask your parents if you can start with some medications. I can understand your fears. I watch Dr. Phil, and sometimes he is very understanding and compassionate but sometimes he is very mean to people and it seems like he is only bullying people along with other family members. It's very hard to hear blunt judgements and all the things that are wrong with you when you are already in an emotionally fragile state. We expect psychiatrists to be compassionate but sometimes they can become mean. If your family is trying to fix you and he is a family friend, then I would be afraid too. I think medicines are more safe and they really do help. 

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1 minute ago, Caroling said:

Everyone needs a therapist. Everyone. 

This is the only part l disagree with. Especially, with Ain-al Hayat.

As the Germans said, "Take stock of yourself."

Stock is staff -that walking assistance device.

Translation: Be your own staff.

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5 minutes ago, rkazmi33 said:

I have never been to a therapist but I have been using anti anxiety medications. I think you should ask your parents if you can start with some medications. I can understand your fears. I watch Dr. Phil, and sometimes he is very understanding and compassionate but sometimes he is very mean to people and it seems like he is only bullying people along with other family members. It's very hard to hear blunt judgements and all the things that are wrong with you when you are already in an emotionally fragile state. We expect psychiatrists to be compassionate but sometimes they can become mean. If your family is trying to fix you and he is a family friend, then I would be afraid too. I think medicines are more safe and they really do help. 

Dr. Phil is a reality show dude. Most therapists are calm, kind people. 

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19 minutes ago, hasanhh said:

Watch the watch.

[Watch starts swaying.]

You are getting sleepy. Very sleepy.

Can you hear me, Ain-al Hayat?

When you wake up, you will be the

perfect cook and housekeeper.

When l snap my fingers . . .

wake up and get to work.

 

Of course if this doesn't work, there are Stepford Wives courses.

 

:thankyou:

Okay ... I'm not in the jokes right now.. I'm seriously worried if he does use this method .... somehow I won't be able to say no ... because I don't want any awkward moments ... especially with that recommended person ... 

11 minutes ago, rkazmi33 said:

If your family is trying to fix you and he is a family friend, then I would be afraid too.

Exactly .... I have looked at his profile picture ..he looks so suspicious...not even friendly.. I'm kind a scared of his looks

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20 minutes ago, Ain-Al Hayat said:
32 minutes ago, rkazmi33 said:

 

Exactly .... I have looked at his profile picture ..he looks so suspicious...not even friendly.. I'm kind a scared of his looks

You’re not helping yourself.

you don’t know how a therapist is from one pic. 
 

Stop trying to back out of this by making excuses. 

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Don't take any medication if they offer it to you. I know young people whose lives have been destroyed because they took medication for stress. Look at what happened to the psychologist Jordan Peterson when he took something that he was prescribed. Now he says that he didn't know enough about what could happen to him.

The cure is within you and within your lifestyle. And with those people who have been through these things and found ways of betterment. Get knowledge from those that know.

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1 minute ago, Muhammed Ali said:

 

Don't take any medication if they offer it to you. I know young people whose lives have been destroyed because they took medication for stress. Look at what happened to the psychologist Jordan Peterson when he took something that he was prescribed. Now he says that he didn't know enough about what could happen to him.

The cure is within you and within your lifestyle. And with those people who have been through these things and found ways of betterment. Get knowledge from those that know.

 

 

We are not helping the OP, only aggravating her anxiety. You can’t give one example of medication being bad. Countless others have benefited from meds and they’ve been weaned off. 

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Bismehe Ta3ala 

Sister @Ain-Al Hayat

I'm also of the opinion of not taking these psychotic medication.  I'm not a doctor, but I beleive in Islam, the path of Rasoul Allah and his holy progeny.  

When my child was just 7 years old, I had the doctor recommend me to have him on medication.  That was the last time I ever step foot there again.  Now, Mash'Allah my baby is much older now and is fine, healthy and active.

Those drugs only numb you.  Don't sink yourself deeper in a hole.  Please find alternative methods.  I trust your judgment, you have power to do whatever you set your mind to.  Drugs are not the answer.

As you have posted this, believe it from the depths of your heart.

 

وَلَا تَهِنُوا وَلَا تَحْزَنُوا وَأَنْتُمُ الْأَعْلَوْنَ إِنْ كُنْتُمْ مُؤْمِنِينَ
“Do not lose hope, nor be sad. You will surely be victorious if you are true believers.”

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN ALLAH 

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For the love of goodness, medicines are a tool. They aren't against Islam or anything. Taking them is akin to taking vaccinations, or cancer treatment, or any other disease that requires medication. Saying that they are bad sound like something a Mormon or Evangelical would say.

If they are necessary, the doctor will prescribe it. If they aren't, he won't. As someone who is currently on medication, I'd say they can be a gift from God.

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