Immature parents

[Guest Dude]

Every morning my mom wakes us up for fajr namaz. Sometimes, I won't be able to pray it because I had a wet dream during the night and I can't take a shower at 2 am it'll wake everyone up. For years, I would still get up anyways and fake my fajr namaz out of embarrassment of not being able to tell my parents that I'm in a state of Janabat.

Recently though, I finally decided to fight against their taboo and when my mom woke me up for fajr I simply said "can't pray have to shower first" which was a little awkward but I don't really care.

Later on in the day though she said, "don't pray your qadha namaz after zuhr and asr everyone will ask why you didn't pray Fajr (we all pray zohr and asr as a family). Go pray your fajr qadha secretly so nobody asks any questions"

Really? These people are adults how can you be that immature? 

[Abu_Zahra]

You seem to be making the problem more complicated than it really is.

Firstly, wet dreams do not occur that frequently so this scenario is not a typical daily scenario.

Secondly, ghusl only takes 5 minutes, it can't be an excuse not to pray. 

If you're serious about your prayers you wouldn't be avoiding them in this manner. 

[Sabrejet]

Some brothers do have a frequent problem of wet dreams; everyone is different after all.

Btw, if you are fairly sure that ghusl is not possible, tayyamum is the way to go. Carefully consult your marja's risalah to see when it becomes an option.

[Muhammad A-H]

7 hours ago, Guest Dude said:

Sometimes, I won't be able to pray it because I had a wet dream during the night and I can't take a shower at 2 am it'll wake everyone up

That is not a valid excuse. Do not get embarrassed about wet dreams as it is normal. 

[Guest Dude]

41 minutes ago, Muhammad Al-Hurr said:

That is not a valid excuse. Do not get embarrassed about wet dreams as it is normal. 

Yes but parents seem to be acting very immature

[Abu_Zahra]

47 minutes ago, Guest Dude said:

Yes but parents seem to be acting very immature

You're shifting the blame on your parents before evaluating your own position. Perhaps, as @Sabrejet suggested, you really are having wet dreams on a daily basis without any stimulation (in which case you will simply have to shower 5mins before your fajr prayers). Make it your daily routine.

Or perhaps there are other issues to be resolved regarding this regular state of janabah. 

[Guest Dude]

11 hours ago, Mahdavist said:

You're shifting the blame on your parents before evaluating your own position. Perhaps, as @Sabrejet suggested, you really are having wet dreams on a daily basis without any stimulation (in which case you will simply have to shower 5mins before your fajr prayers). Make it your daily routine.

Or perhaps there are other issues to be resolved regarding this regular state of janabah. 

Is there any way to do ghusl at the sink? 

[Abu_Zahra]

1 hour ago, Guest Dude said:

Is there any way to do ghusl at the sink? 

No, not without making a huge mess. 

[Muhammad A-H]

1 hour ago, Guest Dude said:

Is there any way to do ghusl at the sink? 

Do you not have a shower, bath, pool, etc. to perform ghusl? If you do not then perhaps you can fill a bucket with water and perform ghusl in the backyard.

[Guest Dude]

25 minutes ago, Muhammad Al-Hurr said:

Do you not have a shower, bath, pool, etc. to perform ghusl? If you do not then perhaps you can fill a bucket with water and perform ghusl in the backyard.

Yes we have a shower but its in my parents room so it will wake them but theres no other choice

[Laayla]

3 hours ago, Guest Dude said:

Is there any way to do ghusl at the sink? 

 How were you planning on doing that?

[Muhammad A-H]

2 hours ago, Guest Dude said:

Yes we have a shower but its in my parents room so it will wake them but theres no other choice

Your religious duty takes priority over parents waking up or embarrassment. 

[The Green Knight]

Tayamum can solve away that problem. It exists specifically for that problem.

Read: https://www.al-islam.org/articles/laws-and-practices-how-perform-wudhu-and-tayammum

[Guest Dude]

3 hours ago, The Green Knight said:

Tayamum can solve away that problem. It exists specifically for that problem.

Read: https://www.al-islam.org/articles/laws-and-practices-how-perform-wudhu-and-tayammum

Its acceptable to use tayamum in this scenario? Where i can't shower at night because my parents will not like it? 

[Ashvazdanghe]

14 hours ago, Guest Dude said:

Is there any way to do ghusl at the sink?

Salam you can use a wet sponge or wet towel which you can use wet sponge that has enough  amount of water that  drops from it which it a creative  way by Iranian prisoners during Iran-Iraq war because Baathi warders didn't  allow them to use shower for doing Ghusl .

some rullings about Ghusl

https://www.sistani.org/english/book/48/2168/

[Abu_Zahra]

2 hours ago, Guest Dude said:

Its acceptable to use tayamum in this scenario? Where i can't shower at night because my parents will not like it? 

No I don't think so. 

Your parents wake up anyway for the morning prayers, so going and showering for five minutes shouldn't be an issue.

Also if this is happening on a very frequent basis then you need to check if you're somehow responsible for it. 

[Muhammad A-H]

5 hours ago, The Green Knight said:

Tayamum can solve away that problem. It exists specifically for that problem.

Read: https://www.al-islam.org/articles/laws-and-practices-how-perform-wudhu-and-tayammum

In the specific scenario tayammum is not accepted.

[Ain-Al Hayat]

I personally don't like the thread's name/title "immature parents" ... because that's not the actual issue..that we are discussing... anyways regarding to your ghusl Problem I think @Ashvazdanghe gave a good idea...if you are ashamed of taking a shower ...just because someone will find out... there are not even someone but your own parents...I don't think that your parents are that immature that they will be saying all around that our son has wet dreams every night or whatsoever...from there I can see what your priorities are... your self is more important than fajr prayers...hmm.. I hope you will overcome this temporary embarrassment... it's just like having periods and you have to hide  it...nonsense lol btw I'm not anymore embarrassed ...I just tell them straightaway why I'm not praying..so they won't ask again:)