Thoughts 2021

[Guest]

21 hours ago, Gaius I. Caesar said:

@starlight and @Marbles - Hope you two are doing okay as well. I wonder what happened bro Darth Vader

Thank you GC, I am fine,just very busy. Marbles is good too inshallah. Hope he will post here himself.

[Gaius I. Caesar]

4 hours ago, starlight said:

Thank you GC, I am fine,just very busy. Marbles is good too inshallah. Hope he will post here himself.

I'm glad to read that, I been busy as well, I hope your day is going well. That would be nice to see a post from Marbles.

[slavelight]

The smart way of keeping people passive and obedient is to strictly limit the spectrum of acceptable opinion, but allow very lively debate within that spectrum.

quote I found

[313_Waiter]

On 9/5/2021 at 8:51 PM, Haji 2003 said:

If we say that everything is an opinion and not a fact, then is this an opinion as well, or is it a fact?

I believe that the Truth (al Haqq) and the Reality (al Haqiqah) exists. For one to say that reality does not exist makes no sense because then then reality is that the reality does not exist lol (if you get what I mean).  

[Eddie Mecca]

On 10/10/2021 at 8:23 PM, slavelight said:

The smart way of keeping people passive and obedient is to strictly limit the spectrum of acceptable opinion, but allow very lively debate within that spectrum.

That's a Noam Chomsky quote

[Haji 2003]

How it started:

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He earned a Master of Defence Studies from the Royal Military College of Canada in 2004 with a 55-page thesis that supported pre-emptive war in Iraq,

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Russell_Williams_(criminal)

 

How it's going:

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Along with the murder charges, Williams was charged with breaking and entering, forcible confinement, and the sexual assault of two other women in connection with two separate home invasions near Tweed, Ontario in September 2009. According to reports, the women had been bound in their homes and Williams had taken photos of them. Williams was also charged in the death of Corporal Marie-France Comeau, a 37-year-old military traffic technician based at CFB Trenton, who had been found dead inside her home in late November 2009.

 

[notme]

I start my new job as soon as I'm ready. I asked my adult son if he could babysit his younger siblings each morning from 7 until they get on their school buses for $150 per week. He said that was too much - he would feel like he's robbing the poor. 

I don't think this kid knows how negotiation is supposed to work. 

[notme]

I request duas that my childcare arrangement works out. My second son wants to babysit his siblings for free, and I've told my oldest son that he will be emergency backup babysitter whether he's wants to or not. Neither of them is fully competent or reliable, but they both could be if they tried. I wrote out a detailed set of instructions. One thing that I do really, really well is write instructions. It seems pretty easy, but whenever humans are involved things tend to not go as expected. 

[Hameedeh]

11 hours ago, notme said:

I start my new job as soon as I'm ready. I asked my adult son if he could babysit his younger siblings each morning from 7 until they get on their school buses for $150 per week. He said that was too much - he would feel like he's robbing the poor. 

I don't think this kid knows how negotiation is supposed to work. 

I think he is pretty smart to say that! Ask him again and say "for $15.00 per week" and then see how good he negotiates!  

[notme]

2 hours ago, Hameedeh said:

I think he is pretty smart to say that! Ask him again and say "for $15.00 per week" and then see how good he negotiates!  

He explained that any money I earn is part of the household earnings. If he earns money within the household, it is a transfer, not a gain. He says he is better off if I have more money than if he has more, because I spend on things we need and he spends on things he wants. He wants to work for free - which gives me no leverage if he decides to sleep in, but it will help my bank account. 

At first he said "take it out of my rent.' I reminded him that we aren't charging him rent. He said "I think I'm coming out ahead."

He's a communist. I've raised a communist. I'm so proud! 

[notme]

I just nominated myself to be the secretary of the state organizing committee of a new political party. What am I getting myself into? 

If nobody else will do it, the project will fail and we will be stuck with the status quo. 

But I'm very uncomfortable with the idea of being expected to keep organized paperwork. I just finished two months of searching for my social security card. 

[notme]

On 10/17/2021 at 10:13 PM, notme said:

If nobody else will do it, the project will fail and we will be stuck with the status quo. 

Election results will be certified and announced on Wednesday, but I was running unopposed.  I am not prepared to be a leader at state level - I'm not even a leader in my local community. I'm only out of necessity the leader in my own household, because nobody else will do it. Please make tons of duas that I don't fail miserably. 

[Haji 2003]

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Lesbians feel pressured into having sex with trans women over fears of being branded 'transphobic' while those who refuse face death threats, claim activists

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10132311/Some-lesbians-feel-pressured-sex-trans-women-fears-branded-transphobic.html

[Diaz]

Please pray for my classmate, he passed away for unknown reason. He was kind and respectful person, he always help people when they needed help regarding their studies.

[Diaz]

18 hours ago, Diaz said:

Please pray for my classmate, he passed away for unknown reason. He was kind and respectful person, he always help people when they needed help regarding their studies.

It’s confirmed by the doctors that he committed suicide. May allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) forgive us all in this world and the hereafter.

[ummulbaneen]

On 10/17/2021 at 9:13 PM, notme said:

But I'm very uncomfortable with the idea of being expected to keep organized paperwork. I just finished two months of searching for my social security card. 

Its never too late to learn.

Start with creating a system and plan before the paper work gets to high traffic of incoming and outgoing documents - like the very basics - in, out, sort piles, bring up (timeline) system etc.

Are you familiar with any filing systems? Your local librarian should be able to teach you some basics.

[notme]

14 hours ago, ummulbaneen said:

Are you familiar with any filing systems? Your local librarian should be able to teach you some basics.

No, I'm not, but thanks for the library suggestion. My executive function skills are pretty undeveloped and it would improve my life in many ways to bring that up to a reasonable level. 

I keep lists and a calendar of appointments and plans. 

[rkazmi33]

I have been posting about facing harassment by a non-muslim. It's actually one guy who is my co-worker, for 5 months he has been stalking me at work. He just feels the need to be in the same room with me, if I am working in one room, he is there, if I go to other room, he follows me. And all my other co-workers are supporting him. They intentionally schedule us so that we are both doing testing in the same room. I read a reddit thread by a woman, she also mentioned that a creepy guy has been harassing her and her manager is intentionally scheduling her with that guy on the same days. I work in the second shift and there are only 3 people working in the second shift. Now the other guy is leaving early or just calling in so that only me and the creepy guy are in the building.

I am so frustrated. I don't understand why that guy is so desperate. If he cannot get a girlfriend, I am sure he can afford a prostitute, and I don't understand why my other co-workers are supporting him. They don't do any work and that's the bad thing about intelligent people. Less intelligent people can deal with boredom, but intelligent people when they are bored, they just use these sadistic, sick, twisted, means to create drama and entertain themselves. I am thinking about changing jobs but I just tell myself it's not so bad. He is just stalking me, not passing any comments. But his consistent stalking has scared me. I cannot stand to be in the same room with him.

Has anyone else noticed that harassment has increased so much since 2019? I have not been able to stay at a job for very long and it's only because of these creeps which are present in every company. I read in the news that women are dropping out of work place and I think this harassment may be the reason. I honestly just want to quit and not even apply for new jobs. People think the career of influencer is degrading, I think that's more respectful for women. At least they deal with all the creeps behind a computer screen. They don't have to face the creeps every single day. I wonder if corporate people are doing this intentionally. Relaxing their policies about harassment so that more women drop out of work place and they get married and start having children. Is this all because of falling birth rate? 

Edited November 2, 2021 by rkazmi33

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[Haji 2003]

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On 11/2/2021 at 9:47 AM, rkazmi33 said:

one guy who is my co-worker, for 5 months he has been stalking me at work. He just feels the need to be in the same room with me, if I am working in one room, he is there, if I go to other room, he follows me. 

Maybe he is afraid to be alone. Does he say annoying things to you? As long as he stays at least 6 feet away from you (covid-19 requirement), can you ignore him? 

[rkazmi33]

11 hours ago, Guest guest said:

Maybe he is afraid to be alone. Does he say annoying things to you? As long as he stays at least 6 feet away from you (covid-19 requirement), can you ignore him? 

He doesn't stalk anyone else, only me and he doesn't look afraid at all. He is very intimidating, he looks like an incel who has been rejected by women all his life and he is full of bitterness, hate and revenge. He is taking revenge from me for all the women who rejected him.  I am afraid of him, everyday I hate going to work because of him and I am constantly distracted because of him. I don't know, when you tell someone over and over again you are not interested, and they don't get the message then they look like a psycho who won't ever leave you alone. My family wants me to marry a guy who has a personality exactly like him, and I guess that's why I hate him so much. The more he is around me, more I become convinced that I will end up with someone like him and I have no other options. 

Anyway, I have not tried talking to my manager, because if they are supporting him, they won't do anything even if I do complain. I have been posting on my social media about stalking and started applying for new jobs and he has stopped. But I don't think it will last, I think he is only doing it for few days, he will be back to stalking if he sees I have decided to stay. I am autistic, so I am not very good at social cues, but I feel that at every company, there's a pressure to choose "work-husband" and since I haven't chosen anyone, team has assigned him as my work-husband. I just hate this idea, why it cannot be work brother or work friend? Using the word husband for a  stranger non-muslim is so disgusting and it makes me cringe. 

Edited November 5, 2021 by rkazmi33

[shadow_of_light]

On 10/13/2021 at 3:02 PM, notme said:

I start my new job as soon as I'm ready. I asked my adult son if he could babysit his younger siblings each morning from 7 until they get on their school buses for $150 per week. He said that was too much - he would feel like he's robbing the poor. 

I don't think this kid knows how negotiation is supposed to work. 

We also have hired our 6 year old daughter to work with her 2.5 year old brother at least 2 hours per day. We signed a contract with her and before it, she had an interview. She has to read books for him, teach him to paint, ... . The contract includes some clauses for example she has to be kind to her brother, so he will learn to be kind or she has to paint so he will learn to paint, ... .

She also agreed to give a certain percent of her salary to the poor. 

[Diaz]

45 minutes ago, shadow_of_light said:

We also have hired our 6 year old daughter to work with her 2.5 year old brother at least 2 hours per day. We signed a contract with her and before it, she had an interview. She has to read books for him, teach him to paint, ... . The contract includes some clauses for example she has to be kind to her brother, so he will learn to be kind or she has to paint so he will learn to paint, ... .

She also agreed to give a certain percent of her salary to the poor. 

Mashallah sister, this is so cute. May allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) protect your u and ur family. 

[shadow_of_light]

4 hours ago, rkazmi33 said:

He doesn't stalk anyone else, only me and he doesn't look afraid at all. He is very intimidating, he looks like an incel who has been rejected by women all his life and he is full of bitterness, hate and revenge. He is taking revenge from me for all the women who rejected him.  I am afraid of him, everyday I hate going to work because of him and I am constantly distracted because of him. I don't know, when you tell someone over and over again you are not interested, and they don't get the message then they look like a psycho who won't ever leave you alone. My family wants me to marry a guy who has a personality exactly like him, and I guess that's why I hate him so much. The more he is around me, more I become convinced that I will end up with someone like him and I have no other options. 

 

BE CAREFUL! 

Change either your job or your shift. Please take my advice seriously.

[notme]

The people who I work with like and appreciate me! 

I've missed appreciation. 

Edited November 5, 2021 by notme
Typo.

[rkazmi33]

10 hours ago, shadow_of_light said:

BE CAREFUL! 

Change either your job or your shift. Please take my advice seriously.

Yes I am trying to find another job. I am thinking if he goes back to being creepy, I will take days off. 

[iCenozoic]

On 4/22/2021 at 8:45 PM, hasanhh said:

 "Alright . . . Pay Attention"

l is going to be away for awhile so all of you behave yourselves, don't miss salah . . .

OR

Y'all get the verbal "whack-whack" when l gets me back here."

Salam All 

Hm, where did Hasanhhh go?

[Haji 2003]

[notme]

I request prayers for my parents and for my sister and her kids. My sister and her kids have covid, but they are all young and healthy. My mom is unvaccinated and refuses to get tested. 

I guess we will not be going to visit next week, as planned. 

[Guest 1234]

@rkazmi33That is disgusting and terrible. I hope you can overcome this issue iA. You have to leave or do something, your dignity in Islam is super important

[Haji 2003]

[PureExistence1]

On 4/22/2021 at 5:45 PM, hasanhh said:

l is going to be away for awhile so all of you behave yourselves, don't miss salah . . .

Salaam,

Been concerned about not seeing you around here for so long, then found this post saying you were going to be gone for awhile. That brings a bit of relief knowing it was a "planned disappearance", but still, we wish you were back and hope everythings going on wherever you are!!!

Edited December 28, 2021 by PureExistence1

[Haji 2003]

 

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