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2 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

Salam,

The well known quote goes something along the lines of "if your goals don't scare you, they're not big enough". 

What's something big you want to accomplish? 

getting married but, i cant find my true love and soulmate:sorry:

also i am studying but sometimes i think i don't fit in the nursing (scientist) world (i am definetally sure i dont want to become a medical-specialist or something along those lines, because they do literally nothing than running after fame and money)  i really have times, where i tough't i follow my dreams but at the end, i found out its not fitting me at all..now i am just leaving everything to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).. elsewhere i mess up everything 

am i the only one who have times i feel really insecure and scared about my future, also  i have no idea where life brings me too and it scares me even more..:byecry:

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One professor wrote during portfolio evaluations that my understanding of symbolism and writing skills were better than anyone else in the class. Another prof. said in the beginning of class that he only praised two people in his teaching career and both of them went on to become writers; one was on Oprah. I was the third person whose writing he had praised. 

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1 hour ago, hasanhh said:

That ain't a "goal," but a "goner."

hehe.........soo funny

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2 hours ago, F.M said:

getting married but, i cant find my true love and soulmate:sorry:

also i am studying but sometimes i think i don't fit in the nursing (scientist) world (i am definetally sure i dont want to become a medical-specialist or something along those lines, because they do literally nothing than running after fame and money)  i really have times, where i tough't i follow my dreams but at the end, i found out its not fitting me at all..now i am just leaving everything to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).. elsewhere i mess up everything 

am i the only one who have times i feel really insecure and scared about my future, also  i have no idea where life brings me too and it scares me even more..:byecry:

Wallah I'm going through the exact same thing, it gets scary sometimes. Even I am studying something medical related, and I don't know if its gonna get me anywhere as I don't think its my main passion anymore. 

Just don't let anyone or your family block you from your passions.

fee amanillah

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2 minutes ago, 3wliya_maryam said:

Wallah I'm going through the exact same thing, it gets scary sometimes. Even I am studying something medical related, and I don't know if its gonna get me anywhere as I don't think its my main passion anymore. 

Just don't let anyone or your family block you from your passions.

fee amanillah

indeed!! everyone who works in medical field and pharmaceutical field, works there only for the money, also lots don't even take their job seriously...

also you should work extreme hard, while your'e salary isn't that much!! and if your'e salary is much than it comes from a haram source (health insurers that take waay to much money from the patients and and divide haram money, or the doctors work together with the insurance and forget the patients.... and so many more combinations)

this world changed into a place... where everything goes about money and pleasure..

I never tought i will ever hate this world as much as now

 

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2 minutes ago, hasanhh said:

The word "disgusted" and the phrase "don't have a lot of use for it" are the ways l express it.

Ok, thanx my english isn't that good, coz i come from a country where we don't speak english 

thanks for your'e feedback, brother!

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8 minutes ago, hasanhh said:

:eat:"The knife is already out. You gonna stop me?"

As for family, in my case l'd get sabotaged, bad-mouthed, and so forth.

haha

I just find it unfair imo. At the end of the day its your life, your decisions, period.

 

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Just now, 3wliya_maryam said:

haha

I just find it unfair imo. At the end of the day its your life, your decisions, period.

 

Well said!!!!

no one can decide , what you want in life

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3 minutes ago, F.M said:

Ok, thanx my english isn't that good, coz i come from a country where we don't speak english 

thanks for your'e feedback, brother!

What you wrote is acceptable. l only use different expressions.

1 minute ago, 3wliya_maryam said:

haha

I just find it unfair imo. At the end of the day its your life, your decisions, period.

 

l'm not sure which element you find "unfair"? My post, reference to family, or other ?

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3 hours ago, F.M said:

this world changed into a place... where everything goes about money and pleasure..

You raised a valid point. I work at this private firm and it's all about money monry money. I'm like I'm working this hard just to fill the pockets of a CEO who has nothing to do with God. I would say defs do something in your career that makes you feel good and what aligns with your values.

 

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2 hours ago, Zainuu said:

Want to draw out housing plans for homeless and poor people. 

Specially, I feel sad about the terrible state of Indian Muslim society.

finally someone with a good heart..

can i please help you!! i had same dream......the only thing that does in fact motivate me for studying is to help those people in need:sorry:

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10 minutes ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

You raised a valid point. I work at this private firm and it's all about money monry money. I'm like I'm working this hard just to fill the pockets of a CEO who has nothing to do with God. I would say defs do something in your career that makes you feel good and what aligns with your values.

 

it true, 

only thing that keeps me motivated.... is to help others and please allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).. thats why i choosed the become nurse or even a nurse scientist....(my biggest interest is dentistry but it will not bring me soo close to allah as being a nurse/scientist, it would rather bring me closer to money and  materalistical pleasure)

i myself am totally not a materallist-person and do work for my hereafter way more than for money.... it feels great helping people, especially if you could help people who live really tight as the poor countries

 

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9 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

What's something big you want to accomplish? 

I want to finish school and go to collage. I want to get a doctors degree then go learn in the Hawza’s of Najaf and Qum.

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3 hours ago, Zainuu said:

Want to draw out housing plans for homeless and poor people. 

Similar, but in the United States. 

I want to design and build communities, not suburbs, and for poor and other working people, not for rich people. 

And I want to improve recycling and energy production, to develop a closed system for us, no waste. 

And I want to open a free restaurant. 

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My Future Goals/Plans:

- Lose Some Weight

- Find another job

- Whenever my parents are ready to marry me then get married.

- Complete Repentence

- Do More Good Deeds where possible.

- Write Books.

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Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) created all humans with certain talents and abilities with a purpose.

My goal is to ensure my God's given talents and abilities to suit the purpose of why i was created and came into existent  in this world.

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42 minutes ago, hasanhh said:

With me around, you'd go bankrupt in no time. :eat:

:coffee:"Now what have l not eaten today?"

I'll be sure to notify you if I'm ever able to open my restaurant. Nobody will be turned away for inability to pay, and even if someone just wants to see what it's all about, they will be welcome. I'll serve mostly sandwiches, and on special occasions, "American style" meals. 

I guess before I can do that, I'll need to be rich. I doubt I'd get rich designing and building low income communities. 

But only Allah knows what the future will be. 

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47 minutes ago, Meedy said:

My Future Goals/Plans:

- Lose Some Weight

- Find another job

- Whenever my parents are ready to marry me then get married.

- Complete Repentence

- Do More Good Deeds where possible.

- Write Books.

Ahhhh . . . you'll fail. :hahaha:     BECAUSE: There ain't no prioritization in yar list. Besides, this reads like a wish list.

Thar's ah ship waiting for you. Hop aboard.  :titanic:

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20 minutes ago, notme said:

I doubt I'd get rich designing and building low income communities. 

Not low income, "downsized". Especially for men, retired/retiring type.

Pay attention to the garage. Set back --not in-your-face-when you pull-in-- spacing; 9 foot or larger door(s) oversize garage; some with/some without a shop floor -separate room with large door in some cases (heavy power tools); boat or trailer space; [maybe a 12/15 foot door for RVs]; Some 1/4 acre, some 1/3 and a few 1/2;  Flat floors from room-2-room {as we get older we start getting shuffly and not picking our feet up, especially when wearing slippers(which fall off); if there's a basement there can be an elevator; Kitchens be male oriented [none of that lower shelf scat where we have to get down on the floor to get anything --elevated stove and refrigerator for the same dang reason]; . . . you can get other basic info by note-taking from gerontology literature/specifications . . . and design it so it is cheap-to-keep. 

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15 hours ago, F.M said:

myself am totally not a materallist-person and do work for my hereafter way more than for money.

Yes, I know for sure that some of our scholars even had to struggle to make money. The reason why they're so happy and content is because they are doing everything for God's pleasure. You don't have to be a scholar but yes do something where you feel like you're serving this religion in some way, it can be by helping others. You will always be in state of remembrance of Allah and your work will earn you countless blessings. You have a good niyah already.

At the end of the day our money won't matter. Some things which can increase our overall happiness and contentment:

- Quality relationship with our partner 

- Raising a happy family

- Giving back to the community and helping others

- Doing our waajibat

- Maintaining ties with extended family, cousins etc. 

Honestly, it's these simple things which make us happy and content. I feel like everyone has complicated things. 

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18 hours ago, F.M said:

finally someone with a good heart..

can i please help you!! i had same dream......the only thing that does in fact motivate me for studying is to help those people in need:sorry:

Thanks a lot! It's really kind of you.

I would definitely reach out to you. This world is worth nothing and I frankly don't see any good in me if others cannot benefit from it. 

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3 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

Honestly, it's these simple things which make us happy and content. I feel like everyone has complicated things. 

Yes. So true!!! 

For me, what matters the least is my job. I do it just to earn living because it would only benefit the rich. Neither me nor anyone else who needs. Even my job is not such that it might possible help someone. 

I once heard a scholar and what he said just went deep into my mind. 

He said: "It feels like Allah says when you hurry in prayers,"Where?" 

You say,"Job. The boss is calling."

He says,"Who is your provider? Who is your nourisher?"

And you go silent."

And literally I have observed it that for the sake of this world if we take our faith lightly, it only brings disappointment and waste of time. On the other hand, doing everything for the sake of Allah brings a person at ease. 

 

Those who cry while praying, stay happy facing all the calamities in this world. While those who take faith lightly, cry at every moment of their life on every small thing. 

 

Faith makes a person much mature in thinking even if he/she is a child by age and makes a person much swift and proactive in action even if he/she has grown old. 

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18 hours ago, notme said:

Similar, but in the United States. 

I want to design and build communities, not suburbs, and for poor and other working people, not for rich people. 

And I want to improve recycling and energy production, to develop a closed system for us, no waste. 

And I want to open a free restaurant. 

Yes. I need a good amount of money for that. Don't know how to raise. 

The least I want is to prepare a logic that is cost, space and time efficient such that the need is served from the perspective of the needy and the implementation is easy. Then comes the plan.

It should serve as a system. So that even if I die, the system remains alive. 

May Allah help us. 

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