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Hello. I hope you’re all doing well. I’m not really looking for a Dua or a “fix all my problems” prayer, but I would appreciate some insight/advice. My heart feels heavy. My soul is tired. Basically, my main problem is that my duas are never answered. I’ve asked for multiple things throughout my short life, and it never works out in my favor. There was one thing that I asked Allah since I was 16. 7 years later I gave up after no response. Now, there’s something else I really, really, really want. I’ve done every dua - Tawassaul, Mashool, Kumayl, etc (multiple times each) I’ve written countless of letters to Imam Mahdi , as well as nidther . Nothing, no response. I’ve watched countless of videos and scanned many websites and books on the Etiquette of Dua. I’ve stopped listening to music, fixed my prayers, stopped doing a lot of sins. Still,

Nothing. This Ramadhan was the first I ever truly took seriously, the first Layatul Qadr I stayed up the whole night as I truly became a better Muslim. The last thing I’m trying out now is Ziyarat Ashura. I’m on day 10. 

Once again, I’m not looking for really a solution as I feel like i am knowledgable on this type of stuff, but the reality is hitting me. I feel as if God is breaking my heart. I hear no response. I gave up my other wishes/hajat because I didn’t get a response on those either (legit prayed for 7 years and once again, no response) I know the Quran says we might love something that’s bad for us, but I’m not wishing for anything bad. In fact, the thing I’ve prayed for 7 years would have prevented me from sinning and is advised in Islam. So, I don’t understand. 

How is it that everything I wish for is bad for me? I don’t doubt God is real. I love Allah, the Prophet, and the Ahlulbayt. But, why is it everything I ask for goes unanswered?  I’m always returned empty handed. I’m crying every single day. My parents are worried, and praying for me, once again no response. They don’t know what to do, and just told me to give up and move on. The anxiety is killing me. i can't sleep, I've lost my appetite, I'm going to the bathroom multiple times (this happens a lot when I'm anxious). My body is physically reacting to the depression i am going through. I just would like some insight on why the silence? Is Allah upset with me? Or am I just the person He decided will never get what she wants in this world? 

I'm not looking for an answer on how to get my dua answered. I know there isn't a 100% guarantee. But, I feel abandoned. so any advice on how to stop feeling as if Allah failed me/disappointed me would be much appreciated. 

Thank you. 

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also this: az khuda, juz khuda, cheezy na kha...

in farsi, it means, from God, except (for) God, don't ask for anything else

in other words only want God from God, and nothing else...

personally i have become quite agnostic but starting to feel like i am relearning Islam...

i no longer believe in doing 40 day rituals and ziarat recitations... i believe in applying what's written in them

 

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Would you mind telling us examples of what you've been praying for? Sometimes an answered prayer is divine help instead of a divine wish granted. Let's look at 3 different scenarios that could play out when 3 men pray for a wife: One of them is miraculously introduced to a woman he's never met, they get along, and he's married before the year ends. The second person does what he knows he has to do in order to get married; he works hard to get a career, he works on his iman, he establishes his reputation as a respectable man, he takes care of his physical appearance, etc. Now he's much more likely to marry, all because God helped him accomplish all those things. The third person prays for a wife and just sits around waiting for God to send her to him. It could happen, but if it doesn't it's probably a sign that you're you should take action and know that God will help you in the steps you take.

A couple more things that are relevant: 1. If you want Allah to fulfill your needs, fulfill the needs of others. 2. Say salawat before qunut. 3. Sometimes God doesn't answer prayers because he loves you and wants you to keep praying to Him like that. 4. Pray for others

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As for my prayers, just trying to survive day to day and keep my soul and mind intact, and without God and his help and helping me fight, I would've long been defeated. 

Demonic Possession

As for right now
Feels like thousands of swords
With thousands of demons
Attacking the core foundations
Maybe it's crazy that I see them
Maybe it's not
If it's a hallucination then even my mind is my enemy
If it's not then my mind is a battle ground
In the darkest moments
I fight back with the weapons I've been given
Patience must prevail
Guarding what I've been given
Hoping in what remains
And the fuel is love
I turn to God in the darkest of places
And use his weapons to fight back an overwhelming pain
I believe in the retribution
The retribution they will be given
By me now to the best of my ability
And by God and his guides in the future 

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On 5/26/2020 at 5:37 PM, YoungSkiekh313 said:

Salam Alykum, 

Dua is a sword of a believer, 

And there is etiquette on how to perform dua to achieve its maximum power:

1.reciting bismillah rahman rahim before starting the dua 

2. Followed by salwat/ finish salwat when you finish your dua,

3.praying for others first such as your parents, friends, orphans, oppressed, elderly, sick, for our prophets, Imams, and the Imam of our time, 

4. Pray with your hands reaching towards the sky, begging Allah with tears and humbling yourself before Allah, the only authority that can accept your dues. As a dua is the only thing a believer has to offer Allah 

5. Maybe certain sins are blocking your dues. Reflect, are you praying 5 times a day on time?, are you fasting? are you paying zakat? are you respecting your parents? are you lying? are you backbiting?Hows your Akhlaq?  reflect on the sins that may be blocking your dues. 

 

In Al Kafi V 1 page 330 four possible "replies" Allah may grant to a dua

1. Allah (عزّ وجلّ) grants the supplicant’s request right away;

2. Allah (عزّ وجلّ) accepts the supplicant’s request but postpones granting it for some time, as He likes to hear the voice of the supplicant;

3. Allah (عزّ وجلّ) accepts the supplication but fulfils it not by granting what the supplicant had asked for but by erasing the supplicant’s sins, placing it as compensation for his wrongs;

4. Allah (عزّ وجلّ) accepts the supplication but fulfils it not by granting what the supplicant had asked for but by reserving it for the supplicant as provision for the hereafter.

Allah is the most knowledgeable and knows what is best for you based on your circumstance, and a whole host of other factors. Look at all the other blessings you have missed due to overlooking your blessings such as reciting Ziyarat Ashura for 10 days, is this not a blessing? How about fasting for the whole month of ramadan and staying up and calling to your lord, is this not a blessing? Having parents, is this not a blessing? Having love for Allah, his messenger, and his family, is this not a blessing? 

Sometimes you need to trust in Allahs plan, because he is the best of planners. He has ultimate knowledge, and what you may think is good, maybe isn't good for you RIGHT NOW. Maybe down the road Allah will grant you this dua, but you need to trust in Allah's plan. Don't stop asking, because the more you knock on Allah's door, he will open it one day.

Good Luck, 

WS 

That's the Academic answer. The more boring one too and the one that probably has no effect on anyone but an Academic response to why people believe prayers are not answered.

My answer is, God will drown you and let you drown and increase harm until you believe in him and realize who he is, saying "when will you recognize me, when will you use me, when you realize I am your weapon with you".

Your foundations are breaking a part, your city drowning, and you don't recognize him, there with you, saying "Pick me up fool, before you perish, pick up fool, and will defeat all the spells and demonic forces, pick me up fool and you will be given all that you wish for".

Billions of people recite Suratal Fatiha but remain misguided for life. Prayers without belief in Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and his Guides and their guidance, and their light and not believing in that which is hidden, will result in no benefit.

"....so let him believe in me and respond to me so that they maybe guided".

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The best things we can ask from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) are guidance and forgiveness. 

Of course you can make dua for other things as well but ultimately nothing is more important than being guided and staying on the right path as well as mercy and forgiveness of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).

As @khamosh21 has mentioned, one must take their own efforts and initiatives for what they want to achieve. This should be seen as part of the du'a, because du'a is not intended to be isolated from actions. 

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8 hours ago, Talk313 said:

I'm not looking for an answer on how to get my dua answered. I know there isn't a 100% guarantee. But, I feel abandoned. so any advice on how to stop feeling as if Allah failed me/disappointed me would be much appreciated. 

Salam my sitution is very similar to you anyway also you/ we must consider that every time our prayers don't answer same as we think also it mentioned that Allah loves hearing duas from his good believer so he postpones responding to his/her duas to hear more duas from his/her but never forgets these prayers & postpones answering them to judgment day to give real reward of prayers to you instead of uncompleted materializing answers to your duas in  this world that it said if believer knew importance  of not answering prayers they would wish to remain forever in hardship without answering  their prayers in this world.

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On 5/26/2020 at 5:51 PM, Guest Joker said:

That's the Academic answer. The more boring one too and the one that probably has no effect on anyone but an Academic response to why people believe prayers are not answered.

My answer is, God will drown you and let you drown and increase harm until you believe in him and realize who he is, saying "when will you recognize me, when will you use me, when you realize I am your weapon with you".

Your foundations are breaking a part, your city drowning, and you don't recognize him, there with you, saying "Pick me up fool, before you perish, pick up fool, and will defeat all the spells and demonic forces, pick me up fool and you will be given all that you wish for".

Billions of people recite Suratal Fatiha but remain misguided for life. Prayers without belief in Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and his Guides and their guidance, and their light and not believing in that which is hidden, will result in no benefit.

"....so let him believe in me and respond to me so that they maybe guided".

Love you akhi, may Allah reward you for providing your insight. Love seeing these types of perspectives from brothers/sisters. Enables me to think, ponder, and reflect.!! 

WS 

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10 hours ago, Talk313 said:

Hello. I hope you’re all doing well. I’m not really looking for a Dua or a “fix all my problems” prayer, but I would appreciate some insight/advice. My heart feels heavy. My soul is tired. Basically, my main problem is that my duas are never answered. I’ve asked for multiple things throughout my short life, and it never works out in my favor. There was one thing that I asked Allah since I was 16. 7 years later I gave up after no response. Now, there’s something else I really, really, really want. I’ve done every dua - Tawassaul, Mashool, Kumayl, etc (multiple times each) I’ve written countless of letters to Imam Mahdi , as well as nidther . Nothing, no response. I’ve watched countless of videos and scanned many websites and books on the Etiquette of Dua. I’ve stopped listening to music, fixed my prayers, stopped doing a lot of sins. Still,

Nothing. This Ramadhan was the first I ever truly took seriously, the first Layatul Qadr I stayed up the whole night as I truly became a better Muslim. The last thing I’m trying out now is Ziyarat Ashura. I’m on day 10. 

Once again, I’m not looking for really a solution as I feel like i am knowledgable on this type of stuff, but the reality is hitting me. I feel as if God is breaking my heart. I hear no response. I gave up my other wishes/hajat because I didn’t get a response on those either (legit prayed for 7 years and once again, no response) I know the Quran says we might love something that’s bad for us, but I’m not wishing for anything bad. In fact, the thing I’ve prayed for 7 years would have prevented me from sinning and is advised in Islam. So, I don’t understand. 

How is it that everything I wish for is bad for me? I don’t doubt God is real. I love Allah, the Prophet, and the Ahlulbayt. But, why is it everything I ask for goes unanswered?  I’m always returned empty handed. I’m crying every single day. My parents are worried, and praying for me, once again no response. They don’t know what to do, and just told me to give up and move on. The anxiety is killing me. i can't sleep, I've lost my appetite, I'm going to the bathroom multiple times (this happens a lot when I'm anxious). My body is physically reacting to the depression i am going through. I just would like some insight on why the silence? Is Allah upset with me? Or am I just the person He decided will never get what she wants in this world? 

I'm not looking for an answer on how to get my dua answered. I know there isn't a 100% guarantee. But, I feel abandoned. so any advice on how to stop feeling as if Allah failed me/disappointed me would be much appreciated. 

Thank you. 

Salam,

A slave don't ask, but only praise and very grateful to his Master for whatever he gains from his work and wait for the Master to instruct/ show him the way.  

Please say for all the issues that we are facing daily,

1.  Allahu Akbar (34)

2.  Alhamdullillah (33)

3.  Subhanallah (33).

Ask Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) "Show me to the right path...". 

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17 hours ago, Guest window said:

Would you mind telling us examples of what you've been praying for? Sometimes an answered prayer is divine help instead of a divine wish granted. Let's look at 3 different scenarios that could play out when 3 men pray for a wife: One of them is miraculously introduced to a woman he's never met, they get along, and he's married before the year ends. The second person does what he knows he has to do in order to get married; he works hard to get a career, he works on his iman, he establishes his reputation as a respectable man, he takes care of his physical appearance, etc. Now he's much more likely to marry, all because God helped him accomplish all those things. The third person prays for a wife and just sits around waiting for God to send her to him. It could happen, but if it doesn't it's probably a sign that you're you should take action and know that God will help you in the steps you take.

A couple more things that are relevant: 1. If you want Allah to fulfill your needs, fulfill the needs of others. 2. Say salawat before qunut. 3. Sometimes God doesn't answer prayers because he loves you and wants you to keep praying to Him like that. 4. Pray for others

Hello, thank you for the response (to all who responded). I wasn't expecting this many replies!

I know a couple of people have mentioned working towards the dua. I guess the biggest hurdle I'm facing right now is that I am on the waitlist for my medical school. It was a masters linkage program. Get the required grades, get a guaranteed acceptance. I was the only student who had all the requirements (good grades, good test scores, YEARS of extracurricular, killer letter of recs, a good interview, etc). Yet, I was still waitlisted. Almost all my classmates got off the waitlist. I am one of the few who still hasn't gotten accepted, and everyone else who still hasn't been accepted has bad/mediocre grades compared to me. I worked my entire life for this, worked 3 jobs in undergrad, studied everyday, took thousands of dollars of loans, etc. I worked very hard, but honestly, all I feel is Allah putting roadblocks. I'm stuck, and I don't know what to do. Medicine is my entire life. I'm going to apply again this year, but it'll take another year of just waiting with no guarantee (like my current program was), so it's going to be even more difficult. I don't understand why everyone else in my class is getting accepted/off the waitlist, and I'm one of the few people left. The school won't give me an answer, just telling me to wait, but it's been constant agony. This is my current story. My past Duas included other things, but they were never answered either. I know people think I'm overreacting, but I have nothing else in my life - an unstable family home (loving parents, alhamdulahh, but just toxic environment), no husband, no job, no nothing. 

I feel lost. My future is uncertain right now. Years of hard work (especially the last 10 months of my life, where I had to study 24/7, didn't sleep for days, etc ) - all for nothing. I guess that's what also hurts. Not only my Duas aren't being accepted, my hard work hasn't been acknowledged. 

In a response to the other kind people who responded and tried giving other methods, I've done all of those as well. I accept that there is nothing I can say or do, no dua in the world is a 100% guarantee. But, I feel like my spirituality right now is really lacking.

Thank you :) 

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Brother I don't want to make you feel bad but perhaps making medicine 'your whole life' was the mistake to begin with.

Alhamdulillah it's a noble profession and I respect your hard work and commitment but it is not the be all end all of life. 

There are other ways to help people and to earn a halal income. If it's medicine, good alhamdulillah. If not, it will be something else. 

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When you recite Suratal Fatiha, don't think any of blessings when you say "All praise is to God" but think of his comprehensive favor, and that is Quran and Ahlulbayt connecting you to God and because every other blessing that perishes and even can misguide you, is not what God wants us to thank him for in Salah. Rather as Imam Ali (a) put it, he wants us to recall the favor of Wilayah of Ahlulbayt.

Likewise, when you think of "those who he favored upon", don't think of favors of other then his religion, and it means those he favored his religion and guidance to humanity upon, and it specifically refers to Ahlulbayt.

And remember God's words "from humans is those who make the punishment of people as if the punishment of God....", what happened to you is not because of your prayers not being answered.

Think of Imam Musa Al-Kadhim du'a Jawthan Al-Sagheer.

There is infinite ways to make money or even gain of this world,  if you built conditions on God that he must give you this world or what you desire of it or a specific way from it,  you are already lucky that your application has not been accepted, because you been seriously deluded about how God operates in this world.

"who doesn't have you, what doe he have, and who has you, what doesn't he have" - Imam Hussain (a).

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15 hours ago, Mahdavist said:

Brother I don't want to make you feel bad but perhaps making medicine 'your whole life' was the mistake to begin with.

Alhamdulillah it's a noble profession and I respect your hard work and commitment but it is not the be all end all of life. 

There are other ways to help people and to earn a halal income. If it's medicine, good alhamdulillah. If not, it will be something else. 

Hello, I am a sister. 

I understand what you're saying, but if you're not in this field, then you wouldn't understand the determination. It's not just a "noble profession". It's not just helping people and earning a halal income. My dream to be a physician is no different than wanting a spouse, a child, or whatever it is other people may want in life. It is a literal lifestyle, it is who I am. You can't just tell someone "it will be something else". There is no something else for me. Besides Islam, this is the most important thing in my life as it is the only thing that gives me a purpose in this dunya. I have never found anything else that has made me this happy - not materialistic items, not traveling, not even a man. 

I'm not going to take offense to your comment as I know it was not your intention, but please tread lightly. 

Thank you.  May Allah bless you :)

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19 hours ago, Talk313 said:

Hello, thank you for the response (to all who responded). I wasn't expecting this many replies!

I know a couple of people have mentioned working towards the dua. I guess the biggest hurdle I'm facing right now is that I am on the waitlist for my medical school. It was a masters linkage program. Get the required grades, get a guaranteed acceptance. I was the only student who had all the requirements (good grades, good test scores, YEARS of extracurricular, killer letter of recs, a good interview, etc). Yet, I was still waitlisted. Almost all my classmates got off the waitlist. I am one of the few who still hasn't gotten accepted, and everyone else who still hasn't been accepted has bad/mediocre grades compared to me. I worked my entire life for this, worked 3 jobs in undergrad, studied everyday, took thousands of dollars of loans, etc. I worked very hard, but honestly, all I feel is Allah putting roadblocks. I'm stuck, and I don't know what to do. Medicine is my entire life. I'm going to apply again this year, but it'll take another year of just waiting with no guarantee (like my current program was), so it's going to be even more difficult. I don't understand why everyone else in my class is getting accepted/off the waitlist, and I'm one of the few people left. The school won't give me an answer, just telling me to wait, but it's been constant agony. This is my current story. My past Duas included other things, but they were never answered either. I know people think I'm overreacting, but I have nothing else in my life - an unstable family home (loving parents, alhamdulahh, but just toxic environment), no husband, no job, no nothing. 

I feel lost. My future is uncertain right now. Years of hard work (especially the last 10 months of my life, where I had to study 24/7, didn't sleep for days, etc ) - all for nothing. I guess that's what also hurts. Not only my Duas aren't being accepted, my hard work hasn't been acknowledged. 

In a response to the other kind people who responded and tried giving other methods, I've done all of those as well. I accept that there is nothing I can say or do, no dua in the world is a 100% guarantee. But, I feel like my spirituality right now is really lacking.

Thank you :) 

Brother, Allah tests his servants many, and I mean many ways. Some he takes away their wealth, some he takes away their health, some he tests through his children, others through the death of a loved one. In the end do you know what Allah wants to hear ? He wants to hear " Alhumdullilah", he wants to hear your beautiful supplications, dues and worships. Do you think Allah will not test you in the dunya? As stated in the Quran, if you are grateful, Allah will give you more. 

Brother Alhumdullah Allah blessed you with soo many things that you didn't even make dua for! Don't let your trust in Allah break NOW!! Maybe next year you'll get accepted, and even MORE blessings will be showered upon you. Have sabr (patience), and trust in Allahs plan. I cannot say this enough. 

I know right now you think it's the end of the world, and that you are lost..... maybe you are even saying " Allah why me", but remain steadfast, have trust in Allah, and whatever happens keep saying "Alhumdullilah, O Allah surely, I have no knowledge of the main source of my subsistence, and I seek it only through the passing thoughts that come to my heart, and I wander about in cities searching for it, and I am apmreplexed in regard to what I search for. I do not know whether it's in a valley, or in the mountains, in the earth, or in the heave, in the continent, or in the sea, and in whose hands it is, and from whome it is. And surely I know that you have its knowledge, and its source are in your hands, and you distribute it by your kindness, and creates opportunities through your mercy".   ( taken out of margib dua). 

Also, recite dua Kumayl and Jawshan Al Kabir at least one a week, these are one of the most powerful dues we Shia have. You can also take out lines from the such as " oh Allah forgive me those supplications which alter blessings ", in dua Kumayl and apply it into your duas. 

Anyways, wish you all the best brother. 

WS

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14 hours ago, YoungSkiekh313 said:

Brother, Allah tests his servants many, and I mean many ways. Some he takes away their wealth, some he takes away their health, some he tests through his children, others through the death of a loved one. In the end do you know what Allah wants to hear ? He wants to hear " Alhumdullilah", he wants to hear your beautiful supplications, dues and worships. Do you think Allah will not test you in the dunya? As stated in the Quran, if you are grateful, Allah will give you more. 

Brother Alhumdullah Allah blessed you with soo many things that you didn't even make dua for! Don't let your trust in Allah break NOW!! Maybe next year you'll get accepted, and even MORE blessings will be showered upon you. Have sabr (patience), and trust in Allahs plan. I cannot say this enough. 

I know right now you think it's the end of the world, and that you are lost..... maybe you are even saying " Allah why me", but remain steadfast, have trust in Allah, and whatever happens keep saying "Alhumdullilah, O Allah surely, I have no knowledge of the main source of my subsistence, and I seek it only through the passing thoughts that come to my heart, and I wander about in cities searching for it, and I am apmreplexed in regard to what I search for. I do not know whether it's in a valley, or in the mountains, in the earth, or in the heave, in the continent, or in the sea, and in whose hands it is, and from whome it is. And surely I know that you have its knowledge, and its source are in your hands, and you distribute it by your kindness, and creates opportunities through your mercy".   ( taken out of margib dua). 

Also, recite dua Kumayl and Jawshan Al Kabir at least one a week, these are one of the most powerful dues we Shia have. You can also take out lines from the such as " oh Allah forgive me those supplications which alter blessings ", in dua Kumayl and apply it into your duas. 

Anyways, wish you all the best brother. 

WS

Hi, I am a girl :)

Thank you for the kind words. I will definitely take your words to heart. I guess all I really needed was something to keep me going and not to lose faith. But, you are totally right. 

Maybe not now, but maybe I'll get my acceptance next year. 

I will definitely keep reciting my Duas and inshallah, Allah keeps me on the right path. 

I wish you the best as well, Thank you!!! 

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7 hours ago, Talk313 said:

I understand what you're saying, but if you're not in this field, then you wouldn't understand the determination. It's not just a "noble profession". It's not just helping people and earning a halal income. My dream to be a physician is no different than wanting a spouse, a child, or whatever it is other people may want in life.

I do understand sister, but I would say the same thing in the other situations as well. Unfortunately some people don't manage to have children for various reasons. Others might never get married. 

Our duty is to try and do the best we can. The result is with Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and this means that we must wholeheartedly accept the outcome even if it isn't the one we wanted. One can make dua all they want but if Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has determined in His infinite wisdom that someone will not become a parent, spouse or doctor then that's how it will be.

Having dreams and aspirations is good but ultimately this life is a temporary test and our upmost priority and ambition should be to please Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and accept what He has granted to us. If we have to do this childless, spouseless or without a medical degree then so be it. 

For this reason I say again, give your best efforts but accept the outcome even if it isn't to your satisfaction. 

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When asked this question, Ayatollah Bahjat often responded with: recite loads of istighfaar daily and always pray all your prayers on time (delaying prayers will often result in delayment of worldly affairs).

The following are some actions that have helped me out in dire situations:

- Offering my daily prayers without the intention of gaining something from them (either spiritual or material). Just praying for the love and sake of Allah alone.

- Completion of Qaza namaz and rooze with the applicable kafarah.

- Reciting Surah Al Hujurat (with translation or tafsir)

- To get rid of dismaying and hopeless thoughts recitation of Surah Adh - Dhariyat (idealy with tafsir)

- Offering qurbaani (sacrifice) and distributing it among the orphans

- Recitation of 1000 salwaat daily (fills heart with light)

- Lanat on the enemies of Ahlul Bayt

- Never losing hope in Allah, he knows me better than I know myself thus, he knows what is right for me and when.

- Always reminding myself that Allah is Al - Adl. He never wrongs or oppresses anyone.

- Earnestly asking Bibi Nargis Khatoon to pass on my duas on to Imam Mahdi (عليه السلام). (it is said he doesn't refuse his mothers request) so he can ask for the fulfillment of them from Allah (and since he is the most beloved person to Allah on this plane), Allah grants his requests.

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16 hours ago, Talk313 said:

I feel lost. My future is uncertain right now. Years of hard work (especially the last 10 months of my life, where I had to study 24/7, didn't sleep for days, etc ) - all for nothing. I guess that's what also hurts. Not only my Duas aren't being accepted, my hard work hasn't been acknowledged. 

I think you received lots of qualified answers from people here. One thing I like to add, which is very much recommended: "Concentrate on now, like what you are doing now etc. Let past and future thoughts pass by and don't hold them".

It is very hard, but it helps a lot, God willing.

I give you an example: You know you drop out of university by 95 % chance in few months. Think about finding new ways now. Get self-confident. Find people, like counselors, family, apply for other things etc.

Do whatever is necessary, now. What finally happens in few months is not your business right now.

And you will probably soon find out the person who was responsible for your failure, as is the case many times. Remember to keep away from fools.

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3 hours ago, Trumpet said:

When asked this question, Ayatollah Bahjat often responded with: recite loads of istighfaar daily and always pray all your prayers on time (delaying prayers will often result in delayment of worldly affairs).

The following are some actions that have helped me out in dire situations:

- Offering my daily prayers without the intention of gaining something from them (either spiritual or material). Just praying for the love and sake of Allah alone.

- Completion of Qaza namaz and rooze with the applicable kafarah.

- Reciting Surah Al Hujurat (with translation or tafsir)

- To get rid of dismaying and hopeless thoughts recitation of Surah Adh - Dhariyat (idealy with tafsir)

- Offering qurbaani (sacrifice) and distributing it among the orphans

- Recitation of 1000 salwaat daily (fills heart with light)

- Lanat on the enemies of Ahlul Bayt

- Never losing hope in Allah, he knows me better than I know myself thus, he knows what is right for me and when.

- Always reminding myself that Allah is Al - Adl. He never wrongs or oppresses anyone.

- Earnestly asking Bibi Nargis Khatoon to pass on my duas on to Imam Mahdi (عليه السلام). (it is said he doesn't refuse his mothers request) so he can ask for the fulfillment of them from Allah (and since he is the most beloved person to Allah on this plane), Allah grants his requests.

Thank you for this :)

I do have a question. What is "Completion of Qaza namaz and rooze with the applicable kafarah."?? My arabic isn't that strong at all. 

May Allah bless you inshallah!! 

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2 hours ago, Talk313 said:

Thank you for this :)

I do have a question. What is "Completion of Qaza namaz and rooze with the applicable kafarah."?? My arabic isn't that strong at all. 

May Allah bless you inshallah!! 

It's persian, not Arabic. They mean completing missed prayers and fasts as well as paying the 'kaffarah' (a sort of compensation) for fasts that were missed without valid justification (feeding a certain amount of poor people)

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6 minutes ago, Mahdavist said:

It's persian, not Arabic. They mean completing missed prayers and fasts as well as paying the 'kaffarah' (a sort of compensation) for fasts that were missed without valid justification (feeding a certain amount of poor people)

Ah, thank you :)

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I prayed so that I could fly like a bird and be freeeeee!

Went on a plane and they kicked me out the door. Yes. I was free for a while and so was the washine machine.

The objective of prayer is to create positive hope. But also know the reality of life. If all the prayers came true would any of us be here on SC.

Pray + Action = it worked

Pray + Action = it did not work, either solve the problem or seek a solution or a new route.

Pray + Action = Seek guidance. Sometimes asking for insight or the know how is better then downright asking I want this.

 

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On 5/28/2020 at 4:20 AM, Talk313 said:

Thank you for this :)

I do have a question. What is "Completion of Qaza namaz and rooze with the applicable kafarah."?? My arabic isn't that strong at all. 

May Allah bless you inshallah!! 

You are most welcome dear. :verryhappy:

For women, we usually miss fasts because of menstruation and if you don't make up these fasts before the next Ramadan then you have to give kaffarah for each missed fast in addition to making up those fasts.

For more information on Kaffarah and Fidya:

https://www.al-islam.org/fasting-ramadhan-simple-guide-ritual-social-spiritual-dimensions-sayyid-muhammad-rizvi/chart-qaza

http://en.wikishia.net/view/Kaffara

For information on how much to pay or who to pay the kaffarah to, ask your local masjids Imam and tell them who you are a Muqalid of (Khamenei, Sistani, Makarim Shirazi or...) they will guide you Inshallah.

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I can relate to how you are feeling dear. when it came time for my application ( i ws always a good student, good grades n everyone had high expectations from me)nothing seemed to work out .Back then it ws even more difficult as i had to fly home( i wanted to do my medical graduatn from my home country) , search  and apply,had no contacts, no help, university counsellors were being difficult since i ws living abroad . Many asked me to switch over to some other field, disheartened i used to sit on my prayer mat after my namaz n would cry my heart out(  since childhood no matter how small or big a problem i would alwaz share it on my prayermat with Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)). Just weeks later almost i got into uni( it was through an unexpected person)  . Jump to years later wen it came time for my postgraduation and getting into speciality i was so stubborn on doin cardiac surgery , gave exams got thru them and series of interviews,i was soo confident that i nailed it only to be shockd to know i havent. I was utterly devastated ,with my daily prayers i would ask what went wrong, why wasnt i given wat i loved soo much,when time came again for induction this time after talkin with my father i applied in differnt surgical field this time, less confident i went for my interviews( remmbr a year had passed from my previous interview, but it had throughly broken me).Anyways i went ,gave interview,got selectd,joined and Alhamdullilah now 5 years later i m a surgeon. 

Point of this long story is i felt dejected soo many times , even after i got in , it wasnt easy soo many times things when i felt i wouldnt complete my studies.But i jst kept goin and shared it all on my prayer mat, cried my heart out and prayed.some got accepted early some late ,some didnot but what i got in its place was n is more dear to me. Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) knows best dear, pray for sabr, strength during this difficult time, be patient and hopeful n just keep praying ,ask for wats best for u, because He knows wats d best for u! Utilize the gap year , do electives at hosp,volunteer and spend more time with family.best wishes for you dear! 

P.S  you already know the duas, hold onto them. We all feel hopeless , dejected and tired at some point of our life, nothing heals you like our Holy Quran.read Quran n Duas ( esp with translation).

”And with Him are the keys of the unseen; none knows them except Him. And He knows what is on the land and in the sea. Not a leaf falls but that He knows it. And no grain is there within the darknesses of the earth and no moist or dry [thing] but that it is [written] in the clear book. (6:59)”

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Salam, 

BTW I forgot to mention, you can also attempt to have your dua's accepted through the Imam of our time!! Many people forget that we have an Imam living currently with us in this dunya, or do not know how to effectively communicate with him. Yes, we may not physically be able to see him ( this is his physical aspect), but his spiritual aspect is present and working. This is called divine guardianship ( his values, ethics, rules and so forth).

You can give charity on his behalf, pray on his behalf, perform good deeds on his behalf and so forth with the intention of giving the rewards to our Imam......  the end result inshallah is that our Imam will make dua for you as well, and inshallah thank you. Also try to read dua Nudba which is essentially seeking nearness to our Imam. Also, you get the added bonus of inshallah becoming closer to our Imam through this act, and who knows maybe someday you might have the honour of seeing him !! 


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On 5/27/2020 at 11:52 PM, Talk313 said:

Hello, thank you for the response (to all who responded). I wasn't expecting this many replies!

I know a couple of people have mentioned working towards the dua. I guess the biggest hurdle I'm facing right now is that I am on the waitlist for my medical school. It was a masters linkage program. Get the required grades, get a guaranteed acceptance. I was the only student who had all the requirements (good grades, good test scores, YEARS of extracurricular, killer letter of recs, a good interview, etc). Yet, I was still waitlisted. Almost all my classmates got off the waitlist. I am one of the few who still hasn't gotten accepted, and everyone else who still hasn't been accepted has bad/mediocre grades compared to me. I worked my entire life for this, worked 3 jobs in undergrad, studied everyday, took thousands of dollars of loans, etc. I worked very hard, but honestly, all I feel is Allah putting roadblocks. I'm stuck, and I don't know what to do. Medicine is my entire life. I'm going to apply again this year, but it'll take another year of just waiting with no guarantee (like my current program was), so it's going to be even more difficult. I don't understand why everyone else in my class is getting accepted/off the waitlist, and I'm one of the few people left. The school won't give me an answer, just telling me to wait, but it's been constant agony. This is my current story. My past Duas included other things, but they were never answered either. I know people think I'm overreacting, but I have nothing else in my life - an unstable family home (loving parents, alhamdulahh, but just toxic environment), no husband, no job, no nothing. 

I feel lost. My future is uncertain right now. Years of hard work (especially the last 10 months of my life, where I had to study 24/7, didn't sleep for days, etc ) - all for nothing. I guess that's what also hurts. Not only my Duas aren't being accepted, my hard work hasn't been acknowledged. 

In a response to the other kind people who responded and tried giving other methods, I've done all of those as well. I accept that there is nothing I can say or do, no dua in the world is a 100% guarantee. But, I feel like my spirituality right now is really lacking.

Thank you :) 

Salam and

Bismillahi rahmani rahim.

I want to share my personal experience.  This is while i was a student in the US.  I was on my final semester of my education.  I have to take 7 qualifying exams and must pass all in order to graduate.  There was one exam, opened books, in a classroom (me and 2 other candidates), 7 hours straight, 5 questions and I must get it right for more than 3.5 questions.  Guess what, i only knew how to answer 3 questions.

So I am going to fail and all 4 years of research and class works will be wasted.  Most of the time i slept only 3 to 4 hours per day.  And I work 4 jobs to sustain my studies for years.

Half an hour before the test ended I raised my hand to Him (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and said " I am satisfied on what you have given to me.  If I passed or failed this exam, i am happy, no regret, and I have no complaints.  I know that you are the Rabb and all decisions by you are good.  (Immediately after that i said a statement out of the blue).  Oh Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), if this education is meant to help Imam Asr (عليه السلام), then pass the exam for his sake."

Guess what, i put my hand on one of the book out of many books that I brought with me and randomly opened the book...there was the answer. The answer was complicated because of calculations.  I passed.  The professor himself called me next day and he was so happy to deliver me the good news.

Now come the test of my statement, years after and until today. i cannot use my education and the incomes that generated from for personal gain because i keep remembering who made me passed the exam and why.

I keep thanking Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) for everything... so i keep saying (to keep my spirituality)

1.  Allahuakbar

2. Alhamdulillah 

3. Subhanallah. 

Salawat!

 

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