Please help me

[ruqayarue]

In the past couple of days I have decided to become closer to Allah and went back to praying and making dua, and doing research about Islam. But honestly I don’t know why this has just made me more miserable and scared. I feel like im doomed in hell forever, im so scared of sinning and making mistakes that I sometimes wish I can die as fast as possible so I avoid drifting from the right path. I still don’t know much about Islam cause I spent al my life avoiding it cause I knew the more I learnt the more I will havw fear grow in my heart instead of iman and happiness 

 

One of the main things im struggling with is not understanding why certain things are haram and have big punishments to them, for example I can’t seem to understand why listening to music will cause someone to suffer in hell for eternity?? people say it makes people not remember Allah but can’t that be said about other things like reading,watching movies,hanging out with friends, doing sports?? as long as im not harming myself or anyone around me and im still praying,fasting,reading Qur'an and remembering Allah then why would Allah who is most merciful cause me such severe punishment.

Im just so scared of being a bad Muslim and ending up in hell, im even scared of having kids in the future because im scared I might accidentally lead them on the wrong path. please help me get over this anxiety, its causing me to just cry and pity myself instead of studying and helping my parents and hanging out with my friends 

 

[randomly curious]

Salaam 

Thats just shaitan trying to tempt you and stop you from worshipping Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and performing good deeds

Even if you Had sinned in the past and you repent Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will surely accept your repentance

Imam Amir-ul-Mu'mineen Ali (عليه السلام) said

Repentance stands on four pillars: remorse with the heart, asking for forgiveness with the tongue, work with the limbs, and resolve not to repeat [the offense].

Bihar al-Anwar, v. 78, p. 81, no. 74; Mizan ul Hikmah, page No. 787

Imam Sadiq (as.) said

Imam Ja'far Sadiq ((عليه السلام).) narrates from his predecessors that the Holy Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said, "Allah gives abundant sustenance to whomsoever He desires. Similarly the mercy of Allah is spread far and wide for the sinners day and night waiting for the person to repent and be forgiven. The mercy of Allah waits at sunset for the people who committed sins during the day to repent and get themselves forgiven."

Sawab al-A`amal, Page 232

The Holy Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said

God's pleasure with His creature's repentance weighs over that of a barren woman who begets a child or a loser who finds his lost one or a thirsty man who arrives at water.

Nahj al Fasahah; Tradition No. 805; Page No. 115

Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) wants to test His servants by that.

Imam Sadiq (as.) said

Music engenders hypocrisy.

Bihar al-Anwar, v. 79, p. 241, no. 7; Mizan ul Hikmah, page No. 624

Prophet Dawood ((عليه السلام).) had been blessed with a pleasant voice in the world. Its effect was such that when he sat to recite the Zaboor, animals and beasts gathered around Him and entered into a trance. When people heard it, they fell unconscious while some even died.

Imam Ali ((عليه السلام).) in one of His sermons in Nahjul Balagha says while describing the state of Prophets in paradise that: “In paradise Prophet Dawood will entertain its inhabitants with his pleasant voice, and will be a recitor of paradise.

Imam Ja’far as-Sadiq ((عليه السلام).) was once asked as to whether there would be music and melody in Paradise, to which He replied, “In Paradise there is a tree, by the command of Allah when the breeze will shake it a sound will emanate from it, such that no man has ever heard such a pleasant and melodious tune. This blessings will be for the one who in the world kept away from (vain) music and songs because of fear of Allah.”

Everything is progressive nothing gets done in a single day. If you be consistent in your prayers,reciting the Holy Qur'an and start studying about Islam then gradually you'll start felling the pleasure of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) 

For example Hazrat salman ((رضي الله عنه)) was a Christian earlier eventually He reached to the 10th degree of marefat

[Guest human]

13 hours ago, ruqayarue said:

In the past couple of days I have decided to become closer to Allah and went back to praying and making dua, and doing research about Islam. But honestly I don’t know why this has just made me more miserable and scared. I feel like im doomed in hell forever, im so scared of sinning and making mistakes that I sometimes wish I can die as fast as possible so I avoid drifting from the right path. I still don’t know much about Islam cause I spent al my life avoiding it cause I knew the more I learnt the more I will havw fear grow in my heart instead of iman and happiness 

 

One of the main things im struggling with is not understanding why certain things are haram and have big punishments to them, for example I can’t seem to understand why listening to music will cause someone to suffer in hell for eternity?? people say it makes people not remember Allah but can’t that be said about other things like reading,watching movies,hanging out with friends, doing sports?? as long as im not harming myself or anyone around me and im still praying,fasting,reading Qur'an and remembering Allah then why would Allah who is most merciful cause me such severe punishment.

Im just so scared of being a bad Muslim and ending up in hell, im even scared of having kids in the future because im scared I might accidentally lead them on the wrong path. please help me get over this anxiety, its causing me to just cry and pity myself instead of studying and helping my parents and hanging out with my friends 

 

This seems like you are over thinking stuff, I think you are struggling with some anxiety. If you think what I am saying is true, realize that that is the problem and not you. Usually it alters reality into thinking what you are saying is true when everything is totally fine. You just need to do your best and don’t stress yourself out in the mean time just relax.

[Allah Seeker]

17 hours ago, ruqayarue said:

. I feel like im doomed in hell forever

When you concentrate on the meaning of the words of your prayers, you will notice the words 'alrahmaam alraheem' always being first. These two words are names of God that are most repeated in the tradition of prayer. Those two words resonate with forgiveness, merci, compassion, and understanding from Allah.

It is true that all of us deserve total annihilation and destruction by Allah, as is described in the Qur'an, that if God was to give what what we deserve, He wouldn't leave any creature on Earth. It's only through His infinite forgiveness that some of us will get forgiven and protected from the hell fire.

But in general nurture your fear of God's punishment, because that is the fear of God and very realistic. There is always a chance that Allah hits us for our sins and ignorance at any moment, not just in hell. Allah is the Avenger, the Harmer and there strong Punisher.

[Guest realistic]

don’t overthink. take things easy. you get life to live, not to imprison yourself.

chill

[guest 2025]

If you have trouble understanding why music is harmful, listen to the song but in it's lyrics only form, or watch the music video (muted), or look up what kind of person the artist is. I guarantee you'll find something that'll annoy you. Remember things that are haram aren't haram just because they're "bad", they're forbidden because they're harmful to us spiritually or physically, and in the worst case, to others. The world isn't as decent as it was 20,30,40,50 years ago, and music had a large role in that.

[alHussein]

23 hours ago, ruqayarue said:

In the past couple of days I have decided to become closer to Allah and went back to praying and making dua, and doing research about Islam. But honestly I don’t know why this has just made me more miserable and scared. I feel like im doomed in hell forever, im so scared of sinning and making mistakes that I sometimes wish I can die as fast as possible so I avoid drifting from the right path. I still don’t know much about Islam cause I spent al my life avoiding it cause I knew the more I learnt the more I will havw fear grow in my heart instead of iman and happiness 

 

One of the main things im struggling with is not understanding why certain things are haram and have big punishments to them, for example I can’t seem to understand why listening to music will cause someone to suffer in hell for eternity?? people say it makes people not remember Allah but can’t that be said about other things like reading,watching movies,hanging out with friends, doing sports?? as long as im not harming myself or anyone around me and im still praying,fasting,reading Qur'an and remembering Allah then why would Allah who is most merciful cause me such severe punishment.

Im just so scared of being a bad Muslim and ending up in hell, im even scared of having kids in the future because im scared I might accidentally lead them on the wrong path. please help me get over this anxiety, its causing me to just cry and pity myself instead of studying and helping my parents and hanging out with my friends 

 

Salam,I was once in a similar position like you are right now, and frankly, I still am. I hope Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will ease your hardships. However you said that you have decided to become closer to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى), which is a form of mercy. He wants to lead you to the straight path .[ Guide us to the straight path ] - Qur'an 1:6

[AlmondJoy680]

On 3/20/2020 at 8:25 AM, ruqayarue said:

In the past couple of days I have decided to become closer to Allah and went back to praying and making dua, and doing research about Islam. But honestly I don’t know why this has just made me more miserable and scared. I feel like im doomed in hell forever, im so scared of sinning and making mistakes that I sometimes wish I can die as fast as possible so I avoid drifting from the right path. I still don’t know much about Islam cause I spent al my life avoiding it cause I knew the more I learnt the more I will havw fear grow in my heart instead of iman and happiness 

 

One of the main things im struggling with is not understanding why certain things are haram and have big punishments to them, for example I can’t seem to understand why listening to music will cause someone to suffer in hell for eternity?? people say it makes people not remember Allah but can’t that be said about other things like reading,watching movies,hanging out with friends, doing sports?? as long as im not harming myself or anyone around me and im still praying,fasting,reading Qur'an and remembering Allah then why would Allah who is most merciful cause me such severe punishment.

Im just so scared of being a bad Muslim and ending up in hell, im even scared of having kids in the future because im scared I might accidentally lead them on the wrong path. please help me get over this anxiety, its causing me to just cry and pity myself instead of studying and helping my parents and hanging out with my friends 

 

Beat that shaytan out of you with dua and remembrance of Allah.  Also keep your hopes high.  One of your issues is that you don't know much about Islam.  Once you start researching you'll understand what a beautiful religion this is and with that beauty comes a beautiful community and blessings from Allah for you loving Him.  I do advise learning how to
pray properly first and foremost and looking for a dua to ease your anxiety.  Fear of Allah is not like fear of dunya.  Having fear of Allah brings you closer to Allah in ways unknown to us.
We are taught to have hope in Allah as well.

All I can say is that music takes you away from loving the Qur'an.  The recitation of the Qur'an will resonate with you on a deeper level changing your behavior and outlook on life in ways nothing else can once you quit listening to music.  Basically it will make your life easier, if you choose to take that path.  I would advise stop listening to music and start listening to the Qur'an.

Try to search for a teacher in your local masjid.  They will guide you in sha Allah to a better way of understanding Islam.

Don't be scared of being a bad Muslim and ending up in Hell.  Just do your best.

I also advise not being too zealous about learning Islam, or learning Islam by yourself without a proper network: it can lead to disastrous consequences.  Keep your life balanced and still be present and aid your family and enjoy the company of your friends.

Jazak Allah Khair,
Your brother Ahmed 
 

Edited March 21, 2020 by AlmondJoy680