Jump to content
Guests can now reply in ALL forum topics (No registration required!) ×
Guests can now reply in ALL forum topics (No registration required!)
In the Name of God بسم الله
Sign in to follow this  
ali_fatheroforphans

Married men complimenting women

Rate this topic

Recommended Posts

Salam,

Why do I find online men (mid thirties) complimenting random women on social media? Stuff like "you look beautiful", "very pretty". Also inserting love emojis.

Okay it's different if you're talking about a teenage guy, but married grown up men? 

I think women need to be more harsh when men compliment their physical appearance because it's not acceptable (especially if it makes them feel uncomfortable). 

Even in Western counties, some men just flirt with women through their weird compliments. I've worked at this company for my vacation work and married men say stuff like  "omg you look so beautiful today". The sad part is when a girl gets happy and encourage men to continue this behaviour.

Thoughts? Do you sisters just ignore stuff like this or laugh it off?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Tell me about it! Now on top of random stranger single Muslim men pestering us on social media, increasingly me and other single and never married before Muslim sisters in our 20s are noticing friend requests and message requests from random stranger married Muslim men, some with little kids and/or their wife in their profile picture... We easily ignore these single and married men, but may Allah swa help their wives who are probably clueless. 

 

Edited by Lilly14

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
12 hours ago, habib e najjaar said:

don't think being teen aged is an excuse for lewd behaviour.

Yes I agree. I was talking more about guys who have a similar attitude to those obsessed teenage girls. You know those girls who are obsessed with their guy celebrity crush and throw in love emojis. Likewise, I'm talking about those teenage guys. I should have made myself more clear. Anyway, even this isn't acceptable. We need to speak against both if we see such behaviour, not just guys.

I don't mean stalking and commenting on every girl's picture, that's very inappropriate and creepy. 

Edited by ali_fatheroforphans

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
2 hours ago, Lilly14 said:

 easily ignore these single and married men, but may Allah swa help their wives who are probably clueless. 

Yeah that's the thing. Men aren't loyal to their wives. They're constantly been taught from a young age to compare their wives with other  girls. You see these comments from them, when they get bored and want to try new things. Even guys don't stop each other, rather we tend to laught it off.

Of course a lot of sensible and mature men would never act creepy and show this behaviour. However, there's still an issue of them comparing their wives with other girls. That's why a lot of married men watch porn! Yes Muslim Shia ones included. No point shying away from this reality. It's when you're mindset is wrong from a young age. When men picture this perfect future and marry only for "sex", then they get dissapointed when their wives can't live up to their expectations. Then they seek alternatives which gives them more pleasure. It could be porn or simply flirting with random women online. It's just endless pleasure and fantasy which they seek now and they've always been seeking it from a young age.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
12 hours ago, habib e najjaar said:

Proper men don't do this. Proper women don't accept/allow/encourage this.. I don't see why this should even be up for discussion in an average Muslim community. Then again, perhaps I need to get out of my cave more.

Daaamn.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

Sign in to follow this  

×
×
  • Create New...