The Dream Women - In my opinion

[Sumerian]

This guy forgot cooking 

[Moalfas]

8 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

I just feel this would be a nice thread to start where men share their perspectives on their "dream women".

You said it yourself, 'dream woman' 

Males can keep dreaming. Just like the females can keep dreaming of their buff, beard wearing highly regarded professional who's got a house and two cars and goes to Karbala every year and is a guest speaker at Ahlul Bayt tv every now and then. 

It's easy to forget one's own imperfections and flaws when seeking the perfect partner. 

As people grow older, they come to the realisation that you have to make do with what you have. We're all far from perfect.

The true magic is finding someone you can trust and learn to grow with and together learn from your mistakes. 

Edited October 11, 2019 by Moalfas

[smiiley001]

21 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

Salam, 

I just feel this would be a nice thread to start where men share their perspectives on their "dream women". 

I like your list, it's quite realistic in my opinion. I find its a list that benefits all involved, the woman, man, their kids and the community. 

Most of the time what I see when an ideal Muslim woman is described only says stuff like she should be obedient to her husband, be clean, cook good food for him, welcome him happily when he comes home. Etc. I find it to be so self-centered to the husband, but yours is very wholesome.

[hasanhh]

10 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

I just feel this would be a nice thread to start where men share their perspectives on their "dream women".

Reacting to your first sentence, w/o reading any further . . .

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C2AQs_0-jw0

Informative, pleasant, does work, and has an "off" switch. 

[hasanhh]

21 hours ago, habib e najjaar said:

Who wants to bring in the expectation vs. Reality memes?

https://www.alamy.com/close-up-of-woman-in-curlers-with-glasses-image280582174.html 

[AStruggler]

I'd also add: 

• Someone who's not anti-taqlid
• Someone who's not a stubborn shadah e thalitha reciter in tashahud
• Someone who's got no issues with normal azadari
• Someone who's not a hater or insulter of those who practice tatbir or a die hard anti-tatbir Shia 
• Someone who's not rainbows and unicorns excessive sushi-unity promoting Shia
• Someone who's not a "no cursing Shia", or a poor tabarrah practicing Shia
• Someone who's not a "Qur'an-only Shia"
• Someone who doesn't take light the status of the ahlul bayth (عليه السلام) but at the same time they don't express nusayri/ghuluw tendencies as well

Edited October 12, 2019 by AStruggler

[hasanhh]

11 hours ago, 2Timeless said:

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I don’t disagree, just quite humourous coming from certain individuals. It's just such a classic young Muslim^ guy thread. 

Teacher's Correction 

[ali_fatheroforphans]

1 hour ago, AStruggler said:

I'd also add: 

Spot on! I guess these can be found out when asking your future spouse questions.

[ali_fatheroforphans]

12 hours ago, 2Timeless said:

Of course it was, only you two are innovative enough to think of something like this 

Yeah it was a collaboration, lol we've always thought about this project. It was about time we moved on to the execution stage of the project. Alhumdulillah turned out to be good.

[Guest Abu Talib]

17 hours ago, 2Timeless said:

Save yourself the heartache

do heartaches still exist in this day & age?

Hearts are @ rest through Allah((سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى))'s remembrance. Qur'an

[starlight]

19 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

dream women

Women? How many are you looking for?

[ali_fatheroforphans]

1 hour ago, starlight said:

Women? How many are you looking for?

 

6 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

Yeah it was a collaboration, lol we've always thought about this project. It was about time we moved on to the execution stage of the project. Alhumdulillah turned out to be good.

This answers your question.

[hasanhh]

59 minutes ago, starlight said:

Women? How many are you looking for?

He will make a mistake and pick one of howevermany he is dreaming about.

[hasanhh]

6 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

It was about time we moved on to the execution stage . . .

Now is that anyway to think about hapless women?

    

[The Green Knight]

I will show all of you men just ONE quality which will make any woman THE woman of your dreams. Believe me. And you will agree.

- She should be mute.

[Vindemiatrix]

Salaam,

(This is serious, I'm aware that there are some humorous replies on this thread, this reply isn't one of them)

So I just want to start of by discussing my expectations of a woman. I think that it's important to care more about the personality of a woman rather than her looks.

For the appearance then, personally for me it doesn't really matter if she has stretch marks, cellulite, a bigger body, smaller "parts" etc.. But then in turn I would like it if she overlooked certain things about my looks too... 

For her personality I would like her to be shy and quiet with others, but loud and confident with me... And hopefully understanding of my sense of humour, this is very important because humour = happiness which strengthens the relationship, people shouldn't be sad and stressed rather they should be smiling and joyful. And she should have a lot of love for Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) & the Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام) I believe that if you truly have these two things then you can be a really good Muslim (because if you really have this love then you will pray on time, learn about religion, do all the wajib acts, refrain from sin and overall you will be a good person: being generous, kind, charitable etc). I would like her to be always be happy and smiling, generally a very cute, carefree and playful personality is ideal... 

Omg I'm tearing up rn because that is truly my dream woman.... 

The next point may bring some arguments but I'll try to explain it properly. I would prefer it if I earned all the money for the house and she stayed at home and looked after children. And the money? It would be both of ours and I would provide everything she needed since she would be working hard too. She would not be oppressed or anything, but it's just that after living in a household where my mum stays at home, it's difficult to imagine it any other way and I would like it if my family could be raised in this way too.. For those of you who don't know, I studied child psychology for a bit and I can't express how important it is that children have a warm, safe and loving environment growing up, this is something that I think can only be achieved if the wife stays at home and helps the children grow. I'm sure raising good children is liked by Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and this would be a good way of doing it... 

Ws

[RUKS]

1 hour ago, Darth Vader said:

I will show all of you men just ONE quality which will make any woman THE woman of your dreams. Believe me. And you will agree.

- She should be mute.

Braaaah chilllll!!!! I'll tell you one quality that will make every man the dream man! Being a billionaire.

[RUKS]

1 hour ago, Ali~J said:

Salaam,

(This is serious, I'm aware that there are some humorous replies on this thread, this reply isn't one of them)

So I just want to start of by discussing my expectations of a woman. I think that it's important to care more about the personality of a woman rather than her looks.

For the appearance then, personally for me it doesn't really matter if she has stretch marks, cellulite, a bigger body, smaller "parts" etc.. But then in turn I would like it if she overlooked certain things about my looks too... 

For her personality I would like her to be shy and quiet with others, but loud and confident with me... And hopefully understanding of my sense of humour, this is very important because humour = happiness which strengthens the relationship, people shouldn't be sad and stressed rather they should be smiling and joyful. And she should have a lot of love for Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) & the Ahlul Bayt (عليه السلام) I believe that if you truly have these two things then you can be a really good Muslim (because if you really have this love then you will pray on time, learn about religion, do all the wajib acts, refrain from sin and overall you will be a good person: being generous, kind, charitable etc). I would like her to be always be happy and smiling, generally a very cute, carefree and playful personality is ideal... 

Omg I'm tearing up rn because that is truly my dream woman.... 

The next point may bring some arguments but I'll try to explain it properly. I would prefer it if I earned all the money for the house and she stayed at home and looked after children. And the money? It would be both of ours and I would provide everything she needed since she would be working hard too. She would not be oppressed or anything, but it's just that after living in a household where my mum stays at home, it's difficult to imagine it any other way and I would like it if my family could be raised in this way too.. For those of you who don't know, I studied child psychology for a bit and I can't express how important it is that children have a warm, safe and loving environment growing up, this is something that I think can only be achieved if the wife stays at home and helps the children grow. I'm sure raising good children is liked by Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and this would be a good way of doing it... 

Ws

Aww! I hope you find her! Ya rab!

[AStruggler]

3 hours ago, starlight said:

Women? How many are you looking 

Lool I thought the same, the title of this thread probably should've been "...woman".

[hasanhh]

I started a thread about men at someone's prompting.

How about someone starting a thread about "what is wrong with women"?

Ruks gave me this idea.

[notme]

9 minutes ago, hasanhh said:

How about someone starting a thread about "what is wrong with women"?

"What is wrong with people" might be more interesting and informative.

[hasanhh]

6 minutes ago, notme said:

"What is wrong with people" might be more interesting and informative.

It will be more fun to segregate that into men and women. But, yeah, that could be a third thread.

[notme]

1 hour ago, hasanhh said:

It will be more fun to segregate that into men and women. But, yeah, that could be a third thread.

Sure, if by fun you mean divisive. Go for it.

[ali_fatheroforphans]

3 hours ago, AStruggler said:

Lool I thought the same, the title of this thread probably should've been "...woman".

Oh man I swear you told me say 'women'. I was about to correct it but thought there was some wisdom behind it. 

[2Timeless]

^ in response to the majority of the above posts 

Beautiful thread though!

Edited October 12, 2019 by 2Timeless

[ali_fatheroforphans]

5 hours ago, Ali~J said:

The next point may bring some arguments but I'll try to explain it properly. I would prefer it if I earned all the money for the house and she stayed at home and looked after children.

This reminds me of what I read from this book (about the life of Imam Khomeini):

Imam believed the role of the mother to be very determining and gave a lot of importance to the upbringing of children.  Sometimes when we would joke and say that a woman must always stay at home, he would say: “Don’t think little of the home; the upbringing of children is no small matter.  If somebody is able to raise one person (properly), she has done a great service to society.
 
He believed that the upbringing of a child could not be accomplished by a man.  This was a job specifically designed for a woman because a woman is kinder and the order of a family also had to be based on kindness and love.

[AStruggler]

On 10/11/2019 at 9:10 AM, ali_fatheroforphans said:

This thread was sem-inspired by @AStruggler so need to give him the credit. 

 

15 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

Yeah it was a collaboration, lol we've always thought about this project. It was about time we moved on to the execution stage of the project. Alhumdulillah turned out to be good.

 

9 hours ago, starlight said:

Women? How many are you looking for?

2 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

Oh man I swear you told me say 'women'. I was about to correct it but thought there was some wisdom behind it. 

Ahaha brother thank you for your selflessness and consistent efforts to try and not let me miss out on receiving some recognition for the creation of this list, but it's alright brother, YOU were the lone writer of the list so it's okay if you don't mention my name. Yes, you may have gotten a few ideas from me though. As for the title, hehe I just stated it as a random idea for YOU, thought YOU would edit it if needed . YOU did well though, I applaud YOU for this.

Edited October 12, 2019 by AStruggler

[Maryam.It]

22 hours ago, Sumerian said:

22 hours ago, Sumerian said:

This guy forgot cooking 

 

I think the same!

[Hassu93]

Best of luck in finding one with all those qualities mate.

Edited October 12, 2019 by Hassu93

[hasanhh]

3 hours ago, 2Timeless said:

^ in response to the majority of the above posts 

Beautiful thread though!

Yep, typical feemale response when challenged:

"Oh, l am just so above this."

[hasanhh]

4 hours ago, notme said:

Sure, if by fun you mean divisive. Go for it.

As l posted elsewhere, it ain't called "the Eternal Battle" just for no reason.

[2Timeless]

2 hours ago, hasanhh said:

Yep, typical feemale response when challenged:

"Oh, l am just so above this."

Who challenged women though? This whole thread is just entertainment for us, don’t see a challenge 

[hasanhh]

16 minutes ago, 2Timeless said:

Who challenged women though? This whole thread is just entertainment for us, don’t see a challenge 

l disagree because it is the women who feel 'challenged'.

Men are not 'challenged' only mistaken when they believe they can comprehend continually crazy characters.

[2Timeless]

1 hour ago, hasanhh said:

l disagree because it is the women who feel 'challenged'.

Men are not 'challenged' only mistaken when they believe they can comprehend continually crazy characters.

Women never feel challenged, because they don't have massive fragile egos like our dear brothers do...

[notme]

1 hour ago, 2Timeless said:

Women never feel challenged, because they don't have massive fragile egos like our dear brothers do...

 

Are you trying to start something?

 

Edited October 13, 2019 by notme