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A girl who can’t find suitable intellectual friends

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What does a girl do when she can’t find any intellectual religious friends? The very religious one at uni ones are all into shopping, clothes and makeup All the religious discussions are simple minded. No one wants to discuss deep subjects. Some boys do but that can’t be done much for obvious reasons.

Its such a lonely existence.

Help!

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define intellectual religious friends?. What do you hope and expect to discuss 24/7 365 days a year with these intellectual religious friends. What if the discussions become stale? or the individuals decide to move on to another field or topic?. or imagine egos clashing of these so called intellectuals.? I am right, no I am right, who is right? Who says you cannot debate or discuss with boys. Just do it via a group gathering or create a religious intellectual debate / book club. You seek something else, a place of belonging.

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Well Imam Ali says “He who knows humanity prefers solitude”. That’s quite deep. I maybe able to relate with you. Girls nowadays discuss makeup, brands, materialistic things and sometimes I feel left out in my friends circle because I am not into all those but that’s okay. I discuss with them other life/family things and maybe they arent the most intellectual topics I still enjoy my time with them. You can always read on the intellectual subjects because trust me there isn’t a better friend than a book. :)

Hope that helps

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4 hours ago, Guest Monad said:

define intellectual religious friends?. What do you hope and expect to discuss 24/7 365 days a year with these intellectual religious friends. What if the discussions become stale? or the individuals decide to move on to another field or topic?. or imagine egos clashing of these so called intellectuals.? I am right, no I am right, who is right? Who says you cannot debate or discuss with boys. Just do it via a group gathering or create a religious intellectual debate / book club. You seek something else, a place of belonging.

Well that's what shiachat is for.
I think you are right, she is looking for something else.
By the way... I missed your monadic posts!I glad that you are still here.

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10 hours ago, Guest thinker said:

What does a girl do when she can’t find any intellectual religious friends? The very religious one at uni ones are all into shopping, clothes and makeup All the religious discussions are simple minded. No one wants to discuss deep subjects. Some boys do but that can’t be done much for obvious reasons.

Its such a lonely existence.

Help!

She does nothing. Religious people in western countries don't have friends, it's so simple... And if she's a really social person she'll just have to do with her family and relatives... 

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I’m in the same situation. I can’t seem to find anyone who’d have a meaningful conversation or actually discuss ideas, current events, religion, books, conspiracies, or other intriguing concepts. Unfortunately, almost every girl I meet wants to talk about what other people are up to and about make up and clothes. It’s so frustrating because I’m really not into those things so I usually have very little to contribute. This makes me a very boring person to them and so I don’t usually get invited to hang out much and neither do I wish to hang out with them much as I feel incredibly bored when I’m with them. 

I guess you just have to learn how to enjoy your own company. You can always send me a message if you’d like though :) 

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9 minutes ago, Jannat786 said:

I’m in the same situation. I can’t seem to find anyone who’d have a meaningful conversation or actually discuss  conspiracies

What conspiracies?

https://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/235063178-you-are-a-slave-and-you-have-always-been/?tab=comments#comment-3232043

 

 

Edited by AkhiraisReal

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Guest Muslimah

Its okay sister. Its something I came to realize as well. Unfortunately reading something interesting and gaining self confidence is the way to go. Just make your belief strong and maybe you will be able to influence others.

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On 9/18/2019 at 4:28 PM, Guest thinker said:

What does a girl do when she can’t find any intellectual religious friends? The very religious one at uni ones are all into shopping, clothes and makeup All the religious discussions are simple minded. No one wants to discuss deep subjects. Some boys do but that can’t be done much for obvious reasons.

Its such a lonely existence.

Help!

One advantage of the lnternet is that you can have a slow, thoughtful conversation.

Plus, you can find a site-specific-subject that you are interested in. I use to be on two others before l found ShiaChat.

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On 9/18/2019 at 10:28 PM, Guest thinker said:

What does a girl do when she can’t find any intellectual religious friends?

alhamdulillah you have a description of what you are looking for. I don't know why you limit to religious only. Religious friends are for everything religious yet intellectualism is not limited to religion. With spouses though...

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On 9/18/2019 at 10:28 PM, Guest thinker said:

What does a girl do when she can’t find any intellectual religious friends? The very religious one at uni ones are all into shopping, clothes and makeup All the religious discussions are simple minded. No one wants to discuss deep subjects. Some boys do but that can’t be done much for obvious reasons.

Its such a lonely existence.

Help!

check my topics if you want to discuss deep subjects

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On 9/18/2019 at 4:28 PM, Guest thinker said:

Its such a lonely existence.

Be careful with these words. They bring the lonely and socially inept males out of the woodwork.

Unless, of course, you're trying to do that, in which case my warning is for the lonely and socially inept males. Be careful of these words.

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I feel exactly the same even at university I like friends that wear hijab and pray and talk about subjects which make sense not gossip unfortunately I’ve had to remove myself from there circle in university because of this I mean the hijab girls don’t pray and gossip which is not any relevance to me I feel it’s very hard to find proper friends and good social circles these days that have meaning.

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On 9/27/2019 at 9:48 PM, notme said:

Be careful with these words. They bring the lonely and socially inept males out of the woodwork.

Unless, of course, you're trying to do that, in which case my warning is for the lonely and socially inept males. Be careful of these words.

bull’s eye inept male. bless you always 

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On 9/18/2019 at 3:28 PM, Guest thinker said:

What does a girl do when she can’t find any intellectual religious friends? The very religious one at uni ones are all into shopping, clothes and makeup All the religious discussions are simple minded. No one wants to discuss deep subjects. Some boys do but that can’t be done much for obvious reasons.

Its such a lonely existence.

Help!

Same thing with men

Most men want to discuss sports, trivial political gossip, gadgets ,cars, stocks and bonds

Join a local book club 

But better to keep social contacts with people they are useful idiots , solitude unless specically for religious reasons will take a toll on you and make you emotionally vulnerable 

Deeper discussions you can do with scholars at your local mosque 

Edited by Panzerwaffe

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On 9/18/2019 at 10:28 PM, Guest thinker said:

What does a girl do when she can’t find any intellectual religious friends? The very religious one at uni ones are all into shopping, clothes and makeup All the religious discussions are simple minded. No one wants to discuss deep subjects. Some boys do but that can’t be done much for obvious reasons.

Its such a lonely existence.

Help!

Get used to it. Once you are chosen to be a mumina, it gets lonely at the top! Spend time talking to God, and keep thanking Him that He guided you when he didn't guide all the people around you. Only a very small minority are guided, so it's a sacrifice your must pay, and willingly so. Even among the momins, if you rise in the ranks, you will feel lonely even more, while feeling more in God's presence. God's presence more than makes up for this sacrifice. If you have one million friends it can not make up for having Allah as your friend. Keep it up and spread the word whenever you can, in whatever way you see right. In Sha Allah in the next life you will never feel lonely again! Keep it up and higher and higher you go! Inshallah

Also keep praying and asking God for what you want. Go into details if you can. Ask God to take away your sorrows and loneliness for instance. Keep asking even if it doesn't happen immediately. Keep asking and explaining as if God is your most trusted friend. Because He is. He is your Waly. Anyway, you will see signs along the way continuously in sha Allah and hopefully we all die or get martyred Muslim.

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Guest realistic

deep subjects are never for discussion. they’re only for understanding. but to understand them, you need to break open norms and chains that you’re entangled in . 

if you actually are so daring , then good luck.

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Guest realistic

find someone  non intellectual. find someone non religious. it’s a simple way out.

good luck

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