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11 minutes ago, King said:

Keep looking, there are oceans of eligible marriageable women around.

Hopefully not spacific oceans, this ocean appears to be part of the issue.

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3 hours ago, Ali~J said:

I was talking about standards of people. 

Not living standards. 

I got you, but a lot of the discussion on standards ends up being on the material aspect of education, job, mahr, home the couple can live in, size of wedding expected etc. The moral and akhlaqi issues expected have not changed much In my humble opinion.

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18 minutes ago, habib e najjaar said:

I got you, but a lot of the discussion on standards ends up being on the material aspect of education, job, mahr, home the couple can live in, size of wedding expected etc. The moral and akhlaqi issues expected have not changed much In my humble opinion.

Ya both of you are right though I never tried to propose before I’m almost 100% I would get rejected for not having lots of money, a degree and a place of my own.

What is said above seems to be the priority not just for some women but their parents.

to solve this we can pray, try to build confidence and try to straighten some things on our end. My idea is if we have a plan at least that’s something. If we get rejected still we can at least complain to God. 

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21 hours ago, Fgs123 said:

Getting married is one of the most stressful and difficult things I have come across.

You should have followed me on ShiaChat. You would have known this before hand.

21 hours ago, Fgs123 said:

And why are women so God dsmn picky these days? Because they all imagine they are all so 'special'.

 

I've honestly heard some horror stories.

"Heard some horror stories" ?

Get marred and you will scarcely exist in your personalized horror story.

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15 minutes ago, TryHard said:

Ya both of you are right though I never tried to propose before I’m almost 100% I would get rejected for not having lots of money, a degree and a place of my own.

What is said above seems to be the priority not just for some women but their parents.

to solve this we can pray, try to build confidence and try to straighten some things on our end. My idea is if we have a plan at least that’s something. If we get rejected still we can at least complain to God. 

Women face this too. Men either want an exquisite beauty to match the filtered and photoshopped and made up faces and bodies they see, or they want a nice simple religious wife who will not have any objections to being one of many wives, and will be happy and willing to give up her education, career, financial independence for the sake of Allah (read: for his sake).

The worst part is they don’t declare this from the onset of things, and expect it to come in the package with the religious wife. 

Its a mad mad world LOL

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39 minutes ago, habib e najjaar said:

Women face this too. Men either want an exquisite beauty to match the filtered and photoshopped and made up faces and bodies they see, or they want a nice simple religious wife who will not have any objections to being one of many wives, and will be happy and willing to give up her education, career, financial independence for the sake of Allah (read: for his sake).

The worst part is they don’t declare this from the onset of things, and expect it to come in the package with the religious wife. 

Its a mad mad world LOL

Well I’m not like that and I’m speaking from my perspective.

sure I want my wife to be attractive I even pray for it. However I’m not the type to go for the prettiest I see as long as I find her decently attractive I’m good. Despite that people like me who go to get married get rejected on the basis of money.

second it’s different for men in my opinion because men usually go to propose not woman. In my case I gotta go propose not the girl. So we are the ones to face rejection. 

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13 minutes ago, TryHard said:

Well I’m not like that and I’m speaking from my perspective.

sure I want my wife to be attractive I even pray for it. However I’m not the type to go for the prettiest I see as long as I find her decently attractive I’m good. Despite that people like me who go to get married get rejected on the basis of money.

second it’s different for men in my opinion because men usually go to propose not woman. In my case I gotta go propose not the girl. So we are the ones to face rejection. 

Yeah but you're the ones choosing. You come out of the blue and the girl in her confusion blurts out yes and she's done for for life.

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51 minutes ago, Aragaia said:

Yeah but you're the ones choosing. You come out of the blue and the girl in her confusion blurts out yes and she's done for for life.

She can reject later :hahaha:

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5 hours ago, Aragaia said:

Yeah but you're the ones choosing. You come out of the blue and the girl in her confusion blurts out yes and she's done for for life.

No inshallah she’s happy for life. But as @Noor Talebpoints out she can divorce later worst case scenario. though inshallah that does not happen.

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7 hours ago, TryHard said:

I never tried to propose before I’m almost 100% I would get rejected for not having lots of money, a degree and a place of my own.

:party:Some get rejected even if they have these ^^  Believe it or not there is a population of females who would prefer piety and morals over money and a big house. 

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10 hours ago, Noor Taleb said:

 

it’s going to be fine InshAllah   --> :hahaha:

men are blaming women and vice versa           She starts it !

No need to be like :angry: or :brucelee: or :byecry:    Then WHY do you think it is called the "Eternal Battle" ?

go pray Get marred and this is all you can do.

Answers in Bold Face above.

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