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Cutting of relatives

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Ayatollah Khamenei told me:

Bismihi Ta`ala

Salamun `alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

Cutting ties with one's blood relatives is haraam. However, maintaining ties with relatives is not confined to visiting them, but it also could be done through other means like phoning, messaging, etc.

With prayers for your success

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52 minutes ago, rxdbx said:

Salam, 

if you've read my previous thread, you know of the situation. 

I was wondering whether it is islamically right of me to cut ties with my cousins, and uncles and etc?

In your situation, ignoring them does not equate to cutting them off. 

Don't cut ties but also don't feel pressured to answer their texts if they are still harassing you.

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These answers seem crazy to me. My father was physically and mentally abusive and as soon as I could physically stop him I did. One of the happiest days of my life was when my Mother (may Allah bless and keep her) divorce him and kick him out. From the moment he was removed life got better in every conceivable way. 

It's hard for me to bring what everyone is saying together with Allah the ever merciful and ever just. To me it's like trying to put a round peg in a square hole. Can some please give a Qua'rnic or Hadith source? 

 

I mean I can understand (not really) the advice coming from a cultural or historical perspective, but man. It just doesn't seem to jive with me. 

 

I am truly not trying to start trouble, just learn.

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Added the learning bit

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@funklebits

Seventh Greater Sin: Qat’a ar-Rahm

https://www.al-Islam.org/greater-sins-volume-1-ayatullah-Sayyid-abdul-husayn-dastghaib-shirazi/seventh-greater-sin-qata-ar

But your father was not a blood relation to your mother? 

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7 minutes ago, Ali~J said:

@funklebits

Seventh Greater Sin: Qat’a ar-Rahm

https://www.al-Islam.org/greater-sins-volume-1-ayatullah-Sayyid-abdul-husayn-dastghaib-shirazi/seventh-greater-sin-qata-ar

But your father was not a blood relation to your mother? 

Thank you for this and nope from opposite sides of the world from each other.

 

After reading through this it looks like I am hell bound. 

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Read the reference and added the bit about going to hell

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3 minutes ago, funklebits said:

Thank you for this and nope from opposite sides of the world from each other.

Hmm, then from what I understand your mother's OK not contacting him because she's not a blood relative, so there's no problem there. 

But you should try to keep contact, if you literally can't contact him (on the phone or messaging, physical visiting isn't necessary (see my Ayatollah Khamenei post)) then I don't think it's an issue for you either then.... 

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26 minutes ago, funklebits said:

These answers seem crazy to me. My father was physically and mentally abusive and as soon as I could physically stop him I did. One of the happiest days of my life was when my Mother (may Allah bless and keep her) divorce him and kick him out. From the moment he was removed life got better in every conceivable way. 

It's hard for me to bring what everyone is saying together with Allah the ever merciful and ever just. To me it's like trying to put a round peg in a square hole. Can some please give a Qua'rnic or Hadith source? 

 

I mean I can understand (not really) the advice coming from a cultural or historical perspective, but man. It just doesn't seem to jive with me. 

 

I am truly not trying to start trouble, just learn.

"A man said to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “I have relatives with whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off. I treat them well, but they abuse me. I am patient and kind towards them, but they insult me.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “If you are as you say, then it is as if you are putting hot dust in their mouths. Allaah will continue to support you as long as you continue to do that.” (Reported by Muslim with commentary by al-Nawawi, 16/115)"

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1 hour ago, rxdbx said:

Salam, 

if you've read my previous thread, you know of the situation. 

I was wondering whether it is islamically right of me to cut ties with my cousins, and uncles and etc?

salam,

What happened with Nabi Muhammad (s) & his(s) relation with his(s) uncle, say Abu Lahab? It is a difficult one indeed, being tried through relations. Islamically. Haven't read your previous threads so don't about your situation, @ least maybe they don't do crazy stuff to be you or try to since you are not there for reasons like tabarra & tawalla. Listening to ' good music' is good then when thinking of the enemies of AB(عليه السلام), then you try & distance yourself, even so with cousins unless of course they are afflicted.

ws

 

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What if your relatives were from among this group. 

Tauba 80. “Whether you ask forgiveness for them or do not ask forgiveness for them; if you ask forgiveness for them seventy times, Allah will not forgive them; this is because they disbelieved in Allah and His Messenger; and Allah does not guide the ungodly people.”

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12 minutes ago, Raheel Yunus said:

And if they are creating troubles in my life deliberately.

ik how you feel been their n felt hurt

it hurts when you get backstabbed

ill pray that Allah makes it easy for you n try to talk to someone.

Seek help.

 

 

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