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Ali~J

To what extent do you agree with this person's view on marriage for the youth?

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10 hours ago, Ali~J said:

They are, but for an early marriage they aren't going to be living by themselves so these things become less important, but if anything they wi be better at these things since they are not just plopped into cold water alone, but they'll have their parents support since it's a young marriage.

If they have support. Early marriages often happen because a family wants to get rid of a daughter to feed. And the man is often aged 21-45. And no one is supporting no one. Oh yeah, and the women are more likely to die at child birth. (not to mention too early intercourse - I mean rape).

Marrige has two sides to it

1)it's a social and financial contract.

2) a relationship of mutual love.

But some scholars like to ignore the second part even if it is in the Qur'an since love can always develop between two people.

And if a girl is to move in with her in-laws, who said she likes it? Why would a girl who hasn't finished school yet want to give up everything because someone somewhere thinks she can’t control her sexual urges. (as women almost always can) this text is for men from men for the sake of men.

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Believe me guys I'm all for practicing celibacy but apparently that's haraam too? 

I don't know really know where to go with the whole argument, I definitely don't fully agree with the author, I think he's been to extreme in certain aspects and he must have some weird agenda of his own lol

But on the other hand suppressing my sexual urges for another decade can't be good mentally, I mean for the past 6 years or so, that's what I've been battling with. And it's been getting harder and harder over the years. I can already imagine what some of you guys will say in response to this ^ :dry: ^ but I had to get it out there I guess..... 

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9 minutes ago, Ali~J said:

Believe me guys I'm all for practicing celibacy but apparently that's haraam too? 

I don't know really know where to go with the whole argument, I definitely don't fully agree with the author, I think he's been to extreme in certain aspects and he must have some weird agenda of his own lol

But on the other hand suppressing my sexual urges for another decade can't be good mentally, I mean for the past 6 years or so, that's what I've been battling with. And it's been getting harder and harder over the years. I can already imagine what some of you guys will say in response to this ^ :dry: ^ but I had to get it out there I guess..... 

You don't need to follow any cultural norm. This article is not directed for individuals but communities and so are the responses. Every persons situation is different. If you want to get married all you have to do is do it by the Islamic law.

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