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6 hours ago, 2Timeless said:

Just out of curiosity, since this is linked to the discussion now, how did the Arabs/people in the time of the Prophet show women were married?  In that time or even before, women were treated like objects (undisputed fact), so surely there was some sort of sign used to signify a woman was owned/taken by a husband? I know in some cultures the women would wear something or style their hair a certain way. 

They rarely left the house lol

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11 hours ago, Islandsandmirrors said:

It’s not about the workplace entirely. It’s to also show to the community that you are married. It’s a respectful thing to do for your wife. Wearing a ring wouldn’t harm you. 

I don’t have a community and people who know me know that I am married and people who don’t know me don’t care if I am married or not to begin with.

My wife don’t find it disrespectful that I don’t wear a wedding ring, nor do I find her disrespectful towards me for not wearing one. I trust her and she trusts me, nobody can forcefully marry me. As far as wearing a ring wont harm me, I do wear a aqiq ring when I am not working, since It could harm my hand to wear a ring while I work.

Anyways, if you want to wear a wedding ring or not its your own business. I don’t think wearing the work clothes (suits) of the work place you are employed at is the same thing as adapting your traditions to them.  Its not really an accurate comparison in my opinion. Otherwise one could argue that we should get married in churches with white princess dresses and tacky wedding cakes as thats what the majority of people do where some of us live. Dress out for halloween, celebrate xmas, easter, etc, etc.

Edited by IbnSina

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1 hour ago, Abu Nur said:

I bought silver and suddenly it rusted so it must be iron. So it seem it was fake.

It might have been silver coated, did it have a stamp on it?

Try with a magnet next time, silver shouldnt be magnetic.

Edited by IbnSina

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10 hours ago, Islandsandmirrors said:

Should also go live in some desert area, only eat dates and bread, not have a TV, not drive, not use the internet, not get a diploma (formal university), use camels as transportation, because the Prophet (عليه السلام) didn’t live with technology.

Salams,

If only I could!

In all seriousness, mules, donkeys, and horses were also used for transportation though, and he enjoyed a stew made from broth and torn up bread among other food such as meat cooked in milk, and institutions of formal education did exist, and he apparently had companions who were alumni. But these things are besides the point, I think the argument that people are pursuing here is that he could have worn rings of fine jewels but he didn't. According to various traditions his rings would be rather simple, made of silver, common stones which would be circular and set in the middles, or would be a seal which he used when sealing letters. The Prophet and the Imams who followed also wore their rings on their right hands, not their left. Now I think it's a bit beyond the scope of a shiachat thread in the off-topic section to decide the legal ruling associated with wearing diamond rings per se, and no one is arguing that they're haram or makruh to wear, but at that the Prophet did otherwise and his sunnah is preferable. That is if you were to pursue this argument.

It comes down to people's tastes when it comes to jewelry like this. And there are problems with the diamond industry as @Akbar673 showed, with practices like being obtained from conflict zones and their prices are artificially inflated by controlling how many diamonds are in circulation. With the (unfortunate) diffusion of western culture throughout the world, many practices have been imported including the expectation of engagement and wedding rings. As @2Timeless pointed out, historically there'd be different ways to show that someone's been married, whether it was wearing one's hair in a different way or different clothing, now it's wedding rings. I suppose there was likely also a presumption that after a certain age someone being married was more likely than not.

In any case, why give your wife a diamond ring? A cloak made from the fur of a red camel is quite obviously the better gift.

wassalam

Edited by Ibn Al-Ja'abi

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If a non-mahram female colleague at work offered me a fist bump instead of a handshake (because she knew I don't do handshakes), would it be ok to do it, if the diamonds on her finger were so large that there would be no physical contact with her hand?

Edited by Haji 2003

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Well, if ladies are interested in a gemstone then perhaps a Ruby (aka Yaqoot) might be a way to go?

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“As though (in Good looks) they are like Rubies and Coral.” Qur'an - 55:58

Islamically recommended due to it being beneficial to the circulatory and cardiac systems. 

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According to some experts, the benefits of ruby include the prevention of blood loss, the helping of curing blood disease and heart disease, the protection of its wearer from nightmares, and the bringing of light (noor) to the eyes of those who gaze on it. - Marifat al Jawahir, Syedi Ibrahim Saify

Besides I think a nice red ruby looks way nicer than a plain clear diamond...

Image result for rubyImage result for diamond

 

Islamic Gemstones.pdf

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^ Rubies are much prettier than diamonds. I also like emeralds, but to be honest, it would make me nervous to wear a small and valuable item casually. Many of the semi-precious stones are quite lovely and suitable for daily wear if you're into that.  

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I’d love to have a sapphire ring as I love gemstones, and would have gone for a yellow gold band, diamond as the center stone, and either ruby or sapphire stones on the side (similar to Jessica Simpson’s engagement ring.) but I wanted to keep it relatively budget-friendly for my hubby. So I just went for a simple solitaire. 

Funnily enough, I get tons of compliments on it. 

My wedding band is diamonds embedded all around. 

For my one year, I want a sapphire ring. 

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I just want to make it clear that my ring does not have any diamonds. :)

It's necessary for women in Lebanon to wear a ring, otherwise they will think you are single, and men will approach you for marriage.

Single men look at the hand, if there is not a ring, they proceed to ask if they can talk with you for the intention of marriage.

Edited by Laayla
'Urf, purpose of the ring

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