Suicide

[Greenflag]

Salam,

What Does the Quran say about suicide? I know it is haram and people who do it go to hell. But I have seen innocent kids do it. What happend to them? Honestly I have considered it myself many times but I just know that I would not end up a better place.

[Ralvi]

Children are not held accountable for their actions until after puberty has been reached I think

please don’t do it, I have also had those thoughts but the fear of hell and Allahs disappointment put me off. Indeed if you’re alive you have a job you must fulfill

it won’t be easy...it’s our story 

inshallah to your success 

[Laayla]

Bismehe Ta3ala,

Wa Alikum Assalam

Whatever you are going through right now it will pass.  You have the opportunity to do so much good in this society.  You do not own your life, so you can not take it away.

Life is very precious.  Do good works and you will see your fruit and labor in the Hereafter.  God is most Merciful, ask for His help.  Ask Ahulbayt to intercede on your behalf.  They will not fail you.  Make sure you are praying and do your wajibat.  Avoid haram and people who will drag you to do haram.  

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَأْكُلُوا أَمْوَالَكُمْ بَيْنَكُمْ بِالْبَاطِلِ إِلَّا أَنْ تَكُونَ تِجَارَةً عَنْ تَرَاضٍ مِنْكُمْ ۚ وَلَاتَقْتُلُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِكُمْ رَحِيمًا ﴿٢٩

 

"And do not kill yourselves, surely God is most Merciful to you."

— Qur'an, Sura 4 (An-Nisa), ayat 29 ^[25]

 

Please do not spend time by yourself.  Surround yourself with supportive people, friends, family, or volunteer your time to help others.

 

Difficult times will pass brother, and you will be at ease soon.  Take care of yourself, you are important and worthy.  We are here for you, anything you are going through don't keep it inside share it with us or someone you trust.  Most of all ask Allah swt to help you get through whatever you are experiencing.  Have a relationship with one of the 14 of the m3soumeen.  Ask for their intercession.

 

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah

Edited December 5, 2018 by Laayla

[aaljibar]

People only become accountable for their actions once they become baligh (they develop pubic hair for both male and female OR sexual emissions for men and menstruation for female.

Killing yourself is severe disrespect to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى. BE patient and supplicate to Allah and seek help from scholars insha'Allah.

[Akbar673]

2 hours ago, Greenflag said:

Salam,

What Does the Quran say about suicide? I know it is haram and people who do it go to hell. But I have seen innocent kids do it. What happend to them? Honestly I have considered it myself many times but I just know that I would not end up a better place.

Have you considered therapy ? Perhaps speaking to a licensed professional about what you are feeling ?

[AidAsSadik]

@Greenflag Salam.

Brother Akbar give you good advice.

If you are not open to talk with therapist,i am sure that no one would mind if you say here what made you feel that way

You must know that Dua is your shield.Allah S.w.T will respond.Remember Him,He will rememember you.

I dont know how you feel,and i know it is easy to say "it will be better",but for thoose who have strong iman,they knew it will.

We all have some strugles at some area of life,some with business,some with mariage,some with parentinting,but for all this isues we are blessed with guide of Ahlu-l-Bayt a.s

Because from from my own expirence,i can tell,that no matter of isue you are facing,your solution is at Sahifa Sajjadiya.

But dont just speak words,do your best to feel them,because when you feel words of Imam Sajjad(s),you will see miracles.

At end point you must know you are not alone.We are here for you,To keep you in duas,listen you,give advice,and do best to try understand you.

Wa Salam

[Carlzone]

If you think suffering in donya is tough - how will you be able to cope with burning in hell in akhira then? Best to stay alive till your ordained time. 

And I do understand you. But believe me - ease will come after hardships. Last year I was asking Allah SWT to take me back as I reached a point of suffering and was in such a locked up situation I couldn't even believe could be real. I saw no way out. But if you have patience and accept your fate ease will come. And doors you didnt know existed can appear out of no where. Have sabr. It will pass. Allah himself promises us that. 

And if there is one thing I want you to do actively then it is to visit Ahlul bayt a.s. Talk to them from your heart. Tell them about your problems. Ask them to talk to God on your behalf. And see what will happen in your life InshaAllah. 

If you're ever in Karbala - go to Maqaam Al Mahdi (10-15 minute walk from Imam Hussain a.s) and write your wishes on a paper and throw it in the water. Expect amazing results.

May Allah SWT ease your suffering soon InshaAllah! ♡♡♡

[Hassu93]

I have been through similar phases but Suicide is not an answer to all your pronlems.

Talk to someone in your family if you don't trust them go anonymous into some random forum and speak your heart out ( I used to do this and support I get helped me feel better)

Consult a therapist they will be very helpful for you to overcome all your problems

[Abdul-Hadi]

OP, please don't do it. This is a decision that you cannot take back and there absolutely will be people who will miss what you bring to their lives, even if it doesn't seem like it and they don't tell you.

I struggle with suicidality frequently because I have a sickness of the mind that tries to convince me that I am completely alone, no one likes or understands me, that there is absolutely no hope that I'll ever be happy because I "know too much about how the world is". My mind goes to war against itself because of this sickness and these thoughts and moods seem so real that sometimes I actually do believe that I am right and completely forget that I am living with an illness that does this to me.

1. Surround yourself with people, even if you would rather be alone.

2. Get physical exercise/activity

3. Eat whole foods-- not fast ones. Eat a balanced diet.

4. Try to find hobbies as well as a support group for people who struggle with suicidality, because it's a real illness that medical professionals are beginning to understand, which brings me to my next point:

5. Seek PROFESSIONAL medical help from a psychiatric doctor. Too many people who kill themselves do so because they were too ashamed to seek treatment from qualified professionals. Do not become one of them, you don't have to.

If you ever want someone to message with your concerns who will not judge you or even try to fix you, someone who will read and only respond if you want a response, my inbox is always open.

Please, if you ever need to vent when you feel this way, vent to me because I suffer with this disease too & it has already taken an extremely close friend who I'd give the world to spend even one more hour with.

Be like Hussein (as). Keep getting up with everything you have left in you.

[Soldiers and Saffron]

Jannah is worth enduring dunya for.

The holy Prophet(S) has said in Nahj al Fasahah, Tradition No. 1388 page 197:

"No one is to wish for death, for if you are on the right path, your good might increase, and if you are astray, you might go the way of salvation."

Imam Ali(as) has said in Kanz al-Ummal number 36472:

"I would not be pleased to die as a child and be made to enter paradise without being able to grow up and get to know my Lord, mighty and exalted."

[Hameedeh]

Off-topic posts have been removed. Posts about suicide bombing are not what this thread is about. Please read the first post in the thread and respond appropriately.

[Hameedeh]

On 12/16/2018 at 3:32 PM, Waleed Tariq said:

i was just extending the view that although it is haram but under some circumstances it could be halal?

Please read the OP again. How is what you mentioned even helpful to her? She is not asking about suicide in a political sense but in a depressed and personal way.

If you are in the US and need help, call:

Edited June 15, 2022 by ShiaChat Mod
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[hasanhh]

On ‎12‎/‎5‎/‎2018 at 6:30 AM, Greenflag said:

What Does the Quran say about . . .

. . . Life.  [To change your sentence.]

Ayat 3:186

Ayat 2:286

[3wliya_maryam]

Salam alaikum,

Rasullulah(sawas) refused to lead the janazah for a man who committed suicide. 

Allahu a'lam about those kids, it's just so sad to see them take their own lives away when they have a whole future ahead of them. How can someone choose to leave their family, friends and loved ones.

The one thing that's keeping us from suicide is fear of Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى and His punishment in Hell. I imagine that if it weren't haram, alot of us would've done it already. 

"He gives life and causes death, and to Him you will be returned."(Surat Yūnus,verse56)    

Allah is the only one that can bring life and death, so it isn't up to us to decide when we should end our lives. 

I've never really thought about suicide, but i know what self harm is like. Before i used to think that it wasn't that bad because it was just temporary scars, but honestly they take quite a long time to heal. I would do it for the most stupidest reasons ever, whenever I'd feel guilty such as angering my parents or anything that would literally just guilt trip me, I'd keep doing it. And seeing your parents finding out is the most heartbreaking thing ever, to see the sadness in their eyes. For nobody in this world loves and cares for you as much as they do, when they saw the scars it literally broke their heart. Eventually i had to stop. But imagine if i still continued doing it, if no one told me to stop. It would've been likely that I'd be drawn to suicide because its linked to self harm. But alhamdullilah, with the help of family and friends, I finally stopped.  Surround yourself with loved ones who will help guide and support you through your hardships.

Honestly i dont think we realise just how grateful we are; some people go through cancer or other deadly illness and they don't even have a choice, yet suicidal people actually do have a choice, 

Don't lose hope sister, for it is the shaytan that is making you feel hopeless and full of guilt. Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى has promised twice that there would be ease, know that He will release you from this darkness if you put your trust in Him. Life is short, so make the most of it, Allah has given us so many opportunities and blessings that others wish to have yet we don't even realise it most of the times. We complain about how difficult our lives are, when we should be looking at how hard it is for those in yemen starving to death or the ones in iraq and syria. May Allahسُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى end their hardships and bring justice towards them.

We can thank Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى a thousand billion times for all the blessings He has given us and it'll never be enough. 

The greatest blessing right now is for us being able to breathe, cause we never know when our last breath is gonna be. 

May Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى prolong our lives and the lives of our parents, Ameen.

@Ruqaya101 

[313_Waiter]

 

 

 

أَلَمْ نَشْرَحْ لَكَ صَدْرَكَ 

[Shakir 94:1] Have We not expanded for you your breast,

وَوَضَعْنَا عَنْكَ وِزْرَكَ 

[Shakir 94:2] And taken off from you your burden,

الَّذِي أَنْقَضَ ظَهْرَكَ 

[Shakir 94:3] Which pressed heavily upon your back,

وَرَفَعْنَا لَكَ ذِكْرَكَ 

[Shakir 94:4] And exalted for you your esteem?

فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا 

[Shakir 94:5] Surely with difficulty is ease.

إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا 

[Shakir 94:6] With difficulty is surely ease.

فَإِذَا فَرَغْتَ فَانْصَبْ 

[Shakir 94:7] So when you are free, nominate.

وَإِلَىٰ رَبِّكَ فَارْغَبْ 

[Shakir 94:8] And make your Lord your exclusive object.

May these blessed words bring you ease and guide you to a greater spiritual awakening.

[313_Waiter]

On 12/16/2018 at 9:44 AM, IbnSina said:

Jannah is worth enduring dunya for.

The holy Prophet(S) has said in Nahj al Fasahah, Tradition No. 1388 page 197:

"No one is to wish for death, for if you are on the right path, your good might increase, and if you are astray, you might go the way of salvation."

Imam Ali(as) has said in Kanz al-Ummal number 36472:

"I would not be pleased to die as a child and be made to enter paradise without being able to grow up and get to know my Lord, mighty and exalted."

SubhanAllah the latter quote is what I would have told a now ex Muslim on youtube who attempted suicide in his young age thinking he would be guaranteed paradise for committing it before reaching puberty. 

There is also another hadith qudsi:

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• I was a hidden Treasure I desired to be recognized so I created the creature

Know that God has not created you in vain. He created you to reach a spiritual awakening and God consciousness that is above even the malaika. For in surah tin Allah says: 

لَقَدْ خَلَقْنَا الْإِنْسَانَ فِي أَحْسَنِ تَقْوِيمٍ 

[Shakir 95:4] Certainly We created man in the best make.

ثُمَّ رَدَدْنَاهُ أَسْفَلَ سَافِلِينَ 

[Shakir 95:5] Then We render him the lowest of the low.

إِلَّا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ فَلَهُمْ أَجْرٌ غَيْرُ مَمْنُونٍ 

[Shakir 95:6] Except those who believe and do good, so they shall have a reward never to be cut off.

 

I will definitely recommend this lecture which gives a thorough analysis on the purpose of suffering, the purpose of tests, why God created humans :

https://youtu.be/FAnz0htjM4s

 

-layman Muslim

[313_Waiter]

On this note there was an unsettling case I read on Quora where a Japanese girl was repeatedly rapp()d by yakuza -known as worst case in history. So can a bro/sis explain what it means when Allah said He does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear. Will such apparently extreme suffering be minute in comparison to the rewards received for it afterwards? 

Thanks

wsalam