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When we watch a movie 
1. We can see it, but cannot change it, whether we like it or not.
2. What we can do is to watch and react.
3. Emotions will be generated.
4. Like love,anger,sorrow,joy etc.
5. But whatever our reaction is, it does not affect the movie.
6. We are only the seer and witness of our reactions/emotions.

Life is a like a movie, the story is already written and it is well directed by Allah, we cannot change the story.
We can only control our reaction to every event which occurs to us.
Good reactions purify us (rooh).
With every good reaction we are taking a step towards Allah.

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8 hours ago, Raheel Yunus said:

When we watch a movie 
1. We can see it, but cannot change it, whether we like it or not.
2. What we can do is to watch and react.
3. Emotions will be generated.
4. Like love,anger,sorrow,joy etc.
5. But whatever our reaction is, it does not affect the movie.
6. We are only the seer and witness of our reactions/emotions.

Life is a like a movie, the story is already written and it is well directed by Allah, we cannot change the story.
We can only control our reaction to every event which occurs to us.
Good reactions purify us (rooh).
With every good reaction we are taking a step towards Allah.

But isn’t how we react part of the movie being witnessed?  And since this is so, how much control or freedom do you have over the way you react?  :)

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8 hours ago, Raheel Yunus said:

When we watch a movie 
1. We can see it, but cannot change it, whether we like it or not.
2. What we can do is to watch and react.
3. Emotions will be generated.
4. Like love,anger,sorrow,joy etc.
5. But whatever our reaction is, it does not affect the movie.
6. We are only the seer and witness of our reactions/emotions.

Life is a like a movie, the story is already written and it is well directed by Allah, we cannot change the story.
We can only control our reaction to every event which occurs to us.
Good reactions purify us (rooh).
With every good reaction we are taking a step towards Allah.

So if one falls for adultery and turns out to be an alcoholic it is already written by Allah for him?

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12 minutes ago, Asghar Ali Karbalai said:

So if one falls for adultery and turns out to be an alcoholic it is already written by Allah for him?

I don't think anyone would or should dispute that all our evil and good deeds have been written down by God.  

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13 hours ago, eThErEaL said:

But isn’t how we react part of the movie being witnessed?  And since this is so, how much control or freedom do you have over the way you react?  :)

Every second of our life is an event created by Allah and we (soul) by means of sense organs of our body experiencing/witnessing it that "This is happening".
Seeing "This" as it is, it is realized that one cannot do anything other than what is being done. 
However, if one is able to delve just a bit deeper into a more comprehensive understanding/experience, another level will be realized. The deeper level is
the realization that Ultimate Truth is pointing to the “This” that is happening.
The word “This” instantly brings one's attention to their immediate
experience. 
Imagine that the body was just another sense object, exactly like everything
else. 
This is what is happening.

@eThErEaL it is very difficult for me to put my thoughts into words, language is a big barrier.

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19 hours ago, Raheel Yunus said:

Every second of our life is an event created by Allah and we (soul) by means of sense organs of our body experiencing/witnessing it that "This is happening".
Seeing "This" as it is, it is realized that one cannot do anything other than what is being done. 
However, if one is able to delve just a bit deeper into a more comprehensive understanding/experience, another level will be realized. The deeper level is
the realization that Ultimate Truth is pointing to the “This” that is happening.
The word “This” instantly brings one's attention to their immediate
experience. 
Imagine that the body was just another sense object, exactly like everything
else. 
This is what is happening.

@eThErEaL it is very difficult for me to put my thoughts into words, language is a big barrier.

Salam,

so what is an example of a “good reaction” vs a “bad reaction”...

 

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3 hours ago, eThErEaL said:

Salam,

so what is an example of a “good reaction” vs a “bad reaction”...

 

Good reaction.

You give me a gift. I say Thank you

Bad Reaction 

You give me a gift. I say what the hell is this and throw it back in your face. 

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3 hours ago, eThErEaL said:

Salam,

so what is an example of a “good reaction” vs a “bad reaction”...

 

Human body made from earth,water, fire,air, sky, desires and nature (fitrat).
We (rooh/spirit) separated from absolute reality because of ego ("I" sense).

So we have ego and the purpose of our life to remove the ego and go back to where we came from. 
But how to kill ego ?
It is by good reaction that we can kill our ego.

Every moment of our life is an event (a musibah) created by Allah which we have to face with good reaction.

مَا أَصَابَ مِنْ مُصِيبَةٍ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَلَا فِي أَنْفُسِكُمْ إِلَّا فِي كِتَابٍ مِنْ قَبْلِ أَنْ نَبْرَأَهَا ۚ إِنَّ ذَٰلِكَ عَلَى اللَّهِ يَسِيرٌ

No musibah befalls on the earth nor in your own souls, but it is in a book before We bring it into existence; surely that is easy to Allah:
Surah Al-Hadid (57:22)

[21:35] Every person will taste death, after we put you to the test through adversity and prosperity, then to us you ultimately return.

As per this ayah it is clear that adversity and prosperity is predetermined events created by Allah.

[16:53] Any blessing you enjoy is from GOD. Yet, whenever you incur any adversity you immediately complain to Him. 
Complaining at the time of adversity is bad reaction.

When he removes our problem :
[16:54] Yet, as soon as He relieves your affliction, some of you revert to idol worship (thankful to other than Allah ).
This is bad reaction.

(57:23)That ye grieve not for the sake of that which hath escaped you, nor yet exult because of that which hath been given. Allah loveth not all prideful boasters.
At the time of adversity neither grieve nor complain be patient.(good reaction)
Do not exult over what Allah give you.(good reaction).

Our fitrat (nafs) always force us for the bad reaction. we have to work (jihad)
against our nafs so that one day we will be able to kill it (faqtulu anfusakum).

This is the only way how we will be successful to remove our ego.

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On 11/5/2018 at 8:15 AM, Raheel Yunus said:

When we watch a movie 
1. We can see it, but cannot change it, whether we like it or not.
2. What we can do is to watch and react.
3. Emotions will be generated.
4. Like love,anger,sorrow,joy etc.
5. But whatever our reaction is, it does not affect the movie.
6. We are only the seer and witness of our reactions/emotions.

Life is a like a movie, the story is already written and it is well directed by Allah, we cannot change the story.
We can only control our reaction to every event which occurs to us.
Good reactions purify us (rooh).
With every good reaction we are taking a step towards Allah.

Life is more complicated than a movie.

Movies end in a few hours.  Even the Lord of the Rings series finished in a few hours.

I would hope with the reappearance of Imam Mahdi that I would be a better person.

I understand we go through tragedy, trials, suffering, pain, grief, every sort of discomfort.  We are tested with money, children, spouses, health,  and people.

It is extremely difficult.  Whenever I fool myself to think that I got this, this is going smoothly, I smirk to myself and expect something harder.  I'm such a fool.

Life doesn't get easier.

Today I went in to see the principle for my child.  Noor (unisex name, not the name of my child)  Noor has been acting out in class.  The principle asks what's wrong no answer.  I asked, no answer.  Three students in the same grade as Noor, come and go and the principle asks the children about what is going on in their lives and Noor listened and heard what is going on in their homes.

I ended up crying, to hear the stories of these children broke my heart.

That's all I was thinking about today and it really changed my mood.

I still need to learn how does one manage to keep a smiling face in the outside, yet is so hurt in the inside from the problems of this world.  The endless problems that exist.

Like it isn't easy for me to read at all on this forum when a shia girl says I commit haram relationship with a foreign man.  This by itself is like a knife jabbed in my heart.  

I can't get desensitized.  Everyday a new picture of a Yemeni child starved to death.  Just more hurt and sadness inside me.  This is not normal.  I don't want it to be normal to keep seeing these pictures and not have an impact on me.  I refuse to be a zombie.  I really think people are living zombies in this day and age.  A thousand pictures of a filtered selfie to get x amount of likes.   Dare you put up a starving Yemeni child lying in a hospital bed, waiting for the angel to remove his/her soul?  

I think of people who found Islam, and then once they find the truth when they are hit with trials, the first thing they let go is religion @Sisterfatima1

I have been asking about this sister and her wellbeing and she is gone.  No answer, God knows what her situation is now.  The most tragic thing is loosing faith. If you are reading this sister even if you think you have reached rock bottom, God is there for you, you just need to ask.  To waken your heart from whatever situation you are in now, return to reading Quran and remind yourself of death.

And now I go to bed, putting my head on the pillow thinking of these real life events.  The tragedy we are facing in this world is people are caring more about animals than other human beings.  We live in a very scary, dangerous world.  God hasten the return of sahab al 3sri wa zaman.

I'm choked up.   I hope to see my Imam soon.  I hope he is not disappointed in me and I'm not the reason for his delay.   I hope my eyes will lay eyes on him.  I hope he answers my salam when I say Assalamu 3lyaqa ya Aba Salah.  I hope he let's me understand and know him.  Ya Allah, send your Imam.  Allhoma 3jal farajou.  Do not let me be the reason for his delay.  Help me fix my flaws and allow me to return to the path of Mohammad wa ahli Mohammad.  Do not take me from this life until you are pleased with me, habibi ya Allah.

al 3jal al 3jal ya mowlay

 

 

 

 

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Assalaamun aleikum @Laayla

Oh my gosh, sister, so many points you mentioned in your post are exactly what I'm thinking and going through! I'm hurt by this world, by seeing the constant struggle people are going through. There's never been another time on Earth where the oppression has been as widespread and as severe as it is now. It wasn't possible to this degree at any other time in history. The oppression that existed then was localized and yes, it was bad, but look at the condition the world is in now?! This current type and level of oppression is not simply the obvious oppression that is bearing down on the entire world by LITERALLY by a select few that have socially engineered most of the world to be the shallow, materialistic people a good portion of society is, but it is also the fact that people in our everyday lives oppress each other even in ways they don't realize are oppression. It's like the macrocosm and the microcosm that I'm constantly seeing and it makes me emotionally hurt, upset and crazy:(

Even things like billboards are making me KrAzY. On my way to the Masjid, I pass by at least 20 Billboards. One of them is promoting a gambling casino, another one is where to buy weed at, another one is to buy this new brand of Scotch whiskey, and on and on and on with all this demoralizing stuff. Then, right next to the freeway entrance, there's this giant sign that says "you can make a difference!" And it shows a picture of a dog with its leg in a cast:/  Now, I grew up on a farm, and we have donkeys and other animals that live off the land and I've always been very closely tied to nature and animals, but where is society going when they place their care, concern and money on animals OVER humans?  People are so co-dependent on these animals now, they can't even go to the darn grocery store without dragging them along with them and najisifying all the shopping carts:/ Hey, I get it.. Sometimes dogs are necessary, like seeing eye dogs, or in REAL CASES, companion pets, police/tracking dogs, etc,  or like we have a dog out on our farm for protection purposes. Yes, my dad pays for his dog food, its generic food, and  we don't drag him to the grocery store every time theres a need to go shopping, or spend lavish amounts of money on toys treats and doggie birthday parties and weddings:/  Hes a farm dog and performs a service to us---.--- 

I've seen some really nasty stuff, sister.. I've seen people literally sharing their ice cream cone with their dog!  I'm like EW!!! just the fact that a dog Grooms himself with his tongue, and someone shares their ice cream cone with him is... It's beyond words, and this has NOTHING to donwith dogs being najis in Islam. Some people spend hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of dollars every month on their dogs when that money could be going to help somebody who's starving, on a local level or even on a national level with these devastating things that are happening in places like Yemen and Syria. I don't know how people can, with a good conscience, do these things. I guess it's just because the average person doesn't know what's really going on in the world and/or have been taught and conditioned to believe that certain peoples are less than human so they dont deserve support:(

Muslims are charged with the responsibility of being aware of what's happening on the world scene, not just in our own little bubbles. Yes, its extremelly hard to bear, but the average person needs to go outside of the mainstream news to learn the truth about whats happening in the world.

After the majalis last night, I was sitting in the car with my best friend outside the Masjid and I was just going off on her about all these things and how upsetting they are, and how I know I have every right as a feeling human being to be upset and angry at these things, and i wouldnt want it any other the way. I WANT to feel and know what is not right or acceptable in the world, its just very spiritually, psychologically, and even physically hard to bear beyond a certain point..All i really can do other than to conduct my SELF in the best manner possible, is to make dua for the arrival of the Imam(AS)

EVERYTHING is suffering at the hands of what mankind has wrought, and its very painfull to accept. 

W/s

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12 hours ago, Laayla said:

Life is more complicated than a movie.

Movies end in a few hours.  Even the Lord of the Rings series finished in a few hours.

I would hope with the reappearance of Imam Mahdi that I would be a better person.

I understand we go through tragedy, trials, suffering, pain, grief, every sort of discomfort.  We are tested with money, children, spouses, health,  and people.

It is extremely difficult.  Whenever I fool myself to think that I got this, this is going smoothly, I smirk to myself and expect something harder.  I'm such a fool.

Life doesn't get easier.

Today I went in to see the principle for my child.  Noor (unisex name, not the name of my child)  Noor has been acting out in class.  The principle asks what's wrong no answer.  I asked, no answer.  Three students in the same grade as Noor, come and go and the principle asks the children about what is going on in their lives and Noor listened and heard what is going on in their homes.

I ended up crying, to hear the stories of these children broke my heart.

That's all I was thinking about today and it really changed my mood.

I still need to learn how does one manage to keep a smiling face in the outside, yet is so hurt in the inside from the problems of this world.  The endless problems that exist.

Like it isn't easy for me to read at all on this forum when a shia girl says I commit haram relationship with a foreign man.  This by itself is like a knife jabbed in my heart.  

I can't get desensitized.  Everyday a new picture of a Yemeni child starved to death.  Just more hurt and sadness inside me.  This is not normal.  I don't want it to be normal to keep seeing these pictures and not have an impact on me.  I refuse to be a zombie.  I really think people are living zombies in this day and age.  A thousand pictures of a filtered selfie to get x amount of likes.   Dare you put up a starving Yemeni child lying in a hospital bed, waiting for the angel to remove his/her soul?  

I think of people who found Islam, and then once they find the truth when they are hit with trials, the first thing they let go is religion @Sisterfatima1

I have been asking about this sister and her wellbeing and she is gone.  No answer, God knows what her situation is now.  The most tragic thing is loosing faith. If you are reading this sister even if you think you have reached rock bottom, God is there for you, you just need to ask.  To waken your heart from whatever situation you are in now, return to reading Quran and remind yourself of death.

And now I go to bed, putting my head on the pillow thinking of these real life events.  The tragedy we are facing in this world is people are caring more about animals than other human beings.  We live in a very scary, dangerous world.  God hasten the return of sahab al 3sri wa zaman.

I'm choked up.   I hope to see my Imam soon.  I hope he is not disappointed in me and I'm not the reason for his delay.   I hope my eyes will lay eyes on him.  I hope he answers my salam when I say Assalamu 3lyaqa ya Aba Salah.  I hope he let's me understand and know him.  Ya Allah, send your Imam.  Allhoma 3jal farajou.  Do not let me be the reason for his delay.  Help me fix my flaws and allow me to return to the path of Mohammad wa ahli Mohammad.  Do not take me from this life until you are pleased with me, habibi ya Allah.

al 3jal al 3jal ya mowlay

 

 

 

 

Pray to Allah for those kids and for other people you mentioned in your post.

This is good reaction.

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On 11/5/2018 at 8:44 PM, Asghar Ali Karbalai said:

So if one falls for adultery and turns out to be an alcoholic it is already written by Allah for him?

Regarding adultery you can read the story of Yusuf (as) when he faced the situation he responded to it by good reaction.

With every bad reaction we are sliding away from Allah.

Same is for the alcoholic. 

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8 minutes ago, Raheel Yunus said:

Regarding adultery you can read the story of Yusuf (as) when he faced the situation he responded to it by good reaction.

With every bad reaction we are sliding away from Allah.

Same is for the alcoholic. 

How about Lady Zulekha(asws)?

Before she became a good person, all the bad she did was written by Allah for her that she will do this and that by Allah's will? She will wrong herself first this is what Allah wanted for her?

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21 minutes ago, Asghar Ali Karbalai said:

How about Lady Zulekha(asws)?

Before she became a good person, all the bad she did was written by Allah for her that she will do this and that by Allah's will? She will wrong herself first this is what Allah wanted for her?

Brother Asghar,

That was a situation when she saw Yusuf (as) and fell for him, she did not fight her nafs/fitrah but reacted to the situation badly. That was the bad reaction which created a situation for Yusuf (as) to which he dealt with a good reaction.

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On 11/5/2018 at 8:14 PM, Asghar Ali Karbalai said:

So if one falls for adultery and turns out to be an alcoholic it is already written by Allah for him?

If I ask you to lift your leg you would be able to do it right? but If I ask you to lift your other leg at the same time would you be able to that? No. So Allah has written everything good or bad but he waits till we do something bad either following or against my will. And " Duaon se badal jaati hein taqdeerein" " Duas do change fate"               image.jpeg.5775570a495463d58492f0ac966aa8fb.jpeg

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Brother and sister so to summarize in a simple way

1. Allah knows everything that a human will do.

2. The wrong doings that we do are solely by us ONLY though Allah is aware of it.

Do you both agree with this?

Can we conclude our points this way?

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1 minute ago, Asghar Ali Karbalai said:

@Raheel Yunus @Farwa Jawad

Brother and sister so to summarize in a simple way

1. Allah knows everything that a human will do.

2. The wrong doings that we do are solely by us ONLY though Allah is aware of it.

Do you both agree with this?

Can we conclude our points this way?

yes

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1 minute ago, Farwa Jawad said:

yes

Okay thanks that's what I was thinking that why are you guys thinking that Allah has written it for a women that she will be a prostitute (for example). Because in the end we wrong ourselves and put blame easily on 'fate'.

We human are very clever lol

When something bad happens to us we blame our 'fate' and 'luck' and when we commit a sin we blame 'Shaitan' for it lol

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@shia farm girl

Dear Sister, Wa Alikum Assalam Wa Rahamah.

I hope you are well and in good health.

You are my soul sister.  Thank you for your heartfelt post, God bless you and protect you from all harm.  Your parents raised a caring, kind, thoughtful daughter. Allah swt reward them for raising a daughter that cares for humanity and is unselfish.

 My condolences to you on the passing of Rasoul Allah Mohammad.  My morning today was attending majalis and visiting the zowar (those who went for ziyarat) of Imam Hussain 3la salam for the Arba3een.  I came back beaming being with other momineen.  We can't live in this world alone, we have to be around other people.  We need to be a source of comfort for others and inspire one another, push each other to move forward in these difficult times.  

Allah promised us that all the oppression and injustice we are witnessing will occur before the reappearance of our beloved Imam.  I'm seriously concerned of what is going to happen to the immigrants from Hondorus and other parts of Central America, what will happen to them once on the border of America.  I really hope no one is going to shoot at them.  

God bring relief to the downtrodden, mustadth3feen, and Insh'Allah not allow any oppressor in power to have authority over us.

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah

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On 11/5/2018 at 1:15 AM, Raheel Yunus said:

When we watch a movie 
1. We can see it, but cannot change it, whether we like it or not.
2. What we can do is to watch and react.
3. Emotions will be generated.
4. Like love,anger,sorrow,joy etc.
5. But whatever our reaction is, it does not affect the movie.
6. We are only the seer and witness of our reactions/emotions.

Life is a like a movie, the story is already written and it is well directed by Allah, we cannot change the story.
We can only control our reaction to every event which occurs to us.
Good reactions purify us (rooh).
With every good reaction we are taking a step towards Allah.

Salam, some people have made disgusting lies about me and ruin my reputation for life. And only in the day of judgement people will know that i am innocent and everything was a lie because no matter how many times i am explaining that i am innocent people believe what a woman is telling them and is ignoring my innocence honesty and truthfulness. so this was writen by Allah for people to ruin my reputation like this for life or it was the people use their partialy free wills and their own evilness? 

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Salam,

Allah swt created every human being with different capacities and capabilities.  Allah swt also integrates all human being roles to achieve His satisfaction.  For each role that each of us has to undertake, Allah swt has laid down activities that we should perform in our span of life.

Those activities, we call aamal.  It can good, bad, acceptable, or in religious context, it can be wajib, haram, mubah, sunat... whatever we call it.  It is based on set criteria that Allah swt sent down through the Prophets or through Human Nature.  Allah swt gave the power to distinguish between good / evil in all humans.

The choice to choose the type aamal / actions in our life in order to achieve the satisfaction of Allah swt will be solely by us.

Indeed, Allah swt preferred us to choose the best of actions, He calls it "aamal soleh".

Allah swt has laid down the type of Aamal soleh (the best of actions) for everyone from the moment a person is born until he die.

If we deviate from the best of actions, we have to pay for it.  Some actions will fall into big sins.  

We as humans are ever dependent to the help from Allah swt to lead us to the right path. We pray to Him for guidance and to put us the right path.

Our relationship with the Prophet and Ahlulbayt is for them to lead, guide and hold our hands (most of are spiritually blind) to the right path.  Their roles are to make the direction to the right path clearer, easy to understand and follow.

But, we still have to make the actions by our choice.

Prophet and Ahlulbayt has given enough help to us so that we are making the best of actions.  In addition, Allah swt has given us easier ways for us to do the best of actions.  Most of humans do not appreciate because we sell our existence to syaitans, our own nafs and enemies of Allah swt (kafiruun).

But first thing we have to know, what is our roles in this world.  Then lay down our activities to achieve that roles.  If we are lost and unable to know our roles, then we need to ask our Living Imam (as). 

Wassalam

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On 12/8/2018 at 5:04 PM, learn said:

Salam, some people have made disgusting lies about me and ruin my reputation for life. And only in the day of judgement people will know that i am innocent and everything was a lie because no matter how many times i am explaining that i am innocent people believe what a woman is telling them and is ignoring my innocence honesty and truthfulness. so this was writen by Allah for people to ruin my reputation like this for life or it was the people use their partialy free wills and their own evilness? 

Yes this is the part of your life/movie, you cannot control people around you.
As i said you cannot change the movie only your reaction.
Do not get angry, do not hate them, defend yourself as decently as possible and wait for another scene of the movie and deal with it as instructed in Quran. 

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