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W/Salam, 

I know it’s really hard losing a loved one especially if it’s one of your parents. When My mom lost her mom she was devastated. I always told her to remember the fact that we are all here for only a short period of time. We all have to go one day and then we reunite with our loved ones for eternity inshallah! Death is not the end it’s a new beginning of the eternal life. Till then recite as many Duas and Quran on your fathers behalf and give charity on his behalf as well. I hope this helped! 

Sending lots of prayers and love your way. May Allah give you patience. 

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Sorry to hear about your loss. May Allah give you sabr. :(

When our parents die, we often think that it's the end. This is not the case at all, as your dad is alive in a world that we can't see or perceive. 

We aren't who we're suppose to be in this world. We'll realize our true nature the moment we die.

Your responsibility towards your dad has not stopped. Your dad is in need of your duas, prayers etc. And realize that Allah will reward you for that.

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On 4/22/2018 at 10:55 AM, Sayyida_L said:

Salaams All,

I am a 25 year old girl, and I lost my dad on the 9th of June 2017.

My Dad's death happened at home, His head on my lap, His hand in mine. His final moments with me.

It has been so long, I have tried various amaal, various suras, but I still can not take the scene out of my head, nor can I accept the fact, that my dad is no more. I can not sleep, cannot eat. and I cry most of the time. 

Can anyone advice me what to do? How to stop from hurting?

Alaikum Salaam,

Please accept my condolences.  A similar thing happened to me too last year.  I was few feet away and within 20 mins my father was gone.  We are in transit in this world.

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Salam alaykum,

When I lost my grandmother, who was like a secondary mother to me. I felt like I lost a huge piece of me. 

What helped me 'get over it' was when ever I thought of her or even was about to get teary, I remembered the hilarious things she used to do and the important things she did. I would also think of what she would think if she saw me this upset and how she would feel, that helped a ton.

I also began to thank Allah SWT. Because he gave me someone as precious as her. It was her time to live freely in the heavens, inshallah.

Talking about the funny moments and the great things someone who has passed away has done while they were with you, helps you heal. 

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On 4/22/2018 at 10:55 AM, Sayyida_L said:

Salaams All,

I am a 25 year old girl, and I lost my dad on the 9th of June 2017.

My Dad's death happened at home, His head on my lap, His hand in mine. His final moments with me.

It has been so long, I have tried various amaal, various suras, but I still can not take the scene out of my head, nor can I accept the fact, that my dad is no more. I can not sleep, cannot eat. and I cry most of the time. 

Can anyone advice me what to do? How to stop from hurting?

May Allah elevate his status.

Give yourself some time. Time heals everything. 

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Salam. Condolences. 

I'm not going to pretend what it is like losing a father, because i still haven't. But, what i do know is that trying to forget sometimes has a counter effect. I believe maybe you shouldn't try forgetting and instead keep doing your wajibats and let time do what it does best. 

Just my two cents!

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@Sayyida_L Salam, Sister. How are you? I hope that you return and let us know how you are doing. Dear, I know it's hard. A few years ago my loved one was in the hospital and there was no hope of recovery. I was holding his hand when he passed away, but I don't dwell on that and try to remember the good times with him. Whenever you think about your father's passing, try to think of some happy time when you were together, until you feel yourself smiling. Your dear father always wanted you to have a good life. Please take care of yourself. You need to eat healthy and sleep at least 6 hours if you can. You are in my prayers. 

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On 4/24/2018 at 2:05 PM, repenter-gone4awhile said:

Salam. Condolences. 

I'm not going to pretend what it is like losing a father, because i still haven't. But, what i do know is that trying to forget sometimes has a counter effect. I believe maybe you shouldn't try forgetting and instead keep doing your wajibats and let time do what it does best. 

Just my two cents!

What does the word Wajibat mean ? 

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On 6/14/2022 at 3:09 AM, BibiSyeda12 said:

What does the word Wajibat mean ? 

Salam it means obligatory deeds likewise praying obligatory prayers/Namaz/Salah & etc.

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Al-Wājib (Arabic:الوااجب) is an Islamic jurisprudential term referring to an act that must be performed and if abandoned, it will lead to Divine wrath and punishment. There are several categorizations for Wajib. The most important obligatory acts in Islam are known as Furu' al-Din, the most famous of which are ten.

 

Terminology

Literally, Wājib means essential or necessary. Technically, it is an act that must be performed, and abandoning it is a sin and causes Divine punishment.[1]

 

https://en.wikishia.net/view/Al-Wajib_(fiqh)

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