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my saddness never ends. Ive been sad all my life. I am 16. I try everything, i pray, read duas but im just sad cause i feel im doomed the rest of my life. i fear that i will be lonely the rest of my life. it doesnt make sense how im the only one in the family thats suffering quietly. i just wish i died a long time ago. i used to wish for death but now i dont because i love to worship god and doing good deed and when im older i plan to feed the poor and spending most of my money on them but im just still sad. im an inteovert i find it hard to become friends with new people. i only have 1 friend that im close with.im fine with that but my parents are not. they dont like it how i dont socialise with people and are always mad at me for that. idk what to do i just hate this world i hate myself. and i wont lose hope cause i know that is a sin but idk why im writing this cause i guess , i teally dont know actually i just want my sadness to end. i guess im just unclear. i just want a cure

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Pray. Exercise outdoors regularly. As long as you have family and one or two good friends, you don't need to be a social butterfly. Sadness is ok sometimes.

But please also talk about this with your doctor. If you have a medical condition making you feel bad, maybe it can be treated and you will feel better. 

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Hey,

I get how you feel, trust me. I agree with praying but you already do that. I find it very therapeutic just listening to recitatoons of the quran when im very sad, i feel like it puts everything in perspective, like the sadness wont last forever, no matter how bad it seem at that specific moment in time. 

I've been able to cope better by talking to people online (obviously remaining anonymous for your own safety). There are many counselling sites and charities and organisations that offer free anonymous online counselling. It helps when you talk about your issues, and when you delve into them you can find the root of all these feelings and so you may be able to find a solution. I'll list some sites below of ones that may be available to you, i strongly recommended you give online counselling a shot though.

Try out : beyond blue, headspace, samaritans. Im sorry i couldnt find much more for Australia. 

Also, just remember theres no one cure. The causes behind your sadness are very complex and you probably wont even be able to pin it down to one factor, so the cure and the way you counteract it all will also be complex and there will be many factors that will attribute to it.

Stay strong :) im here if you need anyone to talk to.

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@roses if you think you could be suffering from clinical depression you need to see a doctor. 

Other than that I would say sometimes the solution lies not in fighting off something but accepting it. Alhumdollilah this sadness is not taking you away from Allah. This world was never meant to be a happy place for believers. 

Salat ul layl cures sadness.

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What do you think needs to change in order for you to be happy?

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On 4/1/2018 at 6:29 AM, roses said:

my saddness never ends. Ive been sad all my life. I am 16. I try everything, i pray, read duas but im just sad cause i feel im doomed the rest of my life. i fear that i will be lonely the rest of my life. it doesnt make sense how im the only one in the family thats suffering quietly. i just wish i died a long time ago. i used to wish for death but now i dont because i love to worship god and doing good deed and when im older i plan to feed the poor and spending most of my money on them but im just still sad. im an inteovert i find it hard to become friends with new people. i only have 1 friend that im close with.im fine with that but my parents are not. they dont like it how i dont socialise with people and are always mad at me for that. idk what to do i just hate this world i hate myself. and i wont lose hope cause i know that is a sin but idk why im writing this cause i guess , i teally dont know actually i just want my sadness to end. i guess im just unclear. i just want a cure

Salam. Welcome to ShiaChat. :sign_welcome:

For all of our problems there is not one cure, but we can learn to manage our difficulties by talking to someone (family, friends, teacher, medical doctor, etc.). If you don't feel comfortable to talk to others, we are here for you.

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On 01/04/2018 at 6:29 PM, roses said:

my saddness never ends. Ive been sad all my life. I am 16. I try everything, i pray, read duas but im just sad cause i feel im doomed the rest of my life. i fear that i will be lonely the rest of my life. it doesnt make sense how im the only one in the family thats suffering quietly. i just wish i died a long time ago. i used to wish for death but now i dont because i love to worship god and doing good deed and when im older i plan to feed the poor and spending most of my money on them but im just still sad. im an inteovert i find it hard to become friends with new people. i only have 1 friend that im close with.im fine with that but my parents are not. they dont like it how i dont socialise with people and are always mad at me for that. idk what to do i just hate this world i hate myself. and i wont lose hope cause i know that is a sin but idk why im writing this cause i guess , i teally dont know actually i just want my sadness to end. i guess im just unclear. i just want a cure

Salam...

Make your own self understand to why you are born into this world and the purpose of it.

There must be good reasons that Allah swt bring you to life.  At least you can thank Allah swt, praise Him سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى or ask Him to hasten the return of Imam Zaman (AS) everytime you wake up in the morning.  You are doing good service to all mukmins if you pray to Allah swt to hasten the return of Imam Zaman (AS)... at least this is one reason why you are born.

Wassalam

Layman

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On 4/1/2018 at 6:29 AM, roses said:

my saddness never ends. Ive been sad all my life. I am 16. I try everything, i pray, read duas but im just sad cause i feel im doomed the rest of my life. i fear that i will be lonely the rest of my life. it doesnt make sense how im the only one in the family thats suffering quietly. i just wish i died a long time ago. 

You are young and this ^ is a normal feeling.

On 4/1/2018 at 6:29 AM, roses said:

i used to wish for death but now i dont because i love to worship god and doing good deed and when im older i plan to feed the poor and spending most of my money on them

You are planning to do ^ good things. Nice!

On 4/1/2018 at 6:29 AM, roses said:

but im just still sad. im an inteovert i find it hard to become friends with new people. i only have 1 friend that im close with.im fine with that but my parents are not. they dont like it how i dont socialise with people and are always mad at me for that. idk what to do i just hate this world i hate myself. and i wont lose hope cause i know that is a sin but idk why im writing this cause i guess , i teally dont know actually i just want my sadness to end. i guess im just unclear. i just want a cure

Don't let these kind of thoughts ^ ruin your daily life. Think about your plan to do good, because your education and future life is what you can focus on now. After your graduation, will you train for a job or go to college? 

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I never looked at it like this " Sadness never ends". In my problems and my life issues, I always thought that I have to learn something new out of this problem to pass this stage of life. It's not sadness. It happens to all people. Don't take life problems serious, otherwise they eat you (I know it's very hard to implement this). Just work hard and do dua.

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Hey @roses. Gosh you're too young to be depressed. You need to have good time. Do you have any recreational activities to freshen up your mood? Allah wants you to have 1/4 of your time spent in recreational activities (may be like playing, chit chatting, cooking, hanging out with your friends in a decent manner, etc)..

Enjoy your life. God made us to help us Enjoy.

Enjoy by making true believers as your friends, Enjoy by helping your parents, Enjoy by visiting sick people, Enjoy by reciting prayers. Engage more and more in social activities.

Start reading books (anything good).

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On 4/1/2018 at 6:29 AM, roses said:

my saddness never ends. Ive been sad all my life. I am 16. I try everything, i pray, read duas but im just sad cause i feel im doomed the rest of my life. i fear that i will be lonely the rest of my life. it doesnt make sense how im the only one in the family thats suffering quietly. i just wish i died a long time ago. i used to wish for death but now i dont because i love to worship god and doing good deed and when im older i plan to feed the poor and spending most of my money on them but im just still sad. im an inteovert i find it hard to become friends with new people. i only have 1 friend that im close with.im fine with that but my parents are not. they dont like it how i dont socialise with people and are always mad at me for that. idk what to do i just hate this world i hate myself. and i wont lose hope cause i know that is a sin but idk why im writing this cause i guess , i teally dont know actually i just want my sadness to end. i guess im just unclear. i just want a cure

How are you doing, Sister? You wrote that your favorite subject is art. Do you actually create art every day? Have you heard of art therapy? ShiaChat has a club called Arts, Crafts, DIY Club

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On 4/1/2018 at 11:29 AM, roses said:

my saddness never ends. Ive been sad all my life. I am 16. I try everything, i pray, read duas but im just sad cause i feel im doomed the rest of my life. i fear that i will be lonely the rest of my life. it doesnt make sense how im the only one in the family thats suffering quietly. i just wish i died a long time ago. i used to wish for death but now i dont because i love to worship god and doing good deed and when im older i plan to feed the poor and spending most of my money on them but im just still sad. im an inteovert i find it hard to become friends with new people. i only have 1 friend that im close with.im fine with that but my parents are not. they dont like it how i dont socialise with people and are always mad at me for that. idk what to do i just hate this world i hate myself. and i wont lose hope cause i know that is a sin but idk why im writing this cause i guess , i teally dont know actually i just want my sadness to end. i guess im just unclear. i just want a cure

If you show some of your art work, I will definitely love it. I have serious love with art.

Please donot be so lonely or may be you feel so much of things that make you lonely.

Donot forget art work

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Go to a Theraphist he/she will be very helpful to overcome your sadness. 

I am similar to you, Don't have any friends, some people don't really like socialising you need to explain this to your parent. 

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