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my saddness never ends. Ive been sad all my life. I am 16. I try everything, i pray, read duas but im just sad cause i feel im doomed the rest of my life. i fear that i will be lonely the rest of my life. it doesnt make sense how im the only one in the family thats suffering quietly. i just wish i died a long time ago. i used to wish for death but now i dont because i love to worship god and doing good deed and when im older i plan to feed the poor and spending most of my money on them but im just still sad. im an inteovert i find it hard to become friends with new people. i only have 1 friend that im close with.im fine with that but my parents are not. they dont like it how i dont socialise with people and are always mad at me for that. idk what to do i just hate this world i hate myself. and i wont lose hope cause i know that is a sin but idk why im writing this cause i guess , i teally dont know actually i just want my sadness to end. i guess im just unclear. i just want a cure

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Hey,

I get how you feel, trust me. I agree with praying but you already do that. I find it very therapeutic just listening to recitatoons of the quran when im very sad, i feel like it puts everything in perspective, like the sadness wont last forever, no matter how bad it seem at that specific moment in time. 

I've been able to cope better by talking to people online (obviously remaining anonymous for your own safety). There are many counselling sites and charities and organisations that offer free anonymous online counselling. It helps when you talk about your issues, and when you delve into them you can find the root of all these feelings and so you may be able to find a solution. I'll list some sites below of ones that may be available to you, i strongly recommended you give online counselling a shot though.

Try out : beyond blue, headspace, samaritans. Im sorry i couldnt find much more for Australia. 

Also, just remember theres no one cure. The causes behind your sadness are very complex and you probably wont even be able to pin it down to one factor, so the cure and the way you counteract it all will also be complex and there will be many factors that will attribute to it.

Stay strong :) im here if you need anyone to talk to.

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@roses if you think you could be suffering from clinical depression you need to see a doctor. 

Other than that I would say sometimes the solution lies not in fighting off something but accepting it. Alhumdollilah this sadness is not taking you away from Allah. This world was never meant to be a happy place for believers. 

Salat ul layl cures sadness.

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On 01/04/2018 at 6:29 PM, roses said:

my saddness never ends. Ive been sad all my life. I am 16. I try everything, i pray, read duas but im just sad cause i feel im doomed the rest of my life. i fear that i will be lonely the rest of my life. it doesnt make sense how im the only one in the family thats suffering quietly. i just wish i died a long time ago. i used to wish for death but now i dont because i love to worship god and doing good deed and when im older i plan to feed the poor and spending most of my money on them but im just still sad. im an inteovert i find it hard to become friends with new people. i only have 1 friend that im close with.im fine with that but my parents are not. they dont like it how i dont socialise with people and are always mad at me for that. idk what to do i just hate this world i hate myself. and i wont lose hope cause i know that is a sin but idk why im writing this cause i guess , i teally dont know actually i just want my sadness to end. i guess im just unclear. i just want a cure

Salam...

Make your own self understand to why you are born into this world and the purpose of it.

There must be good reasons that Allah swt bring you to life.  At least you can thank Allah swt, praise Him سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى or ask Him to hasten the return of Imam Zaman (AS) everytime you wake up in the morning.  You are doing good service to all mukmins if you pray to Allah swt to hasten the return of Imam Zaman (AS)... at least this is one reason why you are born.

Wassalam

Layman

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On 4/1/2018 at 6:29 AM, roses said:

my saddness never ends. Ive been sad all my life. I am 16. I try everything, i pray, read duas but im just sad cause i feel im doomed the rest of my life. i fear that i will be lonely the rest of my life. it doesnt make sense how im the only one in the family thats suffering quietly. i just wish i died a long time ago. 

You are young and this ^ is a normal feeling.

On 4/1/2018 at 6:29 AM, roses said:

i used to wish for death but now i dont because i love to worship god and doing good deed and when im older i plan to feed the poor and spending most of my money on them

You are planning to do ^ good things. Nice!

On 4/1/2018 at 6:29 AM, roses said:

but im just still sad. im an inteovert i find it hard to become friends with new people. i only have 1 friend that im close with.im fine with that but my parents are not. they dont like it how i dont socialise with people and are always mad at me for that. idk what to do i just hate this world i hate myself. and i wont lose hope cause i know that is a sin but idk why im writing this cause i guess , i teally dont know actually i just want my sadness to end. i guess im just unclear. i just want a cure

Don't let these kind of thoughts ^ ruin your daily life. Think about your plan to do good, because your education and future life is what you can focus on now. After your graduation, will you train for a job or go to college? 

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I never looked at it like this " Sadness never ends". In my problems and my life issues, I always thought that I have to learn something new out of this problem to pass this stage of life. It's not sadness. It happens to all people. Don't take life problems serious, otherwise they eat you (I know it's very hard to implement this). Just work hard and do dua.

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Hey @roses. Gosh you're too young to be depressed. You need to have good time. Do you have any recreational activities to freshen up your mood? Allah wants you to have 1/4 of your time spent in recreational activities (may be like playing, chit chatting, cooking, hanging out with your friends in a decent manner, etc)..

Enjoy your life. God made us to help us Enjoy.

Enjoy by making true believers as your friends, Enjoy by helping your parents, Enjoy by visiting sick people, Enjoy by reciting prayers. Engage more and more in social activities.

Start reading books (anything good).

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On 4/1/2018 at 11:29 AM, roses said:

my saddness never ends. Ive been sad all my life. I am 16. I try everything, i pray, read duas but im just sad cause i feel im doomed the rest of my life. i fear that i will be lonely the rest of my life. it doesnt make sense how im the only one in the family thats suffering quietly. i just wish i died a long time ago. i used to wish for death but now i dont because i love to worship god and doing good deed and when im older i plan to feed the poor and spending most of my money on them but im just still sad. im an inteovert i find it hard to become friends with new people. i only have 1 friend that im close with.im fine with that but my parents are not. they dont like it how i dont socialise with people and are always mad at me for that. idk what to do i just hate this world i hate myself. and i wont lose hope cause i know that is a sin but idk why im writing this cause i guess , i teally dont know actually i just want my sadness to end. i guess im just unclear. i just want a cure

If you show some of your art work, I will definitely love it. I have serious love with art.

Please donot be so lonely or may be you feel so much of things that make you lonely.

Donot forget art work

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Go to a Theraphist he/she will be very helpful to overcome your sadness. 

I am similar to you, Don't have any friends, some people don't really like socialising you need to explain this to your parent. 

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Start with Alhamduillah. I keep a notebook especially for Alhamduillah/ Gratitude.  For starters thank Allah SWT you have the eyes to see and the hands  to type. Thank Allah for having a family, Thank Allah for electricity. Thank Allah that you are not in a war zone country. Thank Allah SWT that  He has given you the ability to remember Him- for many people forget. Thank Allah SWT for your youth and appreciate it.  If you have ever visited an institute for the elderly you  will find that most of the elderly people wish to have our youth again. Keep making a list of things you are grateful for. You can start  writing up to 5 things that you are grateful for every day in a journal or electronic post on a forum. Keeping this up will make you feel better.  And might I ask why you hate yourself?

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Salam,

Like others have said. What is the root of your sadness? If after trying to evaluate the root of your sadness you become unsuccessful, I recommend seeing your local GP/Family physician and he/she will refer you to someone who will ask you the right questions and will take care of you.

Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى help you.

Jazakallah.

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Salaamu 'alaykum

Rejoice, and look forward to meeing ahlul Jannah!

I don't find being lonely all that bad (I am an introvert as well), and to be honest usually it protects you from disasters. We all know what can happen if you have too many friends and people you put your trust in.

This is an interesting hadith on the topic

Imam Ja`far as-Sadiq ('alayhi as-salaam) said,

"If you are capable of being unknown, then do it. It does not matter if the people do not deter you, and it does not matter if the people dislike you if you are praiseworthy with Allah."

- علي بن إبراهيم، عن أبيه، عن القاسم بن محمد [ وعلي بن محمد، عن القاسم بن محمد ] عن سليمان بن داود المنقري، عن حفص بن غياث، عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) قال: قال: إن قدرتم أن لا تعرفوا فافعلوا وما عليك أن لم يثن الناس عليك وما عليك أن تكون مذموما عند الناس إذا كنت محمودا عند الله تبارك وتعالى 

(al-Kafi, Volume 8, page 128)

The cure, sister, is looking forward to the afterlife, as this world is only temporary and not our final abode!

Quran -

And this worldly life is not but diversion and amusement. And indeed, the home of the Hereafter - that is the [eternal] life, if only they knew. [29:64]

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Salat al layl will fill the void in your heart for sure, by the way.

Those individuals who get up in the midst of the night when everyone else is sleeping, and stand in complete humility and worship their Lord, Allah is so pleased with them that their reward is unimaginable, and it (the reward) is not even mentioned in the Qur'an for this reason.

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5 hours ago, Husayni said:

Salaamu 'alaykum

Rejoice, and look forward to meeing ahlul Jannah!

I don't find being lonely all that bad (I am an introvert as well), and to be honest usually it protects you from disasters. We all know what can happen if you have too many friends and people you put your trust in.

This is an interesting hadith on the topic

Imam Ja`far as-Sadiq ('alayhi as-salaam) said,

"If you are capable of being unknown, then do it. It does not matter if the people do not deter you, and it does not matter if the people dislike you if you are praiseworthy with Allah."

- علي بن إبراهيم، عن أبيه، عن القاسم بن محمد [ وعلي بن محمد، عن القاسم بن محمد ] عن سليمان بن داود المنقري، عن حفص بن غياث، عن أبي عبد الله (عليه السلام) قال: قال: إن قدرتم أن لا تعرفوا فافعلوا وما عليك أن لم يثن الناس عليك وما عليك أن تكون مذموما عند الناس إذا كنت محمودا عند الله تبارك وتعالى 

(al-Kafi, Volume 8, page 128)

 

The cure, sister, is looking forward to the afterlife, as this world is only temporary and not our final abode!

Quran -

And this worldly life is not but diversion and amusement. And indeed, the home of the Hereafter - that is the [eternal] life, if only they knew. [29:64]

 

Very good suggestion 

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You know at this age parents start putting some load on youngsters and uni or college education burden and men and women start getting harmonal changes which they cannot share with parents.... 

Teens having crush etc...

Some taunt8ng relarelatives and many more...

But i tell you keep yourself busy in some motivational thing for future and you will see the difference.

Try to be put spoken for oppressed ones. This will cool your frustrations.

Get on to some leisure trip.

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