Dead marriage

[Frogman]

Slm.  My cousin ws forced in2 a arranged marriage. Her parents sed u marry the guy or we will disown u. My cousins told her parents that she didn't wnt 2 n wudnt marry him. Parents didn't listen 2 her n arranged marriage. She has 3 children. Her husband n her cnt stand each other. They've not shared a bedroom for 5 years. Was their marriage legit? Is their marriage still valid? My mum sed their marriage in islam is over and her husbans is harAM to her. Her husband won't divorce or leave her due to family pressure. My cousin won't leave him coz shes got nowhere 2 go with 2 kids. Views plz? 

[Abu Nur]

In Islam you can't force to marriage,  it becomes void. This is why the culture is toxic that leads to sinning. 

If she still resist and does not accept it then even the intercourse have been zina. 

[Frogman]

 

Cheers. What bout d children? Shud she treat husband like non Mahram. R u 100% sure bout this. Man didnt know it was forced. 

[Abu Nur]

It is best to ask directly to the marja or any very knowledgeable on this issue. 

[Ashvazdanghe]

Sharia rull of Forced marriage
Question 57 My parentsforced me marry a boy; while I have no satisfaction with it, how is our marriage duty?

All Maraji: the consent of the woman and the man to the marriage is a condition and without which the marriage is not correct.

Question 58. If the girl allows the marriage to be willingly, but satisfies it inwardly, is the marriage proper?
All Maraji: Yes, the marriage is right. [2]

• 88]. توضيح المسائل مراجع، م 2370؛ نورى، توضيح المسائل، م 2366؛ وحيد، توضيح المسائل، م 2379 ؛ سيستانى، منهاج الصالحين، ج 2 م 41 و خامنه اى، اجوبه الاستفتائات س 70.
• [89]. توضيح المسائل مراجع، م 2370؛ وحيد، توضيح المسائل، م 2434؛ نورى، توضيح المسائل، م 2366؛ سيستانى، منهاج الصالحين، ج 2، م 41 و خامنه اى، استفتاء، س 70. (احكام ازدواج،پرسمان).

http://hadana.ir/حکم-شرعی-ازدواج-اجباری/

[Qa'im]

Did the girl herself say “no” to the marriage or was she silent?

[Frogman]

She told her family no. They sed they wud disown her. She sed yes 4 nikahnama coz had no choice. She still doesn4 like him. 

[Hidaren]

On 3/9/2018 at 3:17 PM, Frogman said:

Slm.  My cousin ws forced in2 a arranged marriage. Her parents sed u marry the guy or we will disown u. My cousins told her parents that she didn't wnt 2 n wudnt marry him. Parents didn't listen 2 her n arranged marriage. She has 3 children. Her husband n her cnt stand each other. They've not shared a bedroom for 5 years. Was their marriage legit? Is their marriage still valid? My mum sed their marriage in islam is over and her husbans is harAM to her. Her husband won't divorce or leave her due to family pressure. My cousin won't leave him coz shes got nowhere 2 go with 2 kids. Views plz? 

A marriage which is forced to either the woman or man or even both is invalid from the very beginning.

I womder why people ignore their sons and daughters wishes in marriage, and make them marry someone they dislike.

[lola20]

My friend was in a similar situation and it happened here in the U.S. Her brothers married her to a 25 year old when she was 15, they had the Sheikh come over and they sat her down and she repeated the lines not knowing what they meant. After it happened, she told me she remembered thinking, "what the hell just happened?" He ended up being so physically abusive to her that their 10 year old son called the cops on him. 

She divorced him but she had to beg her brothers to let her do it. He's hiding in Iraq now. 

Anyway, my friend I guess was fortunate to get out of that situation. All you can do is support your cousin, but if there's any abuse you need to call the authorities.