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What are your opinions on gender segregation ?

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I hate it. People are meant to work together, not separated. It just causes more cases of acting out their frustrations with the same sex and idealizing the opposite gender/being awkward around them.

EDIT: for the first three years of high school, I was in a segregated school, so I know what I’m talking about.

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There are advantages and disadvantages to gender segregated schools, but I'm only speaking from what I've read, not personal experience. Girls tend to speak up more and exhibit more curiosity in science and math classes in all girl schools. However, people in gender segregated schools don't learn how to properly act around the other gender and can be at best awkward, at worst crude and inappropriate. (It's probably more of an issue for boys in all boys schools, and can be compensated by parental example and out of school interactions.) It seems to me that single gender schools are typically overall better for girls, and overall worse for boys. 

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4 hours ago, Islandsandmirrors said:

I hate it. People are meant to work together, not separated. It just causes more cases of acting out their frustrations with the same sex and idealizing the opposite gender/being awkward around them.

EDIT: for the first three years of high school, I was in a segregated school, so I know what I’m talking about.

Salaam, just wanted to give my input

I went to a typical non-gender segregated American public high school and the exact same things happened that you described. I am also aquintances with a guy who attended a segregated middle school and then a non segregated high school. And even according to him he was more productive in middle school vs high school. Possibly even more worse things occurred. Notme did a good job of explaining the plusses and minuses of gender segregation in school. And ironically tons of studies have come out that show that there is more productivity in gender segregated schools than non gender segregated schools. I have witnessed this first hand by attending both types of schools and my friends did as well.

Also for me I used to hang out with my female cousins (with a mehram present) and Also my sister. So I was not awkward around females and neither were most desi guys I knew,  muslim or not. So for desi's on average they will get exposed to females outside of school anyhow. 

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It is the best option. Even if it means having one less sin under your name, that means something in Islam.

@notme they are much better for boys. Trust me I know from personal experience. If you were to be present in some of the conversations that boys have in the playground about girls you might faint lol

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I can give my opinion on men, as I'm not sure about women.

I might have a pretty biased view due to personal experience, but some guys can get pretty desperate if they are segregated. 

Also how does co-ed lead to sin? Most guys who were my friend in high school turned to pornography to sin, rather than girls. We might as well provide them with home schooling in that case.

Trust me, we need to teach guys to respect women in this day and age. Alienating women is not the best option. 

To be fair, there is a disadvantage of co-ed. If parents don't monitor their children, then there is a risk of them getting into the boyfriend/girlfriend culture.

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26 minutes ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

Also how does co-ed lead to sin? Most guys who were my friend in high school turned to pornography to sin, rather than girls. We might as well provide them with home schooling in that case.

It absolutely leads to sin unless you are a fantastic mu'min. And yes, although they might not turn to haram in terms of having relationships with girls, but you can't tell me you didn't see these guys talk about some girls in lustful ways or look at them in such a way.

Furthermore, and something we seem to forget, is that in these gender mixed schools there is gender mixing in everything. In sport, as an example.

Boys turn to watching filthy films whether they are in segregated or gender mixed schools.

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