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2 hours ago, memo110 said:

Salam All,

I would like to share my story about my brother who recently announce that he is Gay. Is there any chance for my teenager brother to leave homosexual attribute. what am I required to do?

Appreciate your comments.

Ya Ali

Make dua.

Get him to doctors. psychiatrists, psychologists, and any other type which will help.

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Keep him close, don't make him feel like he doesn't belong. 

As long as he doesn't act upon his desires he hasn't committed any sins. Being gay isn't haram, fornication is. 

Support him, this is a struggle, help him understand that. 

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38 minutes ago, Langar said:

Keep him close, don't make him feel like he doesn't belong. 

As long as he doesn't act upon his desires he hasn't committed any sins. Being gay isn't haram, fornication is. 

Support him, this is a struggle, help him understand that. 

What is it like being gay and acting gay ? Having wrong thoughts like a gay is not haram :confused:

I think wrong thoughts are also sin that is why we have prayers like Surah Nas and Surah Falaq. 

12 hours ago, memo110 said:

Salam All,

I would like to share my story about my brother who recently announce that he is Gay. Is there any chance for my teenager brother to leave homosexual attribute. what am I required to do?

Appreciate your comments.

Ya Ali

I would advice you to ask him what are the reasons that he thinks that being gay is ok ?

Tell him that being gay is not ok and is an spiritual pollution and like Global Warming is a great harm for the extinction of humanity so is being gay and beign Lesbian. Tell him that it's a sin against nature so do not follow it, otherwise, you are a criminal as well. 

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42 minutes ago, Langar said:

Keep him close, don't make him feel like he doesn't belong. 

As long as he doesn't act upon his desires he hasn't committed any sins. Being gay isn't haram, fornication is. 

Support him, this is a struggle, help him understand that. 

Langar you just evaporated your impression which I formed for you yesterday, Lolz, I thought you are against Crime but look at this how come you ask someone that it is Ok to think how to kill lolz, he is killing his spirit and you are saying it's ok. Seems like saying a person, it is not crime to think how to kill your child, but killing is a crime lolz....:hahaha:

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Coming out to family is brave, actually. Means he trust you enough to share something as personal as his orientation.

Now, a second phase starts, where words shall be carefully chosen to avoid loss of trust. What can family do? Start by listening to him, because being gay and muslim is hard to reconcile. Look at it as if you had two limbs that are fighting each other. You can't cut one limb to solve the problem, because that's not a solution. However, by creating a tolerant and supportive environment, you are giving your brother time and calmness, which are necessary to think and carefully consider the impacts of acting against his religion.

Personally, I don't think you can lose that homosexual attribute you mention. But again, for me that is just an inner orientation that doesn't have to translate into effeminacy, sexual addiction, nor any type of fetish or deviance as clichés tend to show. He can live a happy life and eventually marry. But it is him who has to choose to live by Islamic principles and face a life of chastity and/or lack of sexual pleasure. That won't do well through imposing it on him. Doctors, psychiatrists, forced marriages... These are all ways to avoid looking at the real issue, out of fear or ignorance.

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45 minutes ago, Sindbad05 said:

I think wrong thoughts are also sin that is why we have prayers like Surah Nas and Surah Falaq.

Allah doesn't count wrong thinking. You won't get punished for thinking bad. There is no sin recorded for having a bad thought. 

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37 minutes ago, Ron_Burgundy said:

Allah doesn't count wrong thinking. You won't get punished for thinking bad. There is no sin recorded for having a bad thought. 

Prophet PBUHHP said that near the time of Imam e Zamana a.s the blow of words will be more severe than Sword and words and kill many people than a sword so beware of that. @Langar saying that being gay is ok is blow to the souls to many and is helping cause of evil. I do not think that it is ok. 

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Being gay is not haram or evil. Acting on those gay impulses is. 

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2 minutes ago, Sindbad05 said:

Prophet PBUHHP said that near the time of Imam e Zamana a.s the blow of words will be more severe than words and kill many people than a sword so beware of that. @Langar saying that being gay is ok is blow to the souls to many and is helping cause of evil. I do not think that it is ok. 

so what do you think how would you treat a gay person? God forbid, what if your brother comes to you and says that he is gay what would you do?

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1 minute ago, Ron_Burgundy said:

so what do you think how would you treat a gay person? God forbid, what if your brother comes to you and says that he is gay what would you do?

I will say to him that it is a mental disease and there is no truth in that. And will talk to him daily and encourage him to treat rather than saying it is ok to be a gay. Tell him that there are people who are playing with minds that it is ok but nature does not confirms that sin and it is as harmful as an act of terrorism. 

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21 hours ago, Najamsethi484 said:

i want to lash gays with stones

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21 hours ago, Ron_Burgundy said:

What are you ISIS?

He is not ISIS, Even if he would have tested me with such comment, I would agree to that because it is like drugs and many countries has punishment of death on drugs and no one complains about it and if there be a crime which becomes a cancer, that cancer has to be cut from the body and burnt. Gays and Lesbians and adultery are such crimes that are to be controlled. 

Edited by Hameedeh
Inappropriate language removed.

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