Movie: The Big Sick

[coldcow]

Has anyone heard of or seen this movie?  I'd link a youtube of the trailer, but I don't know if the mods would allow it since it has some non-Islamic content in it.

Anyways, the movie is semi-true story about a Pakistani "Muslim" who is going through the arranged marriage process while simultaneously having relations with an American woman, and how he supposedly struggles with both his family and hers.

I'm curious as to how the movie portrays the idea of arranged marriage, in a poor light or a good light.  Additionally, does it normalize the idea that it's ok for Muslim youth to "have fun" on the side while also going through the arranged marriage process?

[thuglife]

I saw it.

It portrays arranged marriages as families getting the potential couple to meet and if they like each other, it progresses. I'm pretty sure the family is Sunni.

The guy in the story was trying to find himself and his views on God, religion. And find employment. The constant meeting of potential wives was just too much for him when he's just trying to figure out things. He could have met a really perfect woman for him, but because it was the arranged marriage, he didn't really want to.

At one point, he asks his parents why they came to America if they don't want him to absorb the culture or become "American."

 It's not too different than what rich southerners do. If I recall correctly, athlete Peyton Manning and his wife were set up by their parents. It is what it is.

Idk what you mean by "have fun."

If my parents had good judgement and if my mom was not so gossipy/conniving/constant liar /feud instigator, I just might go the path of arranged marriage. I think most people who have parents trying to find them a spouse feel this way. Apparently, that's a common theme for mothers in immigrant families. There's no way I'm gonna give her that type of influence over me. I might do arranged marriage, but it won't be my folks choosing for me.

Tbh I don't like the alternative either. It's hard finding a legit female this way. At least the arranged marriages are a nice option for those who would otherwise not find a spouse.

I'm thinking of those women who hold weddings for marrying themselves. Not enough quality guys in a country of over 300 million, I guess.

I feel like women in arranged marriages would be more loyal and actually put forth effort in seeing their spouse happy.

I would love to find a legit sister on my own through the course of daily life. It's just that once someone honestly thinks that God, the Most High exists, and that the message is legit, there is logic behind "love." So, I really could not "fall in love" with a female doesn't feel the same way. At some point, as I'm trying to live like how one of the 14 masoom AS woulld live, it would be clear that the woman I "love" does not see the world the same. For example, I had a temporary marriage where I asked her "will there ever be a time that you do something nice for me? Just once?" And she could not say yes. I rage quit the marriage after that. Granted, that's a bit of an extreme example of a head case. But at some point, it's clear that the one one is "in love" with is just not approaching life the same way. Life is hard.

The best "love" is with God the Most High. If you love the person because of they see God in everything, hold that person tight. Blind love (like what's in movies)  vs logical love. One is way better.

 

[Sindbad05]

1 hour ago, thuglife said:

Idk what you mean by "have fun."

In Pakistani language, it means sin