Want 4 Wives but Not Handle 5 Prayers

[Maria Waleed]

You want four wives when you cannot even handle five prayers concentrate on yourself then think about Sunnah

Marriage is beautiful relation to make. It is a fulltime job. Where you have to do a lot of compromise, sacrifice, respects, patience, bonding, understanding, friendship and most of all trust and faith. When we see a person, we may attract to her/him through his/her smile, looks, appearance, talks, status. It could be anything. Some go for friendship, some go for serious terms and some go for marriages as quote says, “A successful marriage built daily. Your children are watching your marriage. Be mindful to set a good example. To model them in their future marriage.”

Muslims from London, UK can perform umrah with his wife. When we talk about marriages and relations.  All country and its religion have its own perspective regarding to culture and inheritance. When we talk about western modern European. They have very simple theme about marriages. If you are not settling, down then just move on. There is no limitations in their religion about concern and relations. However, in Islam, you would find sincerity, loyalty and ever-bounding feeling. . God says about marriages,” "They (your wives) are a clothing (covering) for you and you too are a clothing (covering) for them." (Surah 2, Verse 187). In Islam you still have right to get married again with the permission of your wife or another reason, if you want a child. You are allowed to get married again with the clause that if you can do justice between them as Allah says,” "Marry of the women, who seem good to you, two or three or four; and if ye fear that ye cannot do justice (to so many) then one (only) or (the captives) that your right hands possess." This verse plainly allows a man to have up to four wives (Allah conveniently granted Muhammad an exception... on authority of Muhammad, of course). According to the Hadith, the "justice" spoken of merely refers to the dowry provided the bride, not the treatment accorded following the wedding”. Sunnah allows you to get married four times. More than four times is not permissible.

As well as Allah says about prayers. They are obligatory to you. If you are keen or eager to get married repeatedly, firstly concentrate on your fard. Then think about Sunnah. As Quran says about marriages, “And of His signs is that He has created spouses for yourselves from your own selves so you might take comfort in them and He has created love and mercy among both of you. In this there is evidence (of the truth) for the people who (carefully) think." (Surah 30, Verse 21).feel yourself obliged and fortune to have lawful Muslim wife. Go at Allah’s home and make dua to live together in this or next world.

[Haji 2003]

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Edited May 15, 2017 by Haji 2003

[Panzerwaffe]

I think one wife  is plenty but back in old days sahaba and imams also had concubines and slave girls in modern times that is not possible so there is a case for polygamy/or mutah to be more prevalent

What do the other members think ?

[baqar]

On 2017-5-15 at 11:18 PM, Maria Waleed said:

You want four wives when you cannot even handle five prayers 

Marrying a number of wives may be the available option but it is only permitted if one can be equally just to all of them, which for the ordinary human being, is clearly impossible.

Even if someone can treat all his wives equally, unless there is a higher ideal, it cannot possibly be a point scorer in the eyes of God.   

In effect, it is not a very realistic option. So criticisms are not particularly meaningful.

[baqar]

On 2017-5-15 at 11:18 PM, Maria Waleed said:

 According to the Hadith, the "justice" spoken of merely refers to the dowry provided the bride, not the treatment accorded following the wedding”.

Justice means justice, in the eyes of God.

Read the Quran and you will find out what divine justice is and what He expects from us.    

Don't believe every hadeeth you come across.

There are lots of hadeethes that are not reliable.

 

[notme]

Any man who wants multiple wives to satisfy his own whims should only have one or none. Polygamy is supposed to be to help widows, divorcees, or otherwise unattached women in need of protection and support. If marriage and children are a trial as the Quran says, raising multiple families is a double (or triple or quadruple) trial and not for the weak. Done wrong it destroys many lives, and that man is going to be held accountable. 

[AnotherShepherd]

5 hours ago, notme said:

Any man who wants multiple wives to satisfy his own whims should only have one or none. Polygamy is supposed to be to help widows, divorcees, or otherwise unattached women in need of protection and support. If marriage and children are a trial as the Quran says, raising multiple families is a double (or triple or quadruple) trial and not for the weak. Done wrong it destroys many lives, and that man is going to be held accountable. 

Are you sure you're of a correct position that a man shouldn't marry multiple wives for his (urges)  whims? Is this a legal or a personal position? 

Edited May 17, 2017 by AnotherShepherd

[notme]

5 hours ago, AnotherShepherd said:

Are you sure you're of a correct position that a man shouldn't marry multiple wives for his (urges)  whims? Is this a legal or a personal position? 

Advice. Personal, not jurisprudential.

Mainly because the man who marries multiple wives will be held accountable for all the harm he does. He will be rewarded for all the good he does too, but there is so much potential for harm. Marriage is a test; it's not something to be taken lightly.