Where Has All The "Haya" Gone?

[Laayla]

Original publication: A Passing of Time, blog 

 

Bismehe Ta3ala,

Assalam Alikum.

One of the many reasons why I love living among the Shias in the Dahiya is some sisters hold majalis at their homes and invite neighbors, friends, and family.  Majalis, is a gathering where we listen to a recitor who describes the events that unfolded of the martyrdom of the Ahulbayt.  The third narration of the martyrdom of Sayyida Fatymah is taking place now and this specific majalis are entitled "Fatamiyya."

Great reverence is given to Sayyida Fatymah.  We learn from her how to be the devoted mother, wife and daughter.  She perfected how to worship God.  She also perfected in haya (modesty/shyness) and 3iffa (chastity).

 Western culture promotes individualism with attitudes of "mind your own business" and "to each his own."  Yet, Prophet Mohammad teaches us كلكم راع وكلكم مسئول عن رعيته  “Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock."

Time and time again when hijab is brought up you can see so many camps for or against hijab.  Even those who do observe hijab, it is not followed by what Allah wants but according to their liking or latest fashion accessory.  When Muslim sisters and brothers bring up the topic they are encouraging sisters to complete their hijab.  It is not a matter of self righteousness or hypocrisy to advise the sister.  Of course the person advising should first know the rules of observing hijab and secondly they themselves are wearing it correctly. 

Imam Ali said,"Chastity is the zakaat of beauty and grace." (Ghuraral Hekam)

The labels "haram" or "moral" police are thrown around too.  I can understand why these words would be used for individuals who are belligerent or who make it out to embarrass you, which is not the way we approach anyone about any matter.  Both ways are wrong and incorrect!  Always approach with kindness, warmth, and gentleness and NEVER in front of a crowd.

Finally, I just want to address that we should never look at any sin lightly.  Many of the sins we might fall into we see it disparagingly.   We should always work on improving ourselves in obeying Allah swt.  Don't look at any sin lightly and brush it off as it was nothing.  One of those sins is when sisters beautify themselves in front of non mahrams.  Yes, God loves beauty and beauty is not a sin, but when a sister enhances her looks by makeup, racy clothing, finger nail polish in PUBLIC (key word, in front of strange men) all this is haram and you are sinning.  

In closing, a du3a from our beloved Imam al Mahdi.

O Allah!
· Award dignity and peace of mind to old people,
· Confer repentance and turning away from sin to our young people,
· Bestow modesty and chastity to our women.

وَعَلَىٰ مَشَايِخِنَا بِٱلْوَقَارِ وَٱلسَّكِينَةِ

وَعَلَىٰ ٱلشَّبَابِ بِٱلإِنَابَةِ وَٱلتَّوْبَةِ

وَعَلَىٰ ٱلنِّسَاءِ بِٱلْحَيَاءِ وَٱلْعِفَّةِ

 

 

 

5 Comments

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Sumayyeh  1,696

Posted Wednesday at 12:49 AM

Thank u Sister for sharing that beautiful hadith:

"Chastity is the zakat of beauty and grace."

Imam Ali (a)---so succinct and powerful <3

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Chaotic Muslem  4,683

Posted Wednesday at 7:17 AM

It will be celebrated again once it is found that Haya is a beneficial evolutionary trait -.- 

 

 

 

Syed Zain Shah  14

Posted Wednesday at 4:34 PM

Mashallah, Beautiful. It is very difficult to fight with your own.

 

 

Jaffery15  0

Posted 22 hours ago (edited)

I don't how could a normal person get attracted or turned on to a woman without hijab its just hair . Your still a Muslim regardless.

Edited 21 hours ago by Jaffery15

 

 

Caliguy  4

Posted 21 hours ago

its not just the head scarf, but the entire body should be conceal under loose garment. Otherwise, don't deceive yourself or god. Head scarf is worthless when people can see the shape of your private parts!

[Kazemi]

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Western culture promotes individualism with attitudes of "mind your own business" and "to each his own."  Yet, Prophet Mohammad teaches us كلكم راع وكلكم مسئول عن رعيته  “Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock."

Yet, the people who deny,

Lost their last point,

On this discussion.

[sidnaq]

@Laayla please check out and comment on my post

not this ,i meant my original post