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Islandsandmirrors

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59 minutes ago, Islandsandmirrors said:

I've been receiving much criticism for who I am, and I deal with a lot of rejection by my own community, which frankly, hurts. Hijabi sisters look down on me (and let's not say it doesn't happen because it does.) because I don't wear it and I'm not close with many people. I try to somewhat active in my community, but I still feel lonely.

There was a Hadith that one of the imams said something about people always disappointing you, and I find that to be very true. 

I hate the judgmental attitude that people have toward me because I have cerebral palsy, don't look "pious" enough, etc. My convert friend also has experienced this harsh attitude with other sisters. 

I really want badly to connect with my community offline because I do feel like I belong there, but people don't want to be close to me.

sorry for whining, but it's just one of those days. 

Just another test, keep ur head up, things will get better god willing. Maybe try inviting some of them (or one of them for starters) out to lunch?

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7 hours ago, Islandsandmirrors said:

I've been receiving much criticism for who I am, and I deal with a lot of rejection by my own community, which frankly, hurts. Hijabi sisters look down on me (and let's not say it doesn't happen because it does.) because I don't wear it and I'm not close with many people. I try to somewhat active in my community, but I still feel lonely.

There was a Hadith that one of the imams said something about people always disappointing you, and I find that to be very true. 

I hate the judgmental attitude that people have toward me because I have cerebral palsy, don't look "pious" enough, etc. My convert friend also has experienced this harsh attitude with other sisters. 

I really want badly to connect with my community offline because I do feel like I belong there, but people don't want to be close to me.

sorry for whining, but it's just one of those days. 

Lonely, If you have Ahlul bait around you why you feel lonely ? I used to care about people too and feel that I am lonely without them, but then I found that none of them even closest to me be in my grave so I left the idea feeling lonely due to people. Yesterday there was a person speaking to me on internet that his family is so strict that even they take slightest of things as a thing, and it is disliked by its family that he talk to any girl on phone because it is evil. He said I do feel it to be against Islam but sometimes they make life so strict that he thinks that their parents are treating him like he is a kid and do not know anything. So, he told me that he is gonna talk to girls on phone for friendship to hurt his parents and tell them that if you force me too much I will do it so what now you can do ? I told him that it is a devil's game, though you may please yourself and teach your parents that yes they no longer can stop you but even then God will not be pleased because you are doing a thing which is not permissible in Islam and though talking to girls is not harm for a just cause such as job and education but for girl friend or boy friend kind of talking is haram. 

Do not feel about people, Imam's love you like they love their own children. Though walking of non-hijabi girls' hurts them but even then they are merciful and do not abandon their ummah. Try to improve over time so that you be better before Allah (SWT) and Ahlul bait a.s

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18 hours ago, Islandsandmirrors said:

I really want badly to connect with my community offline because I do feel like I belong there, but people don't want to be close to me.

You will meet more friends. Don't be shy and it will happen. Allah loves you and He is always with you. (Hassan Y already said Allah is with you, but I wanted to say it too.)

Edited by wolverine
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16 hours ago, ErikCartman said:

I once tried to ride a donkey on my way to the work. People thought I was a mean guy, punishing an animal and puttIng my heavy weight body on it. 

So I got off him and ...

then I just took my donkey for a walk .. people said I don't get animals right, you only take your puppy for a walk not donkey. 

Then the other day, instead of riding the poor donkey I thought he was bit tired, so I took him on my shoulders. People laughed and called me a jerk. Look instead of riding the Donkey, Donkey is riding him. 

Then i figured, you can not make people happy no matter what you do. 

Bismehe Ta3ala 

THE Cart MAN

Loooool

Thank you for the 2017 version of Jaha and his son.   You made me happy.

Sister Island,

Fix your intention for Allah swt and not for pleasing people.  Meaning any deed you do even when smiling towards people say it is for the sake of God and God will send you friends who are worthy of your friendship or even sisterhood.

@Martyrdom

 

http://www.worldstories.org.uk/stories/story/9-joha-and-his-donkey

http://www.bartleby.com/17/1/62.html

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah 

Edited by Laayla

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1 minute ago, Laayla said:

Bismehe Ta3ala 

THE Cart MAN

Loooool

Thank you for the 2017 version of Jaha and his son.   You made me happy.

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah 

Thats actually a story of Sayedna Luqman. He was trying to teach his son a lesson.

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http://www.ezsoftech.com/stories/mis6.asp

Once Luqman (as), The Wise said to his son, "Oh son! Do not tie your heart in seeking the pleasure of people. You are not likely to succeed. Do not pay attention to what people say. Instead tell yourself always to seek the pleasure of Allah (SWT)."

Luqman (as), The Wise wanted this lesson to be always remembered and never to be forgotten. He thought of a way. So, he then told his son to ride a donkey and the son obeyed. The father followed behind on foot. They traveled in this way for some distance.

After some distance they came across a group of people. Seeing the son on the donkey, one of them said, "What an impolite and bad boy. The old father is walking on foot. The young son is comfortably riding on the donkey. This is no manner to show respect to one's father."

Father and son heard this. The son came down from the donkey. Luqman (as), The Wise rode on the donkey.

After some distance they came across another group of people. On seeing the father riding the donkey, the elder of the group said, "Oh you old man! This is not the way to bring up a son. You make him walk in the hot sun, while you sit comfortably on the donkey."

Luqman (as), The Wise paid attention to what the people said. He came down from the donkey. Both father and son walked on foot. The donkey walked in front. They went a little further.

Personal Perception: Key to happiness and successPeople seeing them, said, "How foolish you are? You walk behind a donkey. Why don't you ride it?"

Luqman (as), The Wise and his son once again accepted what the people said. They both rode the donkey and went further. They came across a river. There was a bridge to be crossed. Some people were sitting there. They saw Luqman (as), The Wise and his son riding the donkey. One of them said, "It is very unkind and cruel of you two to ride on the poor donkey. The little animal can hardly take all your burden."

So taking this advice Luqman (as), The Wise and his son dismounted from the donkey. They traveled a little distance further. Looking very lovingly Luqman (as), The Wise said to his son, "You have heard and seen what the people said. It must have assured you, by now, that whatever you do or whichever way you move, one is not able to please the people of the world." You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

 

 

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9 hours ago, Laayla said:

Thank you for the 2017 version of Jaha and his son.   You made me happy.

wut!! I just sent them a take down notice through my legal liars, for stealing my factual story and twisting it with made up lies of their own. 

on a side note, sister, you are as ancient as me.

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