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How to Be Happy Being Yourself

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You may think it's impossible to be happy being yourself. Every day, it's easy to wish you looked like or acted like someone else, or had the cushy job or great boyfriend that someone else has. However, until you learn to accept who you are and work to address your flaws, you'll never grow as a person. Once you follow these tips, you'll find that being happy with being yourself isn't as hard as you think.Be confident. Being confident about who you are is the first step to happiness. Recognizing what you love about yourself first will make you much happier to be in your own skin. Start by making a list of all of the things you love about yourself, whether it's your free spirit, your work ethic, or your shiny hair. Here are some ways to improve your confidence:

  • Think of the compliments you get. If people are always telling you you're a great friend, or admiring your ability to find balance in your life, they're probably on to something.
  • Appreciate what makes you unique. How cool--you speak four languages, can walk on your hands, or can instantly make new friends. Not everyone can do that, but you can!
  • Find at least ten things you like about yourself. This should be easy and fun and will make you think about what makes you so great.
  • Minimize your insecurities. Everyone is insecure about something, but if you find yourself insecure about absolutely everything about yourself, you're probably filling yourself with anxiety for no reason. Make a list of all the things that make you insecure and examine which ones are just plain silly.Recognize your flaws. Confidence is the key to happiness, but if you're so confident that you don't recognize where there's room for improvement, you won't be seeing your real self and may be an unpleasant person to be around. Here are some ways to be real about who you are:
  • Accept constructive criticism. If someone is rude or just plain cruel about your not-so-great qualities, you don't have to listen. But if your friend, parent, or even your coworker suggests that you need to work on a certain aspect of yourself, such as your listening skills or your attention to detail, listen with an open mind.
  • Make a list of things you want to work on. Pick a few flaws you want to address and make a game plan for execution. For example, if you feel like you're being selfish, take the time to give back to your community. If you think you're a bit narcissistic, make a concerted effort to spend less time talking about yourself next time you hang out with a friend.
  • Learn to laugh at yourself. Nobody's perfect, and if you can join your friends when they tease you for your foibles, such as your impossibly messy room, or your inability to arrive anywhere on time, you'll show that you don't take yourself too seriously. Remember that you can laugh at yourself while making a note to try to improve---if you're always late, try to get everywhere fifteen minutes early, and you may actually arrive on time for once.
  • Forgive yourself. Let's face it--we've all done something we're less than proud of. Maybe you said something really cruel to a friend, cheated on your boyfriend or girlfriend, or made a major mistake at work. Whatever you did, you should recognize that it was wrong and understand why you did it, but after that, it's time to let it go. If you're so hung up on your past mistakes, you won't be able to focus on the future.Don't forget to laugh---ever. Laughter is a common remedy for all ailments, and you should always leave some room for laughter in your daily life. No matter how dire your life may seem at a given moment, never forget to take a break to laugh. Not only will you feel better, but you'll live longer. Here are some ways to remember to laugh:
  • Be just plain silly. Tell a corny joke, make a bad pun, or just dance around like a fool. Why not?
  • Watch a comedy or a comedian. This will make you laugh and can cheer you up.
  • Be around people who love to laugh. Laughter is contagious!
  • Never go a day without laughing. If you've had a really bad day and spent most of it with an upside-down smile, play with your kitty, watch your favorite comedy sketch on TV, or listen to your favorite goofy song. If you have to force yourself to laugh, do it!

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