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may Allah swt keeps you steadfast. A struggle that is continuous and attached to you every day that you have to fight it constantly is something Allah swt loves more than probably the complete win. It keeps you conscious of the presence of Allah swt constantly which is what He wants from us.

 

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2 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

Salam guys,

I just wanted to discuss a very serious disease amoungst the muslim commumity (and even non-muslims). This disease is pornography, which i believe everyone is aware of.

I don't understand why parents act so blind and live life neglecting this serious issue. We live in a world where every young man is certainly exposed to such disguisting content ( and stats prove it). Every parent must be aware that there is a high chance that their child is addicted to porn. And when someone catches this addiction, it is almost impossible to get rid of it(though there is some hope). Just because parents were born in a different time, it does not imply that their children are exactly the same.

I personally was a porn addict but through my own struggle and efforts I have managed to quit this disease(although I will still continue to keep fighting this disease till the day i die). I am a 20 year old currently and started watching porn at the age of 13 and watched it for about 6 six years, then i finally quit.

I really wished that my parents guided me when i was a teenager, because i was just a normal young man who had an immature mind and out of curiousity I started watching dirty content when my parents gave me a laptop. Since then i was a serious addict and just kept watching it over and over again. This had impacted my social life, as I never found peace within myself and would spend time with the porn world rather than reality. I could of spent so much time enjoying and doing creative things a young guy could do, rather then watching filthy stuff. I lived in misery and whenever i was having a bad day, i would watch porn to numb myself. I kept thinking this was normal and i have realised that something the society deems normal is not necessarily normal ( that is why the quran was sent down).

At the age of 15 i realised that this was all harram and started always researching and seeing many articles which had confirmed this. I then even read that the quran clearly prohibited this, which kind of worried me as i didn't want to go to hell. 

I tried and tried, but no matter how many articles i read, the reuslt was the exact same. I just did not have the will power to battle through this. I would constantly think i have so much time left to get rid of this disease, which was very misleading. I felt worthless and never even found peace when praying salah. I never even told my parents about this, which made it even more difficult.

Having said all this, last muharram ( 1 year ago) something completely changed within my life. I just started to sit down and ponder that what good have i done in life? And how depressing will it be looking back( say when im old) and saying to yourself that I spend all my years watching pornography. I won't even have time or many years left to do good. Imam ali(as) says that "every breath you take is a step close to death". This scares me so much, that it makes me realise that i am wasting literally every moment of my life. I really sat down and thought about this for more than a week, and it felt so horrible that i had severe anxiety. 

But since then I thought to myself that instead of spending time thinking about ways to quit pornography, rather spend time to build piety and your soul. I am still now contsantly faced with challanges but my love for ahlulbayt(as) is just too much for me to sin again. I am faced with challanges but my love for imam ali(as) and his way of life is just too much for me to sin. I am faced with challanges but my love for imam hussain's sacrifice is so much that one sin would hurt my soul so much.

I have started praying 5 times a day alhumdulillah. I try to give charity and have also stopped listening to music( which was a trigger). I have generally more will power and will always continue this struggle.

The reason why i wanted to share my story was to give everyone the hope to battle this addiction and free their soul.

At the end of the day, if you don't make an effort to build your soul and submit yourself to Allah, then you will never quit this addiction. 

Salam,

Keep fighting brother, May Allah (s.w.t) reward you Insha'Allah.

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3 hours ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

Salam guys,

I just wanted to discuss a very serious disease amoungst the muslim commumity (and even non-muslims). This disease is pornography, which i believe everyone is aware of.

I don't understand why parents act so blind and live life neglecting this serious issue. We live in a world where every young man is certainly exposed to such disguisting content ( and stats prove it). Every parent must be aware that there is a high chance that their child is addicted to porn. And when someone catches this addiction, it is almost impossible to get rid of it(though there is some hope). Just because parents were born in a different time, it does not imply that their children are exactly the same.

I personally was a porn addict but through my own struggle and efforts I have managed to quit this disease(although I will still continue to keep fighting this disease till the day i die). I am a 20 year old currently and started watching porn at the age of 13 and watched it for about 6 six years, then i finally quit.

I really wished that my parents guided me when i was a teenager, because i was just a normal young man who had an immature mind and out of curiousity I started watching dirty content when my parents gave me a laptop. Since then i was a serious addict and just kept watching it over and over again. This had impacted my social life, as I never found peace within myself and would spend time with the porn world rather than reality. I could of spent so much time enjoying and doing creative things a young guy could do, rather then watching filthy stuff. I lived in misery and whenever i was having a bad day, i would watch porn to numb myself. I kept thinking this was normal and i have realised that something the society deems normal is not necessarily normal ( that is why the quran was sent down).

At the age of 15 i realised that this was all harram and started always researching and seeing many articles which had confirmed this. I then even read that the quran clearly prohibited this, which kind of worried me as i didn't want to go to hell. 

I tried and tried, but no matter how many articles i read, the reuslt was the exact same. I just did not have the will power to battle through this. I would constantly think i have so much time left to get rid of this disease, which was very misleading. I felt worthless and never even found peace when praying salah. I never even told my parents about this, which made it even more difficult.

Having said all this, last muharram ( 1 year ago) something completely changed within my life. I just started to sit down and ponder that what good have i done in life? And how depressing will it be looking back( say when im old) and saying to yourself that I spend all my years watching pornography. I won't even have time or many years left to do good. Imam ali(as) says that "every breath you take is a step close to death". This scares me so much, that it makes me realise that i am wasting literally every moment of my life. I really sat down and thought about this for more than a week, and it felt so horrible that i had severe anxiety. 

But since then I thought to myself that instead of spending time thinking about ways to quit pornography, rather spend time to build piety and your soul. I am still now contsantly faced with challanges but my love for ahlulbayt(as) is just too much for me to sin again. I am faced with challanges but my love for imam ali(as) and his way of life is just too much for me to sin. I am faced with challanges but my love for imam hussain's sacrifice is so much that one sin would hurt my soul so much.

I have started praying 5 times a day alhumdulillah. I try to give charity and have also stopped listening to music( which was a trigger). I have generally more will power and will always continue this struggle.

The reason why i wanted to share my story was to give everyone the hope to battle this addiction and free their soul.

At the end of the day, if you don't make an effort to build your soul and submit yourself to Allah, then you will never quit this addiction. 

Salam,

Salaam brother, 

Praise be to Alllah that you were able to fight the addiction. Carry on until you meed your Lord. And i agree with you, this is a dangerous epidemic, i have been there and know how tough it is. I believe a huge amount of our new generation is stuck in this mud, yet the parents/adults/old generation are clueless, and they also don't know how deep and dangerous this problem is. I believe to put an end to this problem once and for all, it needs to be cut at it's source. That means there should not be any more porn or indecent material produced. Infact under an Islamic governance, such things would not take place anyways, because Porn for example would be open Zina, which would constitute to death/lashes (forget about 4 witnesses, you have a video tape and probably millions of witnesses!). 

I believe Iran has taken a GREAT step, and are truly wanting to tackle this issue. I read that they are creating their own internet (national intranet), it is like a halal internet, and it will be only inside the borders of Iran. And i have no idea why any muslim government did not do this before....anyone in this forum be serious to yourselves. How much filth is on the net, and how dangerous is it? Any believer can see a racy image (haraam), this triggers something in them, then they click on something else, then something else, then one day they are talking to random strange people, sexting, porn, cyber sex... this thing has become so common, but many adults 30+/40+ refuse to tackle or look at this issue. I don't know if they are blind. 

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44 minutes ago, YAli said:

Salaam brother, 

Praise be to Alllah that you were able to fight the addiction. Carry on until you meed your Lord. And i agree with you, this is a dangerous epidemic, i have been there and know how tough it is. I believe a huge amount of our new generation is stuck in this mud, yet the parents/adults/old generation are clueless, and they also don't know how deep and dangerous this problem is. I believe to put an end to this problem once and for all, it needs to be cut at it's source. That means there should not be any more porn or indecent material produced. Infact under an Islamic governance, such things would not take place anyways, because Porn for example would be open Zina, which would constitute to death/lashes (forget about 4 witnesses, you have a video tape and probably millions of witnesses!). 

I believe Iran has taken a GREAT step, and are truly wanting to tackle this issue. I read that they are creating their own internet (national intranet), it is like a halal internet, and it will be only inside the borders of Iran. And i have no idea why any muslim government did not do this before....anyone in this forum be serious to yourselves. How much filth is on the net, and how dangerous is it? Any believer can see a racy image (haraam), this triggers something in them, then they click on something else, then something else, then one day they are talking to random strange people, sexting, porn, cyber sex... this thing has become so common, but many adults 30+/40+ refuse to tackle or look at this issue. I don't know if they are blind. 

Thanks for the reply. I agree with you, but in some western countries I believe this would not be a solution. I really think parents need to open up to their children and have a talk with them at a certain age to tell them the consequences of this sin. Parents should not only emphasis that how will it affect them in the next world, but also in this world. I really do think that islamic countries have to take a bigger step to tackle this issue.

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16 minutes ago, ali_fatheroforphans said:

Thanks for the reply. I agree with you, but in some western countries I believe this would not be a solution. I really think parents need to open up to their children and have a talk with them at a certain age to tell them the consequences of this sin. Parents should not only emphasis that how will it affect them in the next world, but also in this world. I really do think that islamic countries have to take a bigger step to tackle this issue.

Yep, i fully agree with you. And Iran is taking that step by building their own internet! 

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13 hours ago, Haji 2003 said:

Well the cure sure isn't creating 6 threads about the subject as you have done. :furious: Lol.

Woah, you need to chill dude. It's my first time here and by mistake i created multiple threads as it said it was not submitting ( but actually did multiple times)

Nothing to really bash me about lol

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Porn is a very difficult thing to stop, you just have to keep making a du'a and act upon it. Because of you keep going back to the same mistake it will get you further from Allah.

plus, pornography is repulsive in essence, the majority of actors are filthy in nature and the porn industry is run by jews

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My biggest tip for you is that pray 5-times a day(on time) and this seriously helps alot as i have realised. Also make a habit of reading some verses from quran each day.

Honestly just force youself to go like a month without it and I promise it will become so much easier not to go back to it.

Yeah i really hope some shia lecturers do some work on pornography, because I have only seen some sunni ones tackle this issue( but benefit from their ones tho). Wael Ibrahim has quite a few tips which will help you.

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