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Saudi women campaign to end male guardianship law

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Saudi Arabian women take to Twitter to campaign against male guardianship

Women are not currently allowed to travel, get married or work without permission 

Women across Saudi Arabia have joined a social media campaign calling for the end of the guardianship system. 

People took to Twitter, using the hashtag #TogetherToEndMaleGuardianship, to show their support and demand social reform.

Currently women are not allowed to make major lifestyle decisions without the permission of their male guardians. The prohibition covers issues such as travelling abroad, getting married and wanting to work.


After the initial success of the English hashtag, an Arabic translation soon followed. The pair have since been used in over 170,000 tweets, causing both to trend on Twitter in Saudi Arabia, according to Vocativ

The campaign was promoted by Human Rights Watch (HRW), who authored a report claiming the state directly enforces the guardianship system.

“The male guardianship system is the most significant impediment to realising women’s rights in the country, effectively rendering adult women legal minors who cannot make key decisions for themselves,” HRW said in a report on the issue. 

Under increasing pressure from women’s rights activists, the Saudi government agreed to get rid of male guardianship in 2009 and again in 2013 but thesystem remains mostly intact. 





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1 hour ago, Sawa said:

Why are these women "Deviants" and "Disgusting Degenerates" ?

No, I meant both. These little girls are degenerates because they're confused. The whole goal behind this is "end male guardianship". This is the Saudis fault however, and they are the problem. They don't know how to treat women and this extreme feminism happens.

Edited by Ali al-Abdullah

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2 minutes ago, Ali al-Abdullah said:

No, I meant both. These little girls are degenerates because they're confused. The whole goal behind this is "end male guardianship". This is the Saudis fault however, and they are the problem. They don't know how to treat women and this extreme feminism happens.

Is any degree of feminism good?

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15 hours ago, Pearl178 said:

Is any degree of feminism good?


What is referred to as "First wave" feminism is perfectly legit. Those women were just trying to get what is their legitimate God-given right. The succeeding "waves" become progressively more ridiculous and absurd.

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18 hours ago, Sawa said:

Why are these women "Deviants" and "Disgusting Degenerates" ?

Salam Sawa,

They aren't. Muslim ladies are perfectly capable of making their own decisions without asking permission from their sons (if her son is her guardian). I pray and hope their sons realize this and let their Moms make their own decisions!

Also, many abused women in Saudi Arabia have to continue being abused because their abusive husband or guardian (in some cases even abusive fathers) :( won't let them go. :(

May God give the Saudi Arabian women strength and help them in this nonviolent fight for their freedoms!!!

Peace and God bless you

Edited by Christianlady

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16 hours ago, Pearl178 said:

Is any degree of feminism good?

Salam Pearl178,

Yes. :)

A feminist by the way can be male or female. Basically a feminist is any person who stands up for women's rights. My Dad is a feminist because he stands up for the rights of women, and I really appreciate him. :)

Peace and God bless you

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OCTOBER 28, 2016

“We’re not allowed to even go to the supermarket without permission or a companion, and that’s a simple thing on the huge, horrendous list of rules we have to follow.”

— Dotops, 24

“The male guardianship makes my life like a hell!! We want to hang out with our friends, go and have lunch outside. I feel hopeless.”

 Juju19, 21

“I don’t mind taking my dad’s approval in things he should be a part of. These very strong social bonds you will never, ever understand.”

— Noura

These are three of the nearly 6,000 women from Saudi Arabia who wrote to The New York Times this week about their lives.

We had put a call-out on our website and on Twitter in conjunction with the publication of “Ladies First,” a Times documentary I directed about the first Saudi elections in which women were allowed to vote and run for local office.

Saudi Arabia is an incredibly private, patriarchal society. While I was making the film, many women were afraid to share their stories for fear of backlash from the male relatives who oversee all aspects of their lives as so-called guardians. We wanted to hear more about their fears, their frustrations, their ambitions.

Saudi Arabia has one of the world’s highest rates of Twitter use, and our posts rocketed around. We were overwhelmed by the outpouring.

Most of the responses focused on frustration over guardianship rules that force women to get permission from a male relative — a husband, father, brother or even son — to do things like attend college, travel abroad, marry the partner of their choice or seek medical attention. Some women talked about the pride they had in their culture and expressed great distrust of outsiders. But many of them shared a deep desire for change and echoed Juju19’s hopelessness.

There was an angry backlash under the Twitter hashtag لاـ تقولون ـ للنيويورك ـ تايمز, Arabic for “Don’t tell The New York Times.” And there was a backlash to the backlash: “#don’t_tell_theNewYork_times that if your father rapes you and you run away, then you will go to prison, and if they let you out, then they will send you back to him.”

Excerpts from the women’s responses are below, many translated from Arabic. In order to enable women to feel free to speak openly, we gave them the option of anonymity. Where possible, we verified the identity of the respondent or location of her email. In some cases, that proved impossible.

We want to keep the conversation going. Feel free to email us.

A Life Restricted

I got into an accident once in a taxi, and the ambulance refused to take me to the hospital until my male guardian arrived. I had lost a lot of blood. If he didn’t arrive that minute, I would’ve been dead by now.

— Rulaa, 19, Riyadh

Every time I want to travel, I have to tell my teenage son to allow me.

— Sarah, 42, a doctor in Riyadh

My sister went to a bookstore without taking permission from her husband, and when she returned, he beat her up without restraint.

— Al Qahtaniya, 28, Riyadh

The door of the school where I work is closed from early morning till noon. There is a man guarding the door. Even if a teacher is done with her classes, she cannot leave. Metal gates keep us as prisoners.

— Malak, 44, Riyadh

I left the home and sought refuge with a human rights organization in Saudi. I told them about my problems with my father, and they were not able to do anything, and they advised me to go to the police to demand protection from my father. When I went to the police, my father had already informed them that I fled his home. I told the police everything, and they said that I did something wrong/committed a horrible crime in leaving the home of my father, and they placed me in prison!

The first three days I spent in solitary, then they transferred me to the general ward. There were women there who committed crimes like killing and stealing.

— Typical Saudi Girl, 23, Riyadh

An Emotional Toll

[My guardian] forbids visits to my female friends or going to shopping malls by myself. It is a complete and total isolation from all the joys in life.

— Malak, 28, Abha

It’s like I’m in handcuffs, and the society, the law, the people [are] against us. That’s why most women choose to marry in their early 20s as a way to escape, and guess what? The man she marries is no different from her brother or father.

— Bashayr, 19, Al-Hasa

He won’t allow me to work, even though I need the money. He also doesn’t provide all my needs. I can’t recall the last time he cared about what I needed or wanted. He is married to four women and completely preoccupied with them, and he doesn’t allow me to travel with my mother. I suffer a lot, even in my social life. He controls it completely and doesn’t allow me to have friends over or go to them. He forces me to live according to his beliefs and his religion. I can’t show my true self. I live in a lie just so that I wouldn’t end up getting killed.

— Dina, 21, Riyadh

It’s suffocating. I’d rather kill myself than live with it. I hold on to the smallest hope I have that someday this will change.

— H41, 19, Riyadh

The System Works for Some

Saudi women have accomplished so much but do not advertise it. There is a long history of women that have worked tirelessly to help the society and build up the country.

— Haifa, 28, New York and Riyadh

I need my father’s or my husband’s permission to travel outside the kingdom, and this is O.K. for me, as I need them to know where I am, especially with the current status of events in the world.

 Dujanah Mousa, 56, a doctor in Riyadh

I have lived for a while in the West, and I found that the life of a woman is very difficult, for she has to bear heavy burdens that only a man can undertake. Whereas in our country, the man provides all forms of comfort for the woman.

— Afnan, 30, Riyadh

When will the international media stop interfering in the affairs of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia and of its women and men and children?

 Mimi, 29, Jidda

A Future in Guardians’ Hands

I’ve had to give up on a number of educational opportunities because he (my guardian) didn’t think a doctor needed a cultural exchange program or a symposium he didn’t understand. I’ve been trying to have him let me marry the man I love for the past two years.

I’m in charge of people’s lives every day, but I can’t have my own life the way I want.

— A.M., 30, a doctor in Jidda

I had finally gotten a scholarship to get my master’s abroad. And it was my dream, which I waited and worked hard for, for many years, and I got the necessary grades. But because I would have no man — a so-called guardian — with me, my scholarship and travel were rejected. My guardian also forces me to cover my face, even though it should be a personal and religious freedom.

— Ghadah, 27, Riyadh

I’m currently struggling with my father and trying to make him approve that I go to medical school. It’s my last year of high school, and I have no idea if he’s going to approve that or not. I have no idea what my future holds. My future is in this ignorant/sexist man’s hands, and I can’t do anything about it.

— Anonymous, 18, Al-Qassim

A Supportive Guardian

I am one of the lucky women who had an amazing and enlightened father and wonderful brothers, who do not interfere in my choices and support me all the way.

Having said that, I get angry every time I travel and get asked by the passport official about my permit to travel. It just feels wrong that a middle-aged woman gets questioned every time to travel, while teenage boys are allowed to move in and out without question.

— Abeer Abdul Hamid, 50, London

The guardianship thing hasn’t affected my life because I’m not facing any problems with it due to my dad is a very cooperative man and he’s open-minded.

— Latifah, 22, Riyadh

I have the best father in the whole world. He understands what Islamic rules are, and he applies them correctly. For example, I have a goal of building my own early-intervention center for children with disabilities. My dad encouraged me to follow that dream and sent me to study here in the U.S. I know how much hard it’s been on him and my family to let me go, but he came with me first and helped me finding an apartment and all the stuff I needed. Then, when everything was going smoothly, he returned to Saudi. Therefore, I need a guardianship in my life.

— D.A., 26, New York

I like that I have a guardian who looks out for me and cares for my well-being and defends me and takes on what I can’t handle, and if I make a mistake, he will bear the punishment.

— Oum Abdulrahman, 36, Riyadh

Change Happens Slowly

Women now are doctors, engineers, scientists, entrepreneurs, working with men and having a value, and this is all in the past seven years or so. We are advancing. We are moving forward. We just need patience and a chance.

— L, 18, Riyadh

I have never felt in any way that there was something I wasn’t allowed to do. When you grow up in a society like Saudi Arabia, you get used to the rules and you work around them.

Well, years ago, I had to take my father downtown with me to get my national ID issued. In the past few years, I have had to have that renewed, and I did not need to take my father with me this time.

Things are changing. It’s subtle, but it’s there and it’s tangible.

— Reem Seraj, 42, Riyadh



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