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Bismehe Ta3ala,

Assalam Alikum

Sisters, don't fall for this, there is a dangerous precedent that is occuring with single and married sisters.

The full lecture

Starts at 38:40

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah

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salam,

if you have friends and you joke around with them and talk to them, that is not harmful. if you work in a professional setting and need to constantly text co workers. this lecture is a very slippery slope

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Bismehe Ta3ala,

Wa Alikum Assalam dear sis

If we want to have a better relationship with Allah we need to understand the fiqh rules.  You might think it is normal to joke with the opposite gender, but what does our 3ulama advise us?  Islam always tells us pervention is better than the cure.  If it is not necessary to interact with non mahram men we should avoid it so we don't fall into the haram the Sheikh mentioned in the video.

Thank you for watching.  God bless you.

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah

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On 7/29/2016 at 1:19 AM, Laayla said:

Bismehe Ta3ala,

Assalam Alikum

Sisters, don't fall for this, there is a dangerous precedent that is occuring with single and married sisters.

The full lecture

Starts at 38:40

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah

do you have translation of this lecture sis?

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The speaker is actually telling something very important which is how you use the internet and communication channels. However, one thing is to raise awareness which is very good and another thing is to start banning the little social life many people may have.

It's of course important to stay anonymous when you can, and if you aren't, keep sure not to share any little bit of information you can be blackmailed with. Friends are just a few, counted with the fingers of just one hand. It's safer not to share anything delicate. Especially if it comes to private life issues (marriage or sexual issues for instance).

As for chatting with the other gender or anyone who may be sexually interested in you, keep your limits VERY clear and don't show a level of sympathy that could be misunderstood.

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Assalam.

Maraje'e all of them have a fatwa and that's: texting man or women is HARAM if you think that you'll fall in sin or haram.

As a humble brother my advice is: try to avoid it as much as you can.

This is so serious and you know it. Just think about it and bring your exprience into mind.

Wassalam.

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On 7/29/2016 at 1:00 PM, Laayla said:

Bismehe Ta3ala,

Wa Alikum Assalam dear sis

If we want to have a better relationship with Allah we need to understand the fiqh rules.  You might think it is normal to joke with the opposite gender, but what does our 3ulama advise us?  Islam always tells us pervention is better than the cure.  If it is not necessary to interact with non mahram men we should avoid it so we don't fall into the haram the Sheikh mentioned in the video.

Thank you for watching.  God bless you.

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah

Not only mahram, even man to man, man to boy, look around the world, news with child abuse.

Simple rule: you think that you fall in Haram and sin? Avoid it.

One example Hokm of that( don't scare):

A woman with a woman under a same blanket = 80-100 lashes

3 times if happened = execution.

See? This is how serious is islam! Once again remember your experience if your age is between 15-30(or more)

Ask about colleges drama and etc.

All of those crime has a start point, think about it, don't judge the rules quickly.

How the hell happened that we have more than millions Porn websites in the world? Girls destination is to hollywood? Why? Watch some documentary.

Edited by Haimi

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On 8/3/2016 at 5:43 PM, Noorulain said:

do you have translation of this lecture sis?

Bismehe Ta3ala,

Wa Alikum Assalam Wa Rahmah,

No sister, I do not.

Brother Bakir,

If the problems with social media wasn't so prevalent, then I'm sure the Sheikh wouldn't have taken the time to address it in a Friday sermon. The fact is some girls do not have an understanding of what limits they should have with non mahrams.  A lot of haram takes place.  Sheikh began with saying when it comes to the public and face to face interaction there is still some modesty that is observed.  When this relationship goes online or on cyber space girls seem more comfortable to express themselves because at first there is no physical relationship taking place.  But once the boys lure the girls and threaten to expose their text messages, pictures, and intimate details to family members then they go ahead and meet up with the guy in order for him not to humiliate her in public.  Her reputation will be tarnished and will not longer be desirable for marriage.

Imagine how dirty the guy could be where he blackmails her even though she has repented or moved on with her life by getting married and will threaten her to show her husband if she doesn't sleep with him.  Because of her foolish acts she will be destroying and hurting many people in her life, especially if she has children involved.  When Islam prohibits the eye looking at what is haram, and then a handshake or any physical touching.  The rules are on purpose so it doesn't extend to zina.

وَلاَ تَقْرَبُواْ الزِّنَى إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاء سَبِيلاً (17:32)

I hope our younger sisters benefit from reading this so they don't become a victim of their naivety.

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN Allah

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Definitely, sister Layla. All precaution is little when it comes to this stuff. To be honest, in social and public contexts, when women are treated in a special way, it should be the first warning.

If there is no neutrality in a given gathering, maybe its not worth it to get involved in any social interaction. This requires faith, of course, and hopefully that faith is achieved through wisdom, listening to advice and observation instead of personal experiences and mistakes.

We have a beautiful narration that precisely says that happiness is with the person who listens to advice from others, and sad is the one who has to take the lesson through his own errors.

Edited by Bakir

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^^^

Insh'Allah the sisters can realize what texting can lead to Brother Bakir.  If this can help atleast one sister to prevent her from falling into haram, it is well worth it.

Bismehe Ta3ala,

Assalam Alikum.

I'm reading posts from sisters who are falling for men over text messages in the social, marriage thread.  Please sisters get your act together.  Texting is not worth your body burning.

M3 Salamah, FE AMIN ALLAH 

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