Your Father is the Reason of Your Existence

[Tasnim]

The father is the reason of the existence of a child. It means without him, we did not even exist. So, it is not surprising that the father has some specific rights over children.
According Islamic teachings, the overall strategy of children for parents should be based on being kind to them. In this regard the holy Quran has said: “…And that ye be kind to parents.” [17:23]
But the quality of doing good to parents should be searched in the traditions of Prophet and his learned progeny. The seventh Imam of the Muslims Imam Kazim said: “A man asked the Noble Prophet about the right of a father incumbent upon his child. The Prophet replied:
"He should not call his father by his name,
and he should not walk ahead of him,
He should not sit down before he does,
and should not do things to cause his father to be blamed or sworn at."
(Usul al-Kafi, v.2, p.158)

[Akbar673]

Nice to read something about the Father.

People fail to realize the importance of a good father as being equally critical to the development and growth of a child.

Paradise does indeed lie under the feet of the Mother, but you can't reach it until your Father shows you how to get there.

[notme]

49 minutes ago, Akbar673 said:

Nice to read something about the Father.

People fail to realize the importance of a good father as being equally critical to the development and growth of a child.

Paradise does indeed lie under the feet of the Mother, but you can't reach it until your Father shows you how to get there.

Sadly, our culture now degrades the value of fathering, which has resulted in a lot of men neglecting their parental duties because they don't consider them important.  Then the cycle perpetuates itself.  

My stepfather was a great parent to me.  I would give him the respect due a father because he endured hardship to raise me and my siblings.  My own biological dad is a good man, I come from him, I've clearly got his looks and some personality traits from his genes.  But I don't think of him when I think of my parents.  

I wonder what is the status in Islam of parents (mothers and fathers) who do not fulfill their parental duties.  It seems a grave injustice to the child and to the other parent if they have to pick up the slack.

[certainclarity]

On May 24, 2016 at 9:45 AM, Tasnim said:

The father is the reason of the existence of a child. It means without him, we did not even exist. So, it is not surprising that the father has some specific rights over children.
According Islamic teachings, the overall strategy of children for parents should be based on being kind to them. In this regard the holy Quran has said: “…And that ye be kind to parents.” [17:23]
But the quality of doing good to parents should be searched in the traditions of Prophet and his learned progeny. The seventh Imam of the Muslims Imam Kazim said: “A man asked the Noble Prophet about the right of a father incumbent upon his child. The Prophet replied:
"He should not call his father by his name,
and he should not walk ahead of him,
He should not sit down before he does,
and should not do things to cause his father to be blamed or sworn at."
(Usul al-Kafi, v.2, p.158)

Salam,

Your post about father is admirable , and more so a God conscious father. 

Having said , the birth generation relies on the mother not the father.

Best example is lady Maryam. God has given woman the tools to able to give birth without a man, but man has not been given the tools to have a child without a woman.

[Akbar673]

2 hours ago, notme said:

Sadly, our culture now degrades the value of fathering, which has resulted in a lot of men neglecting their parental duties because they don't consider them important.  Then the cycle perpetuates itself.  

Its getting worse and worse by the generation. As I mentioned above in order to raise a well balanced and emotionally mature child you need to have both a balanced Mother figure and a balanced Father figure. If you're missing one of the two then something usually ends up out of balance. 

2 hours ago, notme said:

I wonder what is the status in Islam of parents (mothers and fathers) who do not fulfill their parental duties.

Its definitely something they would need to be answerable for. Something like this could set not only their children back but also their grandchildren eventually. Its a horrible trickle down effect. Majority of the villains throughout history have had bad relationships with one or both of their parents.

Don't even get me started on how an imbalanced parent can do as much damage as an absentee parent.

[notme]

1 hour ago, Akbar673 said:

Don't even get me started on how an imbalanced parent can do as much damage as an absentee parent.

More even, depending on the nature and severity of the imbalance.

So to all the good fathers here: thank you. To all the young adults complaining about old fashioned or overprotective fathers, appreciate that they care. And to those who didn't have the benefit of a stable father, these advice: men, be the man your father wasn't. Pay attention to the actions, attitudes, and values of men who are admirable and mimic them. Women: when/if you think of marrying, think first of who will take care of you and future children. Don't choose a husband for looks, degrees, money. Choose a man who is what your father should have been to your mother.