Why are Marriages between Lebanese and Iraqis so Uncommon?

[Enlightened Follower]

Iraqi and Lebanese people both speak Arabic and have large Shia populations why is it that marriage between Lebanese and Iraqi people is so uncommon as opposed to other Arabs?

[A1 BOSS]

Probably because of cultural differences

[Muslimthought97]

We dont understand each others arabic and are rivals at who makes the best dishes 

[Chaotic Muslem]

They are 2 different species!

[nourani]

firstly there's not much mixed marriages amongst arabs ( not as much as there should be)

lebanese shia and Iraqi shia are the best match for each other in terms of mixed marriage, since they are two of the biggest shia populations and are very practising,

so really there should be no problem in them marrying amongst each other.

however its is ignorance that results in such marriages being uncommon, simply because they prefer their own nationality 

our generation needs to mix with and approach people of all nationalities so that we bridge the gap and understand each other better in order to increase such marriages

we need to approach our shia community with open minds and approach our parents with the idea of marrying a shia from other nationalities,

our generation needs to be truly open minded and united by encouraging and engaging in such marriages.

please give a person a chance and welcome the idea of mixed marriage and don't be afraid to approach your parents with your intention to get to know/propose to someone of lebanese/Iraqi nationality.

[Maverick1]

Iraqis tend to be more aggressive compared to Lebanese. 

I mean there isnt much mixing with iraqis with other ethnicities anyway. 

[TheslaveofAllah]

It's all about their back ward culture teaching.

in Iraqie cultures if a woman decides to marry an outsider she would be considered as a reject. People will not respect her making her feel like a sinner. Not sure if it's the same when it comes to Lebanese .

Mind you the men get to choose to marry whatever , the discrimination is just against the woman 

[Z1111]

2 hours ago, TheslaveofAllah said:

It's all about their back ward culture teaching.

in Iraqie cultures if a woman decides to marry an outsider she would be considered as a reject. People will not respect her making her feel like a sinner. Not sure if it's the same when it comes to Lebanese .

Mind you the men get to choose to marry whatever , the discrimination is just against the woman 

I really don't know where you got this from, as an Iraqi this is the first time I come across such a claim. 

[Z1111]

On 4/5/2016 at 6:22 PM, Enlightened Follower said:

Iraqi and Lebanese people both speak Arabic and have large Shia populations why is it that marriage between Lebanese and Iraqi people is so uncommon as opposed to other Arabs?

This is from my experience. I am an Iraqi, but almost everyone thinks i'm either lebanese, syrian or half that and half western convert. Hence, I get a lot of lebanese proposals. I remember a lebanese guy proposed to me, my mum was very accepting and the guy didn't mind me being iraqi at all  nor his father. Unfortunately, I was admitingly told by him that his mum doesnt want him to marry an iraqi. It was hurtful especially when I looked at lebanese people as my own. She just desperately wanted him to marry a lebanese... On top, it happened to my sister who also subhanallah met a lebanese he was accepting of it but his mum wasn't and wanted him to marry a lebanese. It partially the way lebanese people are brought up and partially is the cultural difference. For example we iraqis dont do mixed weddings with tight dresses and hijabs, unfortunately this is the norm for even really religious lebanese people. Also, growing up iraqi we never do mixed gatherings, my dad would sit with his friends and my mum would sit with her friends seperately. However, it is so normal for lebanese people have it mixed and crack jokes together. Also, lebanese women dance in weddings in front of the males, which we find extremely bad. Not to mention lebanese people love mana2ish (snacks/bakeries as food), but we eat rice dishes. Another, really bad thing we consider is their nargila habit especially in a lot of the lebanese women. As much as I love lebanese people, they are such funny people and loving people, I learnt that the feeling isnt mutual when it comes to marriage. I dont think its the cultural difference I mentionned, but maybe as a lebanese woman you want your son to marry a lebanese woman too, its human instinct. And as a lebanese man you want your daughter to marry a lebanese man too. We love each other and you will always find lebanese and iraqis mixing but once things turn serious like marriage, then lebanese people prefer to stick to their own. Iraqis have no problem at all from what I have seen as an iraqi, in fact we iraqis find lebanese men beautiful. I hope this doesn't sound biased and helped at least from my experience and people i know experiences.

[TheslaveofAllah]

On 28 October 2016 at 2:25 AM, Z1111 said:

I really don't know where you got this from, as an Iraqi this is the first time I come across such a claim. 

I have been in open discussions with Iraqis I am not saying all of them but most oppose marriages outside their culture.to an extend they would dishonour their children if they do so.

btw I am also an Iraqi I have come across people from Iraq whom won't even allow marriages outside their city and even family. I am not saying this is in every Iraqi house hold but sadly in most cases 

[Z1111]

On Thursday, November 03, 2016 at 8:51 PM, TheslaveofAllah said:

I have been in open discussions with Iraqis I am not saying all of them but most oppose marriages outside their culture.to an extend they would dishonour their children if they do so.

btw I am also an Iraqi I have come across people from Iraq whom won't even allow marriages outside their city and even family. I am not saying this is in every Iraqi house hold but sadly in most cases 

No such thing as an iraqi parent disowning their child for marrying outside their ethnicity unless the person isnt shia then obviously, but a shia of a different ethnicity? Minority

[King]

I can't tell much difference between all the Arabs so I wouldn't know the answer but I do see quite a few Pakistan-Iraqi and some Pakistani-Lebanese couples.  Mostly the men are Pakistani.  Very few Pakistani women tend to marry non Pakistanis.

[Sumerian]

17 hours ago, King said:

I can't tell much difference between all the Arabs so I wouldn't know the answer but I do see quite a few Pakistan-Iraqi and some Pakistani-Lebanese couples.  Mostly the men are Pakistani.  Very few Pakistani women tend to marry non Pakistanis.

Those in the Levant tend to be whiter.

[Haji 2003]

18 hours ago, King said:

a few Pakistan-Iraqi and some Pakistani-Lebanese couples.  Mostly the men are Pakistani.

What do these guys do for food?

[King]

5 hours ago, Haji 2003 said:

What do these guys do for food?

The women learn to cook Pakistani food of course.

[Haji 2003]

1 hour ago, King said:

The women learn to cook Pakistani food of course.

Phew. I had images of starving Bros.

[YAli]

^ lol