Interfaith Relationships

[Farooq Ali]

I fell in love with a women who is a very devout Christain and tries to keep to the Bible as best as possible. but the problems is she hates Islam and believes we are worshipping false. I tried to respect you hat as her personal view based off the media. That is until she told me point blank; Islam is sh*t and Allah(swt) is nothing. We broke up but I still have much love for her and she wants me to stay in an apartment next door o hers when I get out the halfway house. How should I handle this situation?

[zainabamy]

Assalam aleikum brother,

In all honesty I think you should break up with her for good because she is being so rude and  disrespectful about your faith and it just isn't good for your relationship with Allah (swt). And you don't deserve to have your beliefs mocked.

If you can try to talk to her about Islam and try to cover some of her misconceptions but if she continues in this way, it is much better to move on otherwise you will be so unhappy. Allah (swt) can provide someone much better for you. 

[HumanForLife]

Salam,

I cannot stand being around people who insult/mock/disrespect other peoples beliefs and I hope your the same as me. brother.

Edited January 26, 2016 by HumanForLife

[Akbar673]

39 minutes ago, Farooq Ali said:

I fell in love with a women who is a very devout Christain and tries to keep to the Bible as best as possible. but the problems is she hates Islam and believes we are worshipping false. I tried to respect you hat as her personal view based off the media. That is until she told me point blank; Islam is sh*t and Allah(swt) is nothing. We broke up but I still have much love for her and she wants me to stay in an apartment next door o hers when I get out the halfway house. How should I handle this situation?

Dump her...she's not the only woman in the world.

[Jafar moh]

I always believed that Allah has created for us an equal partner in all standards. This women you state to love not only follows a different religion(not a bad thing) but seems to be attacking your own religion and faith. Love can not be built on such a faulty basis, and it will only result in dismay. If this women is truly for you and if this love is in the path of Allah, she would have been able to accept the religion of Islam as she is not ignorant to its message. Allah knows best. Stay patient, for not every sorrow may necessarily be to your disadvantage. 

[Takalluf]

Salam Alaikum

 There's nothing more important than your own dignity - would you be happy staying with someone who does not respect you or your beliefs enough to even open her mind to them?

A relationship where one person cannot respect and accept the differences between themself and their partner is not a good one 

No two people can have the same opinions on all matters be they religious or otherwise but your partner/wife should not disrespect your views even if she does not agree with them

Also if you do decide to cut it off it's not a very good idea to stay around her

You can really only hope to forget about someone by cutting off communication  and whatnot (even if for a little while) - out of sight out of mind right? 

Just my opinion on the subject - May Allah guide you towards making the decision that is right for you 

Edited January 27, 2016 by Takalluf

[apofomysback]

If you have any bit of self-respect and respect for your religion, leave her. Love isn't about saying your daily i love you's - it's also about respect and trust. If she can't respect your faith, she can't respect you as an individual. 

Get her out of your life - like they say, plenty of fish in the sea, so buck up.

[LeftCoastMom]

My daughter and her Gentleman are working on an interfaith relationship and doing it correctly, imho. Learning about each other's beliefs and ways and seeing how they can support each other.  Last night they attended a lecture with their friends on interfaith interfaces in different communities. 

You can't do an interfaith relationship without respect and understanding. Large amounts of both. Continuing with this woman would be detrimental to you if you plan to follow your faith at all. I'd head off swiftly in the other direction. Please stay true to yourself. 

[coldcow]

Not worth it.  This "love" you feel is more than likely just lust.  If you're not really that religious to begin with, then does it really matter?  

[Chaotic Muslem]

8 hours ago, Farooq Ali said:

I fell in love with a women who is a very devout Christain and tries to keep to the Bible as best as possible. but the problems is she hates Islam and believes we are worshipping false. I tried to respect you hat as her personal view based off the media. That is until she told me point blank; Islam is sh*t and Allah(swt) is nothing. We broke up but I still have much love for her and she wants me to stay in an apartment next door o hers when I get out the halfway house. How should I handle this situation?

Your answer

 

And in one word : man up! That woman has no respect for you nor you respect yourself for allowing a trash to take advantage of you. 

Islamically, if you love her then you love her mockery then you and her are the same . You share as much sin as her just by accepting her mockery.

Edited January 27, 2016 by Chaotic Muslem

[Marbles]

This sounds more like an interfail relationship than an interfaith one.

Love will go out of the window if you keep suffering insults to your beliefs and dignity. Imo, wise up and walk away before you're sucked further into it.

[mahdi servant.01]

dear brother!

I know what does it mean to fall in love then to beak it up and how it sounds painful, but trust in God:

it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it( 4:19 )

we pray to Allah that He provides you one the best God-fearing spouse.

Amin!

[Haji 2003]

58 minutes ago, Marbles said:

This sounds more like an interfail relationship than an interfaith one.

[narsis]

Bismillah.

Salaam.

I think if you can introduce her the reality and beauty of Islam through your action, do that!

With Duas.

Narsis.

[5a49]

Let us be clear.

"You fell in love with her" But it was more sexual with her, probably a beginning to your sex life.

that is why you let things go a lot, until you realized, daaamn Im whipped. Shes talking about my faith while Im respecting her holy trinity.

Edited January 28, 2016 by John Al-Ameli