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Black Magic And Marriage

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This message is considered to brother KHALILLAH Assalam brother. Never talked in a long time. I am planning to do what you told me to do, get married. But please recommend any dating websites that I may get a wife. And do I have to get married to a muslim girl or any girl because this is a temporary marry until my problem may be fixed. And also I am becoming a Mawlana soon cant wait, im going to go study at hawza at windsor. toronto. canada. I knonw alot of mawlanas there also.

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TO EVERYONE:

Well a few days ago my mom found a piece of quran nicely cut with a blood like dryed up fluid on it hiding in our washroom. And my mom always cleans the washroom everyday and she had never seen this. We had the exact piece a long time ago. But this was a new one. And someone who hates my family is doing sorcery or black magic on us to harm us. So can you explain to me what this paper is. It is a piece of quran nicely cut with a blood like drops dryed onto it. So what is this and what is this called. and please make a dua for my family.

Wassalam

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That's really weird... if it is indeed an attempt at black magic, I'd recommend keeping the book for now and seeking a renowned Sheikh/Sayyid who deals with these sort of things and consult him asap, because sometimes (if there is indeed an affliction), there are certain things that need to be done to nullify the affliction.

 

I doubt anyone here can tell you what's going on for 1 of 2 reasons: either they don't believe black magic is legit or they are smart enough not to search about this type of demonic thing. May Allah protect us.

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Best way is to find someone is through the Sheikh (mawlana) since people do not trust matrimonial sites and parents don't like their daughter meeting someone from a dating site, it worries them.

Go to your Islamic Centre or ask any Sheikh whether he can find you someone or if he can guide you to someone who does matchmaking.

 

Asking your parents to find you someone is also a great option, they know you and know some relatives so they can help you easily, just ask them to find you someone and leave the rest to them, do ask them how their progress is going all the time in order to push them to search with more effort since parents do have a habit of just chilling and forgetting their son needs a wife.

 

Be patient, this will take some time, you will not be married in a month and it may even be years before you marry.

 

For Muta, if you know an Ahlul Kitab girl who is attracted to you and you can go out with go ahead, do Muta. Remember to not bring it up straight away, bring up Muta after a few dates may be 2 or 3 (I have been told that this is the only way).

 

You cannot find a young and never married Muslimah to do Muta with, I recommend you marry permanently if you find someone your age. If you want to do Muta approach a divorced Muslimah and ask her honestly and in secret. Ask in person not over text or phone.

 

There are websites like: Shiamatch.com and singlemuslim.com but you will not find Muta there or anywhere brother. So best to just get married permanently.

Also don't bother with the sites, the people on there are much older than you and they do not want Muta.

 

 

2: Ignore it, a piece of Qur'an is not going to put a spell on you.

 

Ugh, I don't know why these topics keep finding me. (facepalm)

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Thank you. But I read that for black magic to work the person doing it has to do something for the jin and then the jin will do what the it says on the piece of paper, which has to be blood drops placed on the paper for the black magic to work. And there were blood like drops on the piece of paper that we found. And it says on the piece of quran that we found had something to do about Ummal Baneen And she has 4 kids. And I only have a mom with 4 kids including me. So we are the same as Ummal Baneen so the jin will harm my whole family. Some jealous person is trying to harm us by black magic. I am only 14 years old and I am freakin creep out every night. Cant even go to sleep.

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Theres only one person we know that knows and how to do black magic that we know of.

And hes been to my house a couple times. And him and his family have a grudge on us from a long time so its no doubt that he did it. But I just dont know why he did it. We did nothing to their family. He is considered a very muslim person but nope he is shaytan. I am never going to pray behind a kafir again. May he go to jahannam. I only have one parent and this person wants her to die to. May God curse him. May god protect us, ya arham arahemeen

 

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we had a lot bad things happen to us because of this black magic.

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Your the one telling me to get married. Are you serious, you are like forcing me to get married. But I dont want to get married only like a date kind of thing but a married relationship with an AhlulKitab Girl and Mutah.

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Your the one telling me to get married. Are you serious, you are like forcing me to get married. But I dont want to get married only like a date kind of thing but a married relationship with an AhlulKitab Girl and Mutah.

I don't know what to say since you are so young.

 

I would say best to do Muta with one of your school friends but I could be seriously wrong here.

 

Go ask her out and do Muta after 3 dates.

 

Make sure you do not commit haram on these first dates.

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You're telling a 14 year old KID to do mutah?

 

Good lord what's wrong with kids these days?!?! dating at 14?!?

 

I have sons and if they start dating at 14 they're going to end up with broken feet!

What else can I tell him? I am also banging my head against the wall for telling a 14 year old to date.

 

But its quite common now a days, so I thought best if he gets involved with a real girl than porn and masturbation.

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ii. Does Ahlebayt reject black magic? It may be so.

 

I don't think so. Black magic is still magic, it simply means bad magic.

 

 

Brother, at 14 your hormones are spiking up. It's normal to feel what you're feeling. The best thing to do is wear yourself out by doing a sport. It'll use most of your energy. And use whats left of it to do your homework.

The reason why teenagers fall in haram these days is because they spend most of their time inside the house doing nothing but thinking. 

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salam

brother may Allah keep you safe from shayaateen.

black magic does exist and its mentioned in the Holy Book Quran.

"Suleiman (Solomon) did not disbelieve, but the devils disbelieved teaching men magic" (2:102)

also i would recommend you check each and every closet in your house, every possible place you can think of, to make sure there arent any more surprises left. also your backyard, garden, and especially trees if you have any in front of your house.

its been done on our family too. alhamdulillah we are okay. He's the best protector. however, we found these kind of souvenirs (one you found) hanging on trees, hidden in bushes.

be on your guard and do not let anyone come near your house, also if someone does come to meet you folks, be sure not to leave them alone in the living room.

may Allah bless your parents and keep you safe from the ills of men and jinn.

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I don't think so. Black magic is still magic, it simply means bad magic.

 

 

Brother, at 14 your hormones are spiking up. It's normal to feel what you're feeling. The best thing to do is wear yourself out by doing a sport. It'll use most of your energy. And use whats left of it to do your homework.

The reason why teenagers fall in haram these days is because they spend most of their time inside the house doing nothing but thinking. 

the OP should listen to this advice 

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Is it haram to date at 14. I am sinning because of not having a girl beside me.

Go get a girl then :)

 

Just get a girlfriend and then one day after you are all lovey dovey and wanna start holding hands and hugging etc then ask her to say a few words (Nikah) and then you say "I accept". :)

 

I wish I could go back to 14 and have a sensei like me, I could have been the Father of 4 kids by now.

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Salaam Ali Yaqub,

 

I'll be blunt: Don't listen to what Khalilallah is telling you.

 
You're barely into your teens, and he's barely out of his teens.

 

Don't make important life decisions based on what some guy on the Internet tells you, and don't feel forced into doing something just because he said so.  He has good intentions, but his advice in this thread is TERRIBLE.

 

Consult with your parents regarding important life issues like this, before doing anything.

 

 

For example, in this case, Khalilallah doesn't know the context and reality of your situation.  He lives in a megacity (London) in another country (England), and I'm not sure if he was even living in a western country when he was your age (that's a factor, because it influences what a person thinks normal 14-year-olds do).

 

Plus, even if he does know what normal 14-year-olds do in the UK, the UK is very very different from where you live.

 

It's just very bad advice, and he even acknowledges that possibility by saying "I could be seriously wrong here."

 

 

I'll explain some of the issues:

 

- 14-year-olds in Canada don't really date, and only a small percentage would be having sex (and generally not the "good kids"). 

 

 

- It's not like they can drive, and a lot of places don't have much public transit... so it's not like they can do much out on "dates", because they're limited geographically (but Khalilallah lives in London, where you can easily get almost anywere by transit, so that limitation may not come to mind for him). 

 

 

- Even with kids who are sexually active, their parents wouldn't be happy to know that they are... so practically speaking, even if there weren't so many other issues, you can't do mutah with any girl, because her parents won't allow it.  It's a little different if a girl is say 23 and her parents give her total freedom to do whatever she wants in that regard... but with 14-year-olds, parents DO NOT give that freedom.

 

 

- If you took Khalilallah's advice, and convinced some girl to do something without the knowledge of her parents (which would be haram), imagine what their reaction would be when they found out:

"Hey mom and dad, I met this nice boy at school, and guess what?  We're married!"

(Even if she doesn't tell her parents that way, she would tell her friends, and that news would spread.  Teenagers don't keep secrets.)

 

 

- If you live in a small town, it would also create huge problems for your family.  There are inevitably already bigots out there who are against Muslims and against people from other countries.  It would not be welcome news in a small town to hear that a Muslim kid convinced a classmate to have sex, even if some small percentage of kids your age do (again, it's generally not the "good kids", and so people will regard you as a bad kid for being among that percentage).

 

 

- Even if you live in a big city in your province, they're tiny compared to London, so again, Khailallah doesn't know your reality.  You don't have many Muslims around, and news like this would probably be found out amongst your local Muslim community, and it would look bad (because it is bad... again, 14-year-old Canadian girls don't have the freedom to get sexually active, so if you did mutah with one without asking her father's permission [which you won't receive], it would be haram).

 

 

- Don't even try going down the path of mutah right now, because it will cause you problems.  Even putting aside the issue of parental permission, not a lot of 14-year-old girls would choose to be sexually active, even if they had total freedom to do so. 

 

As such, if you try to convince a girl to become sexually active:

- You'll find almost all will say no. And they'll tell their friends.

- Even for any who agree to it, they need parental permission, which you will not receive.

 

Being in a place where there aren't many Muslims, you act sort of as an ambassador for Islam, whether you want to or not. And it will look really bad if people find out that you're trying to convince girls in your class to do mutah.

 

The bottom line is, it's basically not permissible at your age, because parents don't allow it (and with good reason).

 

 

And again, don't absolutely listen to what some random guy online tells you (even me).  Your parents know the reality of your situation and the context of where you live and many other issues, and for important life decisions, it would be good to consult with them.

 

Getting advice online is still fine, but just be very careful in acting on any advice. 

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Ahhhh. What am I supposed to do. I am sinning every week, I am trying to do something about it, and I cant!

Please Borther Bright, please help me do something about this, I cant take it anymore, I need to change, but I cant. There are no Mawlanas here not a single one!!!

Why does life have to be hard, thank you God for all my blessings!

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Ahhhh. What am I supposed to do. I am sinning every week, I am trying to do something about it, and I cant!

Please Borther Bright, please help me do something about this, I cant take it anymore, I need to change, but I cant. There are no Mawlanas here not a single one!!!

Why does life have to be hard, thank you God for all my blessings!

Avoid porn and the rest will work out.

 

When you get too tempted to control yourself and you fear you will end up watching porn then 1 sin is less worse than 2.

 

The more you watch women the more your lust will increase, so lower your gaze.

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You're telling a 14 year old KID to do mutah?

 

Good lord what's wrong with kids these days?!?! dating at 14?!?

 

I have sons and if they start dating at 14 they're going to end up with broken feet!

 

Lool I get what you mean there. If my brothers or cousins did mutah at 14.. I would totally tell their moms so she would knock some sense into them :D

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watch and learn. If you lack self control, therefore you will be a failure all your life. Similar videos with more children, utube it. What is important is the aspect of delayed gratification to obtain the larger prize.

 

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Brother, there is a secret technique you can use to stop what you are doing to yourself. 

First step: just stop. 

And that's all, really, nobody is forcing you to do it.

 

If you want to grow into a man, you must have the self control of a man. I know of the hunger, more than most, and what you are doing is to feed yourself poisoned berries to temporary seethe you hunger, the kind of poison who would make a lion lose his mane and turn him into on of those wretched looking cats with no hair.

 

If you want to grow into a man, start acting like one and do not do that which a man does not.

 

I wrote some posts in the brothers forum in the pinned thread "Getting rid of masturbation" where I shared some more tips on how to stop, inshaAllah you will find them useful.

 

Have self discipline and inshaAllah you will be rewarded with a good wife when the time is right.

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