Confidence Vs Arrogance? Please Help

[sunrise_786]

Salam all,

 

I just wanted to have some insight from an Islamic and social  perspective on self confidence and arrogance. Of course, it is imaan to have confidence in Allah. However, confidence in my self has ALWAYS been an issue in everything! It is concerning!

 

anyhow, I met someone with alot of experience in the social services field. I asked her to "read" me to see what she finds. She said self-doubt, self esteem issues and you want to be successful but there is something stopping you. 

 

My whole life, no one understood me like that. She was a Muslim aswell, I feel that Allah helped me through her.  Anyhow,I lack so much confidence, I realised what the cause was. I am scared of being arrogant...

 

Is there a thin line between the two? How can it be distinguished?

 

please help! It will be much appreciated!

Edited December 17, 2014 by sunrise_786

[Khalilallah]

Confidence is something which is within you and it shows itself naturally.

 

Arrogance is when someone who tries hard to show that he is confident, rather than looking confident he looks arrogant in this case. In reality this person is a jerk.

 

Arrogance is when someone thinks greatly of himself and tries to put other people around him down so that people might see how great he is but this is arrogance not confidence.

 

Confidence is being nice to people and doing what is right, a Confident person would do something for the sake of doing it and may be because it is good and in doing so confidence naturally radiates from him.

 

So confidence is doing the right thing. Arrogance is trying to show you are confident by boasting about yourself and putting other people down.

 

Read my signature sister.

 

Also 2 characteristics belong only to Allah and we cannot copy, one is absoluteness(irrelevant here) and the other is greatness. If someone tries to be great he will become arrogant. So Arrogance is thinking greatly of oneself. Takkabur in Arabic.

 

Confidence is having courage to do the right thing.

Edited December 17, 2014 by Khalilallah

[azy]

I Can Do...(Is Confidence) but Only I Can Do...(Is Arrogance)

[Muhammed Ali]

Confidence is knowing the truth about yourself (and trusting Allah). Arrogance is have an exaggerated opinion of yourself.

[azy]

Arrogance is something which leads us towards the discussion when we starts to deny the truth(truth of Islam reality behind the apparent realities and so on) and accept the evils and considered it as truth

Confidence is the highest level of trust on truth( truth of Islam,reality) when you got the truth and Sirat-ul-mustaeem than it must be inculcate in your personality in such a manner that shows your firm believe in God and Islam. It should be appears from your deeds. It Should be appears from your sorrows. Each and every moment of your life should represents your Trust Level In Islam and Allah Almighty

[diyaa110]

Confidence is: I can do it, I will do it.

In Islam it is: I can do it, I will do it InshaALLAH

 

So basically that's the small difference, or the big difference, due to which a Muslim is supposed to have confidence without arrogance. In other words, our source of confidence is Allah and not our own selves.

 

In Islam, confidence is moving forward with faith in God, it is about acting upon our knowledge, while acknowledging that our success and victory belongs to Allah.  

Islam teaches that if you don't know something then find out, if you know something than act upon it. Therefore, seen as a requisite for turning knowledge into action, confidence is a necessary and praiseworthy trait in a Muslim. So whatever it is that you want to do in life, do it with this confidence that you're utilizing your knowledge by acting upon it. If you have doubts then learn more. And when you achieve success, stay humble.

[blu115]

It could also be Arrogance is the result of people thinking highly of themselves, insecurities and fears. For some kind of kind of stupid reality they create their in own heads to be achieved, they must boast and project and put others down. I find it to be a form of insanity.

[StarryNight]

(salam)

 

Arrogance is treating people with disdain and making them feel less.... you can have a good self-esteem and be a very nice person and kind to everyone. I believe both are very different because the arrogant attitude is very evident, it is when you focus on the "I" publicly, I mean even though you know you have the ability to perform such activities, a confident person has no need to brag about it, but the arrogant will. 

[peace seeker II]

arrogance is secretly feeling inadequate and insecure. so to compensate one is mean and unjust, to create false impression of strength. the air around arrogant people is heavy and uncomfortable and tiring.

 

confidence is basically being relaxed and content with oneself, which reflects on others. one is comfortable with ones weakness, and deals with it instead of trying to cover it up on others expense. the air around confident people is calming, and trustworthy.

[:Sami II]

confidence is when the wives and the mother in laws speak and get anything they want from me .

arrogance is when I refuse .

Edited December 18, 2014 by :Sami II

[Sara Schin]

The demand to be loved is the greatest of all arrogant presumptions.

[Sara Schin]

confidence: It is easy to smile in the face of a challenge ,when we believe in ourselves that we wont back down. 

[hasanhh]

(salam)

 

Two points to add:

 

This question was a matter of public (intelligentsia) debate in the 1970s. One specific quote I remember is from Henry Kissinger who said "taking any senior leadership position is an act of arrogance".  Other people answered yes-no-huh? to this question...or just flap-jawed their way through the discussions.

I would add, it is arrogant when you believe you know enough to run-it-all, but it is confidence when you know you know enough to keep things organized and moving.

[sunrise_786]

Thank you everyone! The thing is fear of arrogance is what has been stopping my confidence. It is slow progress but your answers are great! May Allah bless you all :)

[eThErEaL]

Salam all,

 

I just wanted to have some insight from an Islamic and social  perspective on self confidence and arrogance. Of course, it is imaan to have confidence in Allah. However, confidence in my self has ALWAYS been an issue in everything! It is concerning!

 

anyhow, I met someone with alot of experience in the social services field. I asked her to "read" me to see what she finds. She said self-doubt, self esteem issues and you want to be successful but there is something stopping you. 

 

My whole life, no one understood me like that. She was a Muslim aswell, I feel that Allah helped me through her.  Anyhow,I lack so much confidence, I realised what the cause was. I am scared of being arrogant...

 

Is there a thin line between the two? How can it be distinguished?

 

please help! It will be much appreciated!

Arrogance is based on a falsehood (an incorrect understanding of our self, our qualities and abilities).  Arrogance is when we over estimate our self.  Confidence is based on truth (a correct understanding of our self, our qualities and abilities).  Confidence is when you neither over estimate yourself nor underestimate yourself.  False humility is when you know your worth or value but you deliberately under estimate yourself.  A person who is truly confident is always truly humble and is able to see himself the way he really is.       

Edited December 31, 2014 by eThErEaL